The bad things
he is alot younger than me
she had a baby girl with him while we were together
The good things
He has told me all about this other girl
He says he loves me
We seem to talk about everything, especially this other woman
facts
been together for 1 1/2 years
he sees her on the weekends, to see his baby
he got married to her last week so that she could fix his papers ( illegal alien )
i dont know what to do
Thanks for
all honest answers
2007-12-18 04:53:39 · 18 answers · asked by Solitaire 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Well, that depends... Is he trustworthy in his love for you, is he trustworthy full stop?
You need to come down to thinking about the logic of it all, and how its actually all going to work out in the future, in terms of all three of you.... How do you feel about him having a baby? What would be expected of you? How much time will he be spending with the babies mother and can you stop from getting jealous about that fact?
You need to think not just about how great a time you have together, but start thinking about all these problems, from a distance. Try to take a step or two back from your heart, and see whats there, for you. Is he that great or are you just swept up in it all? Are you potential life partners or just a fling? Is he so great that he is really worth all that trouble?
You need to follow your head, and not just your heart on this one. But if you have come to terms and are OK with all the possible outcomes, then go for it because the problems should not get in the way of love and happiness ... So long as that is what it will bring you...
xox
2007-12-18 06:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering what he might have told this other girl about you ( or if he even did). Sounds like he might make a wonderful friend. But he is married, even if it is for convienance, and that makes him somewhat unavailable. Are you looking to be the "other woman"? Or do you want more? For some people, they can live this way indefinately. Only you can decide if you are one of those people.
Personally, I wouldnt be able to accept his sleeping with someone else when we were together. But thats just me.
2007-12-18 13:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by Dottie928 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The writing is unfortunately on the wall.....and the old cliche is absolutely true: IF you love someone, set them free. If they come back to you, then they are yours. If they do not, they never were.
It sucks and I know nothing really makes you feel better, but you just have to try to be good to yourself and walk away knowing you will be better off either way.
Good luck!
2007-12-18 13:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by Teetana 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He cheated on you, had a baby with someone else, got married. HELLO!!! He is cheating on her with you, not on you with her! Of course, you should leave! Even if he leaves her, which he won't now because of the baby, he will cheat on you again. Have some self respect & move on! He's a jerk!
Anyone can say "I love you". He hasn't shown it. Hear it with your eyes & heart, not your ears.
2007-12-18 13:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by Pogo peeps 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to fight for someone if he doesn't feel the same way about you. Because that's all you will ever do is having to keep fighting for him. I say let him go.....you want someone who wants to be with you and not always looking around to see if someone who is better is around.
2007-12-18 13:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Babygirl! please! let that go nothing good will come from it trust me i was in a situation similar and i ran too late but i am proud of my lil mama. that is the best part that came out of the relationship but he is and has never been there for me or her since she was born. leave it will hurt but everyday will get better trust me!!!!!!! You should not have to fight for him, and just by you questioning it should tell you your answer! goodluck hun
2007-12-18 16:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by Yanni 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If YOU really love him (look in your heart, not your head and not your loins) then fight for him until you run out of love. When you do run out of love (and it will happen if the love is not returned) it will be real easy for you to walk away.
2007-12-18 13:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by SainTtothEeVE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're kidding us, right?
The answer is crystal clear. Why are you even asking? He's left you girl, and was no doubt just using you before, like his is this other girl.
What is the matter with you?
2007-12-18 13:02:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the turth, no jokes. Let Her Have Him. If he was a man he would handle it himself. You are in a battle that will break your heart. Never fight over a man!! They aren't worth it if they can't handle it themselves.
2007-12-18 12:59:46 · answer #9 · answered by Dovey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no,you shouldnt fight for him,you deserve someone who is completely yours and love just you,he is not worth fighting for,if he loved you,he wouldnt go with that other girl,and who knows maybe he would do it again,i really am sorry for your pain,i know its hard but you need to move on and forget him!~
2007-12-18 15:03:16 · answer #10 · answered by ₪₪₪AbsolutE₪₪₪ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋