Is my wife not intrested in me?

Question

Me and my wife have always had sex once a day at least for past 5 yrs. Now she has gotten very closed off to everything including me. She says she wants to have sex but then comes up with a reason not to at that time then say later and keep doing that untill she is asleep for the night. I own my own buisness and in winter work at home so I am with her all day long. Is she just sick of me? I'm confussed help me get some or understand whats going on.

she actually has lost weight and feels better about herself than ever and I also make sure she gets hers sheis different this way she has an orgasam 2 or4 times before I ever get mine and she can't take fore play she always is the one going straight to the deed

Answer 1

Over sexualization as way to compesate for the loss of emotional securitiy. In other words she depended on sex as a way to show her love for you and vice versa. Your over standarzation has nomalized the act and turned it into a ritual. Were it has only one meaning over the course of the 5 years. Its expected, thats it, it isn't needed, isn't even wanted, which makes sense considering your wifes change in herself. See you've been lied to and you've ran with that lie for the past 5 years, sex isn't the main part of a relaitonship and in no way gaurenttees the love of the other individuals. She's maturing past the need for simple screwing, you need to make love, talk to her about your conserns in a honest and heartfelt way and this might happen. You keep getting jealous about it and blaming yourself, well is only going to push her away. Realize she's maturing and you better mature with her. 1 time everyday for 5 years, yea, its a disfunction buddy, not a testament of love, I'm afraid, is what my point is. Now she is finding other reasons to love herself, chances are she's found other hobbies, other distractions, and other things that make her feel better then just getting herself off. So talk to her, the pleasure of sex increases with the feelings you put into it, with the maturity of the relationship which is based on yoru level of relating, and right now, she's a stranger, go tlak to her, find out whats going on. Sorry, but socieites belieft in the power of sex has caused many problems like this, sex is an extention of the relationships, not the relationship per-say.