well im only 15 and my boyfriend is 18 and im pregnant with his baby. 1 month. my mom says i have to get rid of the baby but i dont want to . is it her decision or is it mine ? she cant make me do it right? please help
2007-12-18 02:26:14 · 33 answers · asked by Kaylie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
A girl of any age who gets pregnant is entitled to make her own medical decisions regarding the pregnancy. Your mother absolutely cannot force you to abort or adopt the child. The decision is yours.
She COULD press charges against your boyfriend for statutory rape though, that's one way she might try to make your life miserable.
2007-12-18 02:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by Take A Test! 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
She can not make that decision. However, she doesn't have to accept the responsiblity of keeping you both at home with her. If she wants to send you to say a family members or group home or whatever ...she can do it. My grandmother gave me this ultamatium when i was 15 and pregnant. I am not sure what would have happened, but i wasn't able to carry the baby b/c I was too little. You know your 18 yr old boyfriend will go to jail if your mother pushes the issue.
You need to make sure you and the father make this decision together! No if's and or buts!!
2007-12-18 02:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by Radertastic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on your state laws. The big problem is that you would have to prove that you could financially support the baby. It is not your moms job to support the baby, only you. Also with the boyfriend being 18, he could go to jail for statutory rape even if the sex was consensual. To be honest though, you are 15 and have a lot of life to live before you have a baby. It is a huge responsibility.
2007-12-18 02:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by mvgirl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the decision should be yours and yours alone. Before you make a decision like this however make sure you know the consequences and that you have thought it all the way through. You are an awful young girl to be having a baby. How will you support your child? Will you leave that burden up to your parents? What about the father, does he have a job? how will he support his child? Do you want to go to college? do you have any future dreams?
The best advice is think about what you are doing, you are too young to have a child and you have so much life ahead of you.
2007-12-18 02:42:51 · answer #4 · answered by skibm80 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Legally you can have it, keep it. But she does not have to take care of it. Can you?
If you do not want to have an abortion, adopt the baby out. You are too young to have a child. It is what is best for you, not that you do not deserve a whipping for your foolishness, but it is what is best for the child, if you decide to have one. A fifteen year old should not raise a baby.
And BTW if your boyfriend is really 18, he can get into some really serious trouble, but he should have though of that too before having sex with a minor.
2007-12-18 02:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by geniepiper 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
IT IS YOUR RIGHT AND YOUR RIGHT ALONE, to make that descision. Your mother,however might just be looking out for what's best for you. I know that when I was 16 and pregnant, my father and stepmother forced me to get an abortion, because "it was in my best interest" I was devistated at the time, and completely against it, and now that I have 5 children , it hurts me even more so. I know that you might think that you are ready for a baby, but let me tell you, it is alot of work,financial responsibility,and selflessness...
If you are against abortion then try discussing adoption with your mother....good luck, sweetie!!
2007-12-18 02:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by stefanie s 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Hi,i'm a 18yr old mom...and i know exactly how u feel.Its your decision.But if you do decide to keep ur baby...despite objection from ayone and everyone...its going to be tough on you,trust me there'll be time you'll cry and feel like you wannna give up.But bear in mind...if anythin happens...the baby is urs...so watever comes up,ur family disown you or ur bf runs..the baby's all u've gt.With a baby,every single decision you make you need to think about the baby.so sure if you want to keep it,go ahead.Its your baby not your mums.All the best.I would help you if you need and if i can
2007-12-18 02:59:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She can absolutely not force you to get rid of it. But she can choose not to support you and the baby, so you should really think about it before you make the decision to keep it.
2007-12-18 02:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by Jodester 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
right she can not force you into something you may later regret , she is probably tryn to make life easer for you ie the responsibility's but this is YOUR decision NOT hers, there is alot of help out there for teenage moms so don't worry ,when she sees her grand child for the first time she will realise you made the right decision ,
hope everything works out for you and your boyfriend
2007-12-18 02:43:53 · answer #9 · answered by sunflower 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She cannot make you have an abortion. You may be 15, but you still have rights. She's not allowed to make that decision for you. Your choice.
2007-12-18 03:00:53 · answer #10 · answered by Mama Bear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋