2007-12-18 02:30:55 · 46 answers · asked by Turtles 6 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Depends on what your thoughts are. If you don't want to, tell him you dont want to, or don't like the idea. If you do, start small with a small vibrator and don't let him use it anywhere you are not comfortable with.
I found it more useful to become familiar with toys while alone as opposed to with another person. Trust me, buy a good vibe and you won't be able to wait to use it with another person!
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2007-12-18 02:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by Dig It 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a LOT of 'toys' out there...there are some that are obvious what you do with them...how to use them, but there are others which are not so obvious. There are also some which, if the user doesn't know the capacity of the other person, should never be used on someone besides him or herself...so, be careful...use plenty of lube or just say no thanks. If you're still willing to try, go slow and voice your opinions about how it feels and whether you want to continue...good rule of thumb in relationships anyway! Good luck...;)
2007-12-18 02:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by MynxyDeb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have only been together 4 months, why are you having sex in the first place? It takes a long time to get to know someone, who they really are, maybe now you are finding out some not so "nice" facts about this guy. If he needs "toys" something isn't right.
2007-12-18 03:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Do only what you are comfortable with but most of all don't be forced into doing something you are not comfortable with. Because you do not know what the next thing will be he springs on you. You have only known this guy 4 months not long for such activity. If you do decide to do this make sure the "toys" are CLEAN..You do not know who he used them on before and if they are safe quality. Do research on the safe materials used in manufacturing.
2007-12-18 03:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by wilma s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not into it just say hey I'm not into that lets do something else. You have to feel comfortable in a relationship and not feel pressured. if your just unsure or have never tried toys maybe give them a chance you might like it but let your boyfriend know that if you get uncomfortable that he should stop. me and my husband have a safe word (DOG) that if we call it out the other person will stop what there doing immediately this way we can try new stuff but feel comfortable that if it hurts or its not our thing we can always stop it. remember its your body and you have the say over it.
2007-12-18 02:40:19 · answer #5 · answered by Vanessa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I not a girl but i would have to say he put it in your court and by the way it looks its completely up to you. On the other hand i am willing to try almost anything once but if i don't like it then i proly wont ever do it again. Whatever you decide it is intercourse and be safe.
2007-12-18 02:37:42 · answer #6 · answered by bmtxkeller 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you decide to do, you need to be completely comfortable with it. This is a personal decision for you.
If it makes you uneasy, tell him you are not interested. If he insists or continues to talk you into something you do not want to do, he is not the right guy for you. Find someone who cares about you and not his own sexual desires.
If you are simply uncomfortable because you are embarrassed about being inexperienced with toys, let him know this will be new to you, so he needs to be gentle and accommodating.
Have fun.
2007-12-18 02:36:37 · answer #7 · answered by Big Red Ten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you don't want to ,then talk to him and tell him the truth,if he is true to you then he will understand and not bother you about it until you are ready and want to.But if you want to then tell him and pick out some safe ones!But just remember he has only been your boyfriend for 4 months and since you consider him your "new" boyfriend then definetly watch out.Just be careful hun!Hope I helped you out!
-H o l l i s t e r g i r l < 3
2007-12-18 02:52:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the toys, and YOUR comfort level with not only the relationship but also with the prospect of using toys. They can be a lot of fun, but you have to be comfortable with your partner and the idea of certains toys has to appeal to you.
2007-12-18 02:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fun, but it won't be if you don't like the idea. If it's his idea, let him use them on you and see what's nice. You'll soon work out what you like! Make sure you go with him and buy them (it's not actually that bad, kinda fun if I'm honest!) and don't let him try and use something he's pulled out from under his bed as I know someone who's boyfriend used his ex's toys on her... she still doesn't know!!!!
2007-12-18 02:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by claire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋