I mean I love him don't get me wrong, and he loves me...but we want to wait to get married until we both get out of college and have enough money to get married in Ireland. We still want to be togehter though. We've been together a long time and we never fight and we are so in love so we're not going to break up. What can I do?
2007-12-18 06:45:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are so happy then what is the problem? No one should tell you ...when it is the right time to get married. I quess I am just not understanding the problem enough to see what the deal is.
you don't have to get married until you all are ready for it. Go ahead an live together....
2007-12-18 06:52:49 · answer #1 · answered by Gayisha 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you over 18? If so, you are free to make a decision about whom you want to be with and in what capacity. If it makes sense under your circumstances to live together - then discuss it and make sure you are both on the same page when it comes to your relationship. If both of you understand the other person's goals and agree with them, come to a decision you are both happy with. If you ask me, you shouldn't marry someone *just* because you want to live together. If both of you are on the same path (for example, both of you see marriage in your future), then living together is a logical step to take. It can only be a problem if one of you sees moving in together as a step towards marriage, and the other person is only doing it because it's convenient. As long as your goals are the same, there's nothing wrong with joining forces and pursuing them together. Good luck.
Look at it this way: living together isn't going to make your marriage worse just like not living together will not guarantee a happy marriage. Marriage is about many things, and there are a lot of factors that can make or break it; look at the whole picture.
2007-12-18 15:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a saying, "People can get married for all the wrong reasons, and still stay together, happily, for all the right reasons."
If you are truly wanting to do the right thing, instead of living together, you can get married. If you really do love him, and vice versa.
What is keeping you from marriage? Committment? Fear?
While it is a smart thing to do to wait until college is through, it is also a common misconception to "wait to have enough money." Life seems to have a way of throwing a curve to continually delay what is the right thing to do. :-)
2007-12-18 15:01:58 · answer #3 · answered by splashdesign238 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not. Do not get married just to live together. Get married because you know you want to spend the rest of your life with this person. While I am not an advocate for "shacking," I also do not think it is smart of anyone to rush into a lifelong commitment like marriage for random reasons such as making it okay in your eyes to live together.
2007-12-18 14:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by Best 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my boyfriend before we got married. You two sound like you want to marry, but now is not the time for you. I see no problem in waiting until you have the money.
2007-12-18 14:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley M 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you keep making excuses you'll never do it. I here people come up with every excuse in the book of why they are waiting! Love won't let you wait, only uncertainty! You can't be married and in college? If you want to be put on layaway then go for it!
2007-12-18 14:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by Lv Dr. 4U 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That doesnt make sense. If youre that compatible with each other, why would you wait to get married? All youre doing is sucking life out of what could be a wonderful marriage with this BF/GF crap. Why do you want to wait, So both of you can sleep around with other people? It just doesnt make sense.
2007-12-18 14:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by layn da smckdwn 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can just live together and not be married. I have tons of friends like that they even have kids too. Its not a big deal unless your family is really old fashioned or religious and you don't want to make them mad.
2007-12-18 14:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
no one says that you have to get married to live together.
2007-12-18 14:48:09 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
damn me and my boyyfriend have been together for awhile and he asked me last nite to marry him and i told him you knoe i really want to but i am still young i am only 15 and barely in 9th grade so yea i dont know what to do either....... but i told him i wanna live on my own when i turn 16 and he said he would live wid me and stuff...... so i told him last night i would marry him but we are just waiting till we get out of school and college and stuff
2007-12-18 15:00:43 · answer #10 · answered by cutie wid a booty 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋