Do you know anyone who gets along with their mother-in-law?

Question

Wow! A lot of people have responded and I am pleased to see that some MIL's are awesome. One of you said that I should ask my future daughter-in-law if she likes her MIL and this was actually my reason for the question. I myself have two young sons and I have wondered lately if it is inevitable that I will pick at my DIL. It's good to know that the MIL/DIL relationship does not have to be what I have observed over the years. I'm sorry for those of you who have the crappy MILs and a little jealous of those who have the good ones. Thanks for the answers.

Answer 1

I do! :o)

I mean, I get along with my MIL very well. Granted I only see her once every couple months..

Answer 2

YES- me
ALL three of them. Oh yes you read right! All three of them.
How- is simple appreciate them ( not matter what), be kind and gracious, set boundries upfront.

How you ask? Ask them! Enlist them to help you, learn all their tricks, tips, ideas and if those "should" ever "cross their path". Remind them that you go the great idea from someone who know exactly how YOU feel and will love and respect "My choice for my immediate family" considering that I took everyone elses thoughts into consideration.

I have shot my own MIL with her OWN ammo so many times, she now bypasses me to go to my husband and he knows, WHO the woman in this house is and literally says, " You need to ask the brain", you know how it is Mom." If the Momma isn't happy, then the Dadda isn't happy at all.

Recently, His biological mother's current husband died. She is very needy and emotional. [even thou the marriage was horrible and he was not a very good man or husband] She is Alone and afraid. Totally understanding! So I work very hard to send her a card a week, a call a day (to listen) and we try our best to get to see her more often and invite her out more.
We have weined down on the calls, to allow her to call US..

We have strong opinions on what "we feel" she should do, and again, I use the information she gave me, to help her make those choices, "a tool she taught me". And actually say, well, I think you would have given me the same advice and I think I can relate to how you would "Feel" if we made this "Choice". You know?!

IT really works, Oh we have our good days and our bad days, yet its clear. In your house your the WOMAN, in her house, She is the Woman. You need to set those boundries and have your husband embrace and help enforce them.

I have found the "do unto others -exactly" is the best rule.
I also "don't see" fault as much as they do, and point that out.

Answer 3

There are several people that get along with their MIL. I know I do. But unfortunately there are some that can be a B@#*! Remember, she is a woman! You just have to let your husband know what the deal is and try to give her as much respect as you possibly can because she is your elder. HOWEVER, make sure you let it be known however you must, that you will not tolerate being disrespected and you stand your ground (especially when in your home).

Answer 4

Yes, there are many people who get along with there mother in law as those are the mother in laws who don't give insults, play the victims, are intrusive, and direct there issues to there sons if they do not like something rather then blame there daughter in law.

Answer 5

My dad and my grandma (his MIL) used to get along great. She treated him better than her own kids and they would sit and talk for hours....I'm sure it helped that she knew her role in the scheme of things and she lived 600 miles away. But we visited them about 4 times per year and they always got along really well.

Answer 6

I know many women that get along great with their mother in-laws. My mother was always very close to my grandmother, and even after my parents divorced, my mother and my grandmother still talked on the phone.
Personally I cant stand mine, have nothing to do with her, she doesn't have our phone numbers or address, and isn't allowed to see our 5 children and has never seen the youngest 3.

Answer 7

I get along with my mother inlaw. I do think she's controlling and she has a lot of control over my husband; however, she has proven to be a nice person. Everybody has their own ways but she has not done anything to me. She is very kind and I like her. At first I didn't think I would like her and it took me a while to warm up to her. But she turned out to be a cool friend and mother inlaw. This goes to show that you really do have to give people a chance.

Answer 8

Both of my brothers' wives get along with my mother very well. One who lives nearby goes to breakfast with her at least once a week, and the other who lives 2,000 miles away will come in early for the holidays and stay at my mom's house for an extra couple of weeks.

But then, my mother is simply awesome and it's hard not to adore her. =) Most of my friends in high school also called her their "other mom".

I get along with my husband's mother in small doses.

Answer 9

Myself I get along better with my mother in-law more then my own mom. Go figure she is just awesome well like mother like daughter I guess that is why I proposed to my wife.

Answer 10

I think everyone is going to get a little annoyed by their mother/father in law... It's pretty much the same thing as getting annoyed with your own parents. It happens. I personally love my in-laws, we get along great

Answer 11

I don't, and know of nobody who does. All the parents and friends I have all despise their mil