and what do you do about it?...... because i have found tit for tat doesn't work
2007-12-18 00:26:34 · 7 answers · asked by lil' angel 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Of course, everybody gets tired of someone who is against our behavior because human being is not perfect since there will be always mistakes in our everyday activities. Let us remember about sadism and masochism : Sadists enjoy inflicting pain and Masochists enjoy receiving pain but the problem is that we bear both of them and tolerance and awareness of these situations apart us a little bit from those algolagnias.
The most important is not feeling besieged but observing ourselves to see if there is a real reason to be in these hardships to correct actions rapidly or if it is just a way the other people use to make notice their presence in our lives in which case we are to stop it and clarify them that it is important someone who cares for us but not in a so strong persistent criticism that destroys our confidence and self-esteem.
A last word flatterers are in some cases worst than critics, we have to be aware of this, too.
2007-12-18 01:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tell them one or more of the following:
to stop rubbing my nose in the dirt because I don't like it,
that I don't need to be told when I have made a mistake because I am aware of it and it's just annoying for someone else to say I told you so
That I am not perfect and am entitled to make mistakes - it doesn't make me a bad person
That the reason I do lots of things wrong is because I DO lots of things and if they did more, they might make more mistakes too, by the law of averages - i.e. if you sit on your bottom and do nothing, of course you'll do nothing wrong, but you won't do anything right either
What rule says I have to be perfect
I know, but I'm still lovely, human, loveable or what have you
I wish I could be as wonderful as you
Yes, but I'm good at other things
No I didn't
2007-12-18 00:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you didn't have such an overblown ego and were so arrogant that you thought you were too perfect to POSSIBLY be in the wrong... people wouldn't be "shoving in your face" the things you do wrongly... because arrogant people who think they are perfect are good targets for people to stick pins in their ego.
2007-12-18 00:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sometimes people like to help others by pointing out flaws and they can and can't take it back!
have you tried listening and just replying yeah i did this wrong but here is what i did to correct the sistuation. or ease it!
show how you over came that "Wrong" then tell them to accept it!
and you should too!
2007-12-18 01:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Polite disdain, they get the message eventually.
2007-12-18 00:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk away and never look back
2007-12-18 00:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by Juanita T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try sarcasm, lay it on thick and heavy
2007-12-18 00:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by steven m 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋