In the Middle...help!!!?

Question

I'm in the middle of Divorce
not totally in church(serving God like I shoud)
should i make a greater effort to see other people or no one at all
I want to have a drink or two
...want to be alone.don't want to be alone??
Help!!

I'm just speaking out loud...haven't done any of it...nor am I asking anyone to condone it...just need encouragement!

all but one answer encouraged me...!!!
Thank you and God Bless

Answer 1

Going to Church has helped me through one divorce (I have since remarried and now go to Church with my second husband of nearly 18 years) and the death of 3 loved ones. Although being alone can sometimes be a comfort it is not such a good idea to spend too much time alone. Even though I no longer drink, I certainly used to, I would say that if you want a drink or two...go for it. Hang out with your friends. If you meet someone cool, then make the effort, if not then wait a while longer. Someone cool will come your way...you just have to be open to the experience. Most of all...love yourself!

Answer 2

Wait until after the divorce is final to see someone romantically. From personal experience, I have found that to be the best approach. Noone wants to be alone, it really feels, well, pretty awful. But I suggest spending time with friends, doing hobbies, anything. If you have sexual tension, there is always porn. Seriously. The only time I would say go ahead and see someone is if the divorce is dragged out for some strange reason like an uncooperative spouse. Even then, keep it on the down low and go slow. I'm not particularly religious, but I know church helps a lot of people. However, church people are sinners, too, so don't let them fool you!

Answer 3

You need to meet people. Men or women, doesn't matter, just someone to talk with.

A bar is a great start if you don't drive and don't have an addiction.

I'm not in a divorce situation, but still know what you mean when going through such pain and transition:

You feel lonesome in a crowd. Sigh, now I'm down.

Answer 4

Divorce is a personal hell. Its one of the toughest things you will go through. It wipes you out emotionally, physically, financially and leaves you in an emotionally ruined state . It takes time, take it day by day and good luck. A drink doesnt hurt, it will likely relax you, as for church its a personal choice..

Answer 5

Pray and ask God for the answer this is what he wants of you. And don't drink. Wait awhile on the dating unless God sends something you way.

Answer 6

God says to bring him your troubles. Just give your troubles to the Lord, pray and start back into the church. Things will turn out the way they are supposed to. Pity the one who falls and has no one to pick him up.

Answer 7

Find or form a support group for separated and divorced people within your Church.

The fact is the best way to help yourself is to help other people who suffer along with you.

You are not alone in this struggle.

Good luck. I will pray for you.

Answer 8

well, divorce is death without actually dying. so i guess church is a good place to be.

anyone you choose to see who may have feelings for you is going to end up hurt. and you'll find it easy to find people who wants to be the 'savior', but they do that to feel 'holy'.

and when you hit the sack with that other person, you're gonna wish the entire time that the person is your soon to be ex. and you're gonna feel like crap afterwards.

Answer 9

Don't worry cast all your burden unto JESUS the author and the finisher of our life for he cares. and ofcourse you deserve to live life go out have a drink or two and be happy. life goes on

Answer 10

So you need us to help you ease your mind about breaking some of the rules that have guided your faith? You coming here to ask if we think is ok for you to go drink and to fornicate?,,,ok,,,,,,Hey,,,Go have a drink,,,go meet a girl and fornicate,,,,while you are at it,,Don't forget Sunday morning worship service ok?,,,go repent and you will be just fine,,,,
Give me a break!