My friend has built himself a perfect little world comprising wife and children. He neglects other familly and also friends relegating them to be unimportant by comparison. Love of wife and kids is fantastic, I am all for it, but I think this has been carried to an unhealthy degree. What do others think?
2007-12-18 01:29:43 · 16 answers · asked by pete the pirate 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, it is not healthy to isolate yourself in that way. Relationships with extended family, friends, neighbors, and time spent giving back to the community / church are important too.
'To everything there is a season', maybe he is just trying to get the family solid before he relaxes into a more balanced life. Lots of times folks are in the mode he is in when their children are babies or toddlers and then become participants in the world later. Kids grow up and if someone has negleted all else in his devotion to them, he will have a serious void when they leave home to create their own lives. Plus, kids need to know that they are part of Dad's life, not ALL of Dad's life. It would be great for them to see him serving and befriending others.
2007-12-18 01:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by Kim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humm...sounds little...just little not right!!!! Well, sometime people have different reason for doing things slightly over the board. See if you can find out: there might be two reason for that, 1/ Either his father did not love enough his family when he was growing up. 2/ Or his parent had a divorce and he is so scared that might happen to him.
Because do you know what love is? Or is there such a thing exist, yes it does and sometime it calls unconditional love. And there are only so many people are capable of doing that, like nothing will be expected in return. But end of the day we are all human.
So, in my theory when people fall in love....any man or woman...first thing first.. it can be for any reason....although not knowing them selves they fall for good look, money or security, social status, to have kids or last but not least for fun. Who knows, what goes on in our unconscious mind. Only person who knows all this fact would be either God or who has IQ of God. Unless you have had all the fact of life at your fingertips and always seem to know the face behind the curtain, including your own behaviour. I believe the more naive or innocent you are the batter chance you have of enjoying your life and same time prune to human error.
More you know the more heartache you have. Then again every time you love others with your heart and soul, you will get let down.... one way or other. Then again you knew that, but you chose to ignore your intelligence, so you have to put up with the heartache and whose fault it was????
What was the saying again??? Nothing is forever!!!!!!!
2007-12-18 02:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by The Icequeen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people ferret themselves and family away because their minds are full enough with that. Some people disregard family for reasons of hostility, dangerous environment, moral abandon, such as drugs or other illicit activity.
If he loves his family, it is a good start. But it is only a start. If he has no other goal to expand his social world, I would be curious as to why. Some people are natural hermits. It is just their living style and nothing personal. If the reasons were more emotional, then I would be inclined to agree, that the lack of social expansion is not healthy. But loving his family is a good start.
2007-12-18 04:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by Dr weasel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving your family is healthy and normal. It is hard to answer your question, since I don't know what you call unhealthy.
If he neglects other family and friends that is a problem he has. Love is spread in different places. For example, I love my friends, but my family will always come first. Honestly, I don't understand the real question. It sounds like you are missing his friendship. If this is the case tell him you miss your friendship and want to spend more quality time together.
He may be so wrapped up in his family, he does not see how he has kept you at a distance.
2007-12-18 02:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by clever girl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love in infinate. You can make as much as you want. I want you to know that first. And the answer to your question is no. Your kids are only kids for so long. Spent as much time as you can with them. Make memories that will last a lifetime. However, you could do a family night. Have you family go hang out with their family. Play games or something. Good Luck! Sara
2007-12-18 01:35:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's good that a person built such a great relationship.The bad part is that he is ignoring other relationships.....there's no good reason for that.His world is so small and horizon is very narrow.It's not good.
2007-12-18 01:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by bikashroy9 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a way. You at least should show some feelings toward others at least a little bit.
2007-12-18 01:33:37 · answer #7 · answered by Tired Old Man 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he can have mad love for his wife and kids, but he should not ignore others around him. Never know when you might need them.
2007-12-18 01:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by tc22 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you cannot ever love them too much! Family ALWAYS comes first. Apparently, you do not have a family of your own to understand.
2007-12-18 01:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by clbowman06 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he sounds great, a perfect husband and father as the kids grow up things will change and he probably will change we all want different things at certain times of our life so wait and see.
2007-12-18 01:36:19 · answer #10 · answered by annie6 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋