My husband loves me but he wants me to lose my weight. I am 23. I hate it when I think that he dont like my physical appearance. Does he mean that I am ugly or he just wants me to get more beautiful?
P.S: I feel I am beautiful in face but bit fat in my hip and waist area. Does that really matter in love?
2007-12-18 04:17:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am 63 kg (approx 10.5 stone) I am 163 cm tall.
2007-12-18 20:13:43 · update #1
you are married he should love you for you and not the looks of you
2007-12-18 04:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by ღKrissyღ 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He is not very tactful about this! Losing weight will make you healthier and feel much better about yourself, but you are not ugly! I am sure you are a beautiful girl. He is probably a bit worried that you are still so young and already putting on a lot of weight. He fell in love with the entire package, and now that package is going away, it's almost as though he has been cheated! If he expects this from you, expect the same from him - but for all the right reasons of staying healthy for yourselves and any future children. Maybe you two could start a healthier lifestyle together? My spouse and I eat very well and go to the gym together, we are each others support system. If one doesn't feel like going to the gym, the other pushes them to and vice versa. We both see the benefits of being fit, and are a very happy couple because of this.
What!!!?? Do I have to say "it's okay to not love yourself and allow yourself to get super fat, live miserable, and die young" in order to get a thumbs up?? Lets get real here, we know all about the risks of not living a healthy lifestyle and the benefits of having a healthy lifestyle. Body, mind, and soul guys - it's time to turn things around.... there is no excuse for obesity, it is a sickness we must take control of before it controls our lives.
2007-12-18 12:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by Betty 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think that weight shouldn't matter unless it is causing health issues. My husband loves me no matter what. I was about 105 when we married and I am now 133. So what if I gained some weight. It doesn't change who I am on the inside. I think that if you want to loose weight then go for it, but do it for you, not for someone else!
2007-12-18 12:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am attracted to my husband, a big man. I would like for him to lose weight for health reasons. Your boyfriend wants you to grow old together. Why don't you get him a gym membership for xmas and you two will have a great time spending lots of healthy and quality hours together.
Best wishes.
2007-12-18 12:44:45 · answer #4 · answered by heartsarebad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why take it the wrong way, why can you see that he care enough about you and want you to improve your health by losing some weight? What is wrong? you put these negative thoughts in your own head. Look in the mirror and see if you truly need to shed some weight and how much you will feel afterward.
2007-12-18 13:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he wants you to lose a little weight. My husband tells me that I'm beautiful but tells me up front he wants me to be "healthier" so I lost 30 pounds this past three months and he tells me that he is so proud of me and that I look much better and it shows in my attitude and the way I feel about life has been a lot more postive too. But he still gets on me about everything I eat or do or say, he is a little bit controlling.
2007-12-18 12:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by Behave 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
A persons weight shouldn't matter in love no. I don't think he thinks your ugly or else he wouldn't be with u
Is it maybe he's concerned about your health in porportion to your wieght and maybe he's expressing it the wrong way
Guys tend to have foot in mouth syndrome at time they tend to stick both feet in their mouth at times
Easy Solution Here Talk to him
You May be making something out of nothing
2007-12-18 12:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by rebel_angel031 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
We as women take everything to an extreme. I personally believe he is just saying it in a good way...he wants u to be healthy. You should always believe you are beautiful regardless if someone else thinks otherwise.
If this bothers you so much you should just ask him what he meant by that. I am pretty sure it was a misunderstanding.
Good luck!!!!
2007-12-18 12:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by nydp02 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Honestly, I really do not think anyone has the right to tell anyone they should lose weight, gain weight, look a certain, way, talk a certain way, etc. It shouldn't matter. If you are happy with you, then that should make him happy. If you are unhappy with a certain thing about yourself, and YOU want to change it, then he should support you in that.
2007-12-18 12:23:19 · answer #9 · answered by nonameblonde 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
We should stay close to what we married at , or try to tone up. The answer to your question is No it should not matter,unless you've gained 60-70 lbs then yes it does matter....
2007-12-18 12:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by keithleyjustin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't u just hate it when the man you marry speaks up and says something like.."well, it wouldn't hurt if you lost a little weight". mine even called me "stove pipe legs"
arrrrgh, infuriating.
don't lose weight for him, do it for yourself. guys are guys, ya he wants you to look the best u can, women are a trophy in a sense. what guy wouldn't want a beautiful woman on his arm.
but he doesn't think your ugly.
he could be thinking about your health too, (but i doubt it, don't sound like your obese).
find something to pick on him about. what goes around comes around!
good luck
2007-12-18 12:27:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋