Is being generous by some like buying a pair of new shoes for others?

Question

Ok, i've phrased this badly. What i mean is by doing generous deads do some people get a feel good factor the same way as someone might do buying a pair of new shoe's!

Answer 1

Certainly generous actions provide a feelgood buzz.

Buying a new pair of shoes for yourself can also make you feel good and raise your self esteem (retail therapy) but, unless the purchase is a necessary one, I believe the good feelings are short lived. All too soon other things happen to necessitate more retail therapy and other people show off newer fashions with which you must keep up. So this particular therapy soon becomes an addiction which like any addiction provides satisfaction for briefer and briefer periods and intense misery when not being satisfied.

Generosity, on the other hand, never fails to reward and is not addictive providing it is directed towards the needy rather than those from whom you are seeking approval.

Generosity in exchange for approval is not really generosity at all; it is another form of purchase.

Best wishes

Answer 2

Being generous is when it comes from the heart. It depends on the circumstances. If you go to work and hear your office co-worker saying that Christmas is going to be tight this year because she has to buy some new shoes for church. You give her $75 for shoes. That is being generous. It was done from the heart and not an obligation.

Anything done for your children is an obligation in seeing that their needs are met. Buying shoes for someone elses children is being generous.

Answer 3

Being generous has so many meanings. It includes giving something of yourself (could be your time) or something you will miss/giving up something. It could be time or money/material goods, like shoes but it has to 'come from the heart'. It is especially generous if it is for a stranger in need but you have to expect nothing in return and just want to help them out with something they need or give them someone they will enjoy without expecting anything in return.

Answer 4

No, it's not. What if the person you buy the new shoes for has larger or smaller feet, or no feet at all ... to be truly 'generous' you need to give something truly 'useful or fun' to the person who recieves the gift, and not give only what you want to give. I know that you said 'by some' but it is very WRONG to include giving that is not 'generous' with the truly generous gifts ... it's 'giving' but it is not GENEROUS giving.

Answer 5

Being generous can be a number of things, if someone needs shoes then yes that can be something generous.

Answer 6

Truly generous people don't know what the word generous means.
It's only the people that give reluctantly that like to be thought of as being gererous/

Answer 7

For some, maybe, but not for me. For me, being generous is when I share my bottle of Jack Daniel's with friends, instead of keeping this elixir of life all to myself! Buy your own bottle for chrissakes! Being generous is when I decide NOT to knock the absolute BeJeezus out of some buttmunch or idiotic government beaurocrat like at the DMV that really deserves it!

Answer 8

Depends on the motive for buying the shoes.

Answer 9

Exactly! But it's more fun because it doesn't clutter up your own living space. And you get to see the happy faces. Or at least imagine them.
That's why even a commercialized Christmas has its good points.

Answer 10

buyiing anything for someone is a generous act, unless you are buying strip wax for a lady with a beard ;-0