can someone help me?

Question

Ok well i have a huge problem.....i was really close to this girl for a long time...well recently we had a falling out because she straight up told people that i was a psycho b**** and not to talk to me....then i find out that she spread my business all over the school! and now she triess to be nice to me...what do i do!?!?!? any advice? it;'s hard not to talk to her because she is also mycousin....but you have to be pretty shallow to do something like that right!?!??!?! What is ya'lls opinions? should i talk to her or just drop her because this isnt the first time this kind of stuff has happened....any advice?

Answer 1

HOW WEIRD...ive recently been having the same problems between one of my friends. actually...they sound exactly alike..both b***ches. okay...so this is how it worked out for me..you can base your decision on this. so i tried to be friends with her..i tried and tried and tried. and every time i did, i just got shot down. she started crap about me behind my back and it got worse every time. so i stopped talkin to her for like, a month ish...and then i started to be nice to her again. she really didnt have any friends cuz everybody hated her and her bf and her broke up. so yah...i was bein nice and all...well it pretty much BLEW UP in my face. it happened again, same ol crap. just more of it. so yah, my suggestion...DROP THE BI***!!!!!


p.s.i love you!! hehe

Answer 2

Kay, if she told you that you were a bad person, then leave her alone because whoever says that, is stupid. Y'know?
Sorry, this doesn't help does it?...
By the way, what do you mean by spreading your business?

Remember this, though: Don't act evil for evil...
if you don't get what that means, if someone says you are a
****** ***** then don't act like that back to her. Be the bigger person and don't talk to her. See what she does. And if she says something to you, pretend she isn't even there. Don't look or talk to her... She'll want you back as a friend!
Good Luck.
kthxbi<3.

She has proven that she is not trustworthy, so don't say anymore information to her, and don't get close to her anymore.

Also, tell your parents about this. I mean, you guys are related.

Answer 3

i have this same problem! except hmmm its about ME and well i never said the things that she was told i said. and if i did then i dont remmeber it and i know i didnt say it...b/c ive been all caught up in the hospital and all this b.s. so yeah but her "best friend" was also very close to me until i found out shes 2 faced like most anderson ppl and trying to say that i said all this stuff when alot of witnesses in an ag class can prove that shes the one saying it and somehow...even though i wasnt there, i "said" it....ppl are crazy huh??

and honestly if i had a problem with someone i at least attempt to talk to them about it so.....

my advice is to probably just believe what you want to believe but i think deep inside you somewhere you KNOW the truth...

Answer 4

I would tell her that she is related and until recently you considered her a good friend.

Now that she decided to try your friendship, she succeeded in making you not trust her as a friend anymore. Put her in her place.

Tell her how she made you feel by those things and then turns around and betrayed that trust you had in her. Everyone makes mistakes and may say things they don't really mean. It is called respect not to gossip around things just to make themselves popular. I hope you can work it out and get an apology. Best wishes to you.

Answer 5

Since she is your cousin, you'll probably be put in situations where you'll be together. Be cordial, but I would never trust her with any sensitive information or be close to her again. She has proven that she cannot be trusted.

She may be trying to get close to you to find out more of 'your business'.

Find friends that do not know her. Expand your circle of friends so that it doesn't include her (at least very often).

Answer 6

"Burn me once, shame on you. Burn me twice, shame on me." What this means is that, since she's done this more than once, she thinks she's got unspoken permission from you to do it repeatedly. Cousin or not, drop her like a rotten, smelly potato. And tell your parents what she's done to you, so they have a heads up at the next family reunion.
However . . . before you drop that traitor, tell her what she's done to you (that you know about) and how it makes you feel. Then tell her you want nothing more to do with her . . . ever.
(Sounds like she has problems with boundaries and understanding cause and effect.)

Answer 7

if she does stuff to you once she'll do it again you can't trust her she wants something from you now she's not trying to be friends w/ you she's trying to get something from you. you can say hi to her only if she talks to you don't show her that she has power, she has power over you because you can't get over the fact, rember you a girla nd you go through emotinal times this will pass if you don't make the battle worse.

Answer 8

This is part of lifes experiences. Learn what you can from this and move on. Remain friends, just do not share a much.

Answer 9

If i was in the situation, being a relative, I would keep things civil. Explain that you must be acquaintances because your are cousins, but that you do not trust her and will not consider her a friend any more. Be the bigger person.

Answer 10

I believe you should talk to her about the situation and tell her that if she did in fact spread the rumors that you don't appreciate it. Then just give her another chance and if it happens again then you'll know what to do.