My daughter is only 6, but I've already thought about this. I think 16 is a good age. That's what my parents did with me and for some reason, I feel as though this is a good age.
What do you think and why?
2007-12-18 05:14:02 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It's A Boy: My parents were the same way. They always had to meet the boy (which at the time was soooo humiliating for me *lol*) and they would talk to him...ask him pretty nosy questions, and have to approve him. I would do the same with my daughter.
2007-12-18 05:34:20 · update #1
I am 13 and have never been on a date. My mother knows i'm mature and she is letting me decide. I might not date until college though. I am very different than most people. I'd say 16 is a good age but a lot pf people start really young like 10 and that's ridiculous. I think it is a good age because by 16 most teens are mature enough to know not to do anything stupid. I see it more of a precaution to girls than guys. There are a lot of older teen men that might influence your daughter into doing bad things. But you seem like a very nice person so i'm sure your going to raise your daughter right to where dating isn't her number priority. There are tons of peer pressure out there but your daughter will make the wise choice when she comes upon it. I hope it helps!!
2007-12-18 07:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by Sasquatch 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think 14 is a good age to go out on a few dates, but I don't think you need a serious relationship in any way until you're 15 or 16. I feel like it might be good to start a little bit at 14 so they can learn about the dating world, but only if the parents meet their date and approve.
2007-12-18 09:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I agree, 16 sounds good.
In high school, it's hard though. Everyone seems to be dating (as early as 12/13). It's not even 'dating' for most people, it's just an excuse to say they have a boyfriend and look cool or whatever (but it's not about that...and soon they will realise). They think just because you are like 15 or whatever and don't have a boyfriend, it's because you can't get one.
So anyway, more to the point. I think 16 is a good age because where I live (N.Ireland) 16 is like the big step. You can do things like leave home, leave school, have sex etc. I'm not saying you should do any of these things though!
2007-12-18 07:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by J| 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well I am 16 and honestly I would say 16 is a good age but...now days, so many people are coming up pregnant and having sex around the age of 12 and 13 which I'm sure she will be exposed to at school and amongst friends. Not saying you should encourage her to go find a boy at age 13 but I would explain what relationships do lead to and of course talk to her about sex at an early age but no matter what you say to her,sex will always be HER choice so persuade her into the direction of saying no and if you even suspect that she is doing or having any type of intimacy that is close to sex, provide her with protection and again remind her of the consequences of sex(even if it seems a little weird to provide your little girl with condoms you will ALWAYS know that she will be protected) . I know this is a little stretched for the question of dating, but I've seen so many things happen to kids at a young age and my goal is to try to prevent that as I understand because I am amongst them
2007-12-18 08:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by Whitney D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think 16 is good, too, I am fourteen and I have had boyfriend since the end of my 13th year... (weird way to put it)
but yeah, it is like I am not ready, I am failing every class not keeping up in school and I think thats why... so many things have happened with relationships and boys this year, I really wish I would have waited to start dating a little longer, yet I like having a guy being there and still have a boyfriend anyway...
2007-12-18 10:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by Secret 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think 16 is a good age because at 16 most people start to mature. And I think that mature 16 y/olds are capable of handling relationships as long as hi/her bf/gf is mature as well. Also, it would be nice if the parents know about it to build trust between parents and children
2007-12-18 05:34:39 · answer #6 · answered by rejy 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I was never told when I could date. My first "boyfriend" I was 7 he was 8 and it wasn't anything other than just a crush really I liked him he lived up the road we played together all the time but he moved away about a year later. Then I just had "boyfriends" that I said were boyfriends but it was just nothing. My first real boyfriend I had I was 12 I would say that is OK but I would never let them be in a room with closed doors or with out good supervision boy or girl I know what happend to me and I would never wish it on anyone. I would wait till they are mature enough and boy or girl know self defence.
So I would say that it would depend on the child
2007-12-18 06:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by moon_star_black 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
16 is a good age. I have a 4 year old, and that's what my husband and I have decided on, as far as a dating age. Kids grow up a lot faster these days though. However we also decided that our kids will be able to go on group things at age 13, without an adult present at all times. (movies, six flags, etc.)
2007-12-18 05:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by txgirl70818 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Note all has a LOT of parental support and you teching sex ed dutch style (ie weekly from age 5 covering every askpect of sexa and relationships most before puberty
12-end 13 basic dating ie kiss, cuddle, puppuly love, (think disney relationships)
Lots of condom practice and kid alreaddy on long term contrception even though hopefully little need for it
14 - 2nd base is more serious kissing with feeling up.. the clothes should stay on and lots of dating and getting the hang of realtioships and feelings involved
15-17 3rd base ie hands under clothes, strip poker, things like blowjbs, exploring and learnign about each other and going steady
late 15-17 Id expect them to be fully sexaul but still 9thin that 70s show) very much in need of parents looking after them till 18 so prepared for sexaul realtipships in uni or abroad with no parental support.
each stage preparation for the next.
this is the ideal... I expect them sexual from 14-17 and would have prepared them for it long beofre that
Thats girls... I expect boys to be runnign years later then the girls and mostly awkard and struggling
2007-12-18 11:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I think 14. That's when you are a freshmen in high school. Many kids like 11, 12, 13 think that they are ready. They have like little relationships that last like 2 weeks. I think 14 is a good age.
2007-12-18 08:18:58 · answer #10 · answered by dαncєr<3 [єrín] 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋