I took in my 16 year old niece to live with me. Her mom, my sister, put a restraining order against her that doesn't expire until she's 18 as a result of a fight they got in. Since I didn't want her to become a ward of the state of NY I told her she could live with me when I moved to GA. I signed up for food stamps b/c I brought home very little money. In the end, I had to move back to NY to get work and leave her w/my sister in GA until I could enroll her in Job Corps. I crashed my car, so I got rides to work. I then found out that my niece had been skipping school and was flunking. She was also skipping her tutoring sessions. My electricity got cut off and the same day I was fired from my job. Now that I'm in NY I have a job but am staying w/friends. Should I get a weekly room to rent for the both of us to live in while I enroll her in Job Corp and bring her up here? My sister wants her out of her house in GA. Her mother still won't take her in. Get a room? Let her go?
2007-12-18 05:57:50 · 9 answers · asked by fairydancer2003 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
If she wants to have a better life, then she should be making an effort. Skipping school, doesn't make it seem like she's trying to hard. Explain to her you can not keep picking up the pieces when she screws up. Tell her, and say it firmly, that if she lives with you, she will be attending some type of school. She'll get a job so she can help you out with the rent. It sounds like she may need a little tough love. I don't think her mother did the right thing by just putting her out. I don't think she wanted to deal with her. Best of luck to the both of you.
2007-12-18 06:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
TeTe you have done your best, your life situation isn't the same as when you started and she hasn't lightened any of your load. Sometimes, many times, hell often, we do have to say enough is enough. But then I can't tell you when you have had enough, only you can do that. I say Job Corp, all the way. She has to learn that every time she shows her little azz, there isn't always going to be someone there to cover it. You can let her go and you can let her go, but Job Corp would teach her something and hopefully give her that other chance. She is 16, the City and surrounding areas can be harsh, but then I am sure you have gone through all of that. Put her in prayer and send it to God, I had to do it with my daughter, you do have to let go. You took her when her Mom didn't want her and she shows no gratitude, not that you were looking for any, but damn. Sorry, it urks me when young ladies and men take given chances and blow them. I will keep you and her in prayer and that is where you should put it. God Bless.
2007-12-18 06:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, what you need to do is run out and buy a great big can of whoopup, and beat her hind end. You felt sorry for her not really knowing the entire situation at home. You thought she'd treat you with respect. Instead of enrolling her in job corps, send her to a military boot camp where they WILL NOT HESITATE to open up that can.
2007-12-18 07:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should get a room, a close friend of mine got kicked out by him mum because his step dad and him had a fight and then he want to live with his auntie and then his auntiekicked him out cos shes having a baby soon and wont have time for my friend who is 17, i have never seen him so unhappy and he is depressed and i'm worried he'll commit suicide, i am very worried about him and when i read your question it reminded me of him, so please let your niece stay with you, i know that everyone has there faults and noone is perfect but please let her stay becuse noone in the world deserves what my friend has been through and i wouldnt want anyone to
2007-12-18 07:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with may08. Sit her down and tell her that since she is old enough, she should get a part time job to help support. Tell her that you aren't making enough money to ssupport the both of you.
2007-12-18 07:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by Will 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your niece needs to be sat down and explained to that if she wants to have a roof over her head that she will obey the house rules. If not she will be turned into child protective services. You're doing her a huge favor by letting her stay with you.
2007-12-18 06:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
get a room wow iam sorry about your case , she sound she been thru alot that why she acting up , she need to know that some love her , and care about she might get preg. really soon that what happen to me . best of luck
2007-12-18 06:28:28 · answer #7 · answered by dont like me "BITE ME" 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my friends dead cause he took in ms trouble she cut him in half with a shotgun.
if she doesnt want the help let her go. they have institutions for that
2007-12-18 06:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by crazzijimsmith 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
send her to me
2007-12-18 06:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 9⤋