did he cheat?

Question

i was out with the girls and my bf called to say that his mates we not going out so i said you can come out with us (was just to be girls )any way i got really drunk and bf disapeard he was taking to some bird in the pub garden with a few of my mates

it came to the end and we all went outside and waited for my bf but he never came out so i got a cab home with the girls

my bf rang next day at 1pm and said that he was so drunk that he cant remeber getting home what do you think did he go back to the other girls house

its doing my brain in and he swears that he has done nothing

i love this man and have been with him for 2 years

problem he is really para about me cheating is this because hes doing it

no funny answers i feel a bit confused and upset

Answer 1

Dear Amanda,

I think what you need more than anything right now is peace of mind. I think your best bet is to take what he says at face value. If he did end up with the girl in the pub garden then he might have been so drunk he can't remember it. I would advise drawing a line under the whole night and trying to stop thinking about what he might or might now have done.

If you are in this kind of position again, I would suggest that you go back into the pub and ask him if he wants to come back with you - he might have been annoyed that you went home without him.

The other thing is that he's paranoid about you cheating on him. This doesn't necessarily mean that he's been cheating on you. It might simply mean that he has low self esteem and believes that one day, you will go off with someone else. This might be the same for you. If that's the case, I think it's important for you to realise that you are OK within yourself, and that if your boyfriend did cheat on you, then this doesn't alter your worth.

EDIT: Please, don't take any notice of the people who say "yes, he did (for whatever reason)" they weren't there, don't know him and don't know you. He may have cheated, equally, he may not. The answer is that you work on yourself, so that you feel OK enough whatever.

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Answer 2

no do not listen to the negative people, you have known him for 2 years give him the benefit of the doubt and do not take advise from people at yahoo answers. The reason we are all here is because we got nothing better to do. You have a life with the man you love get of the internet and enjoy it

Answer 3

possibly he did cheat yes if he is so paranoid about you doing it to him! seems abit strange that he just dissapeared ...but then again he was drunk ....but you both went out together so in theory you should have gone home together and he shouldnt have dissapeared. have you spoke to him abut this? best thing to do is talk to him and ask him out right. you been with him for 2 years and i'm sure he wont be able to take you asking him if he cheated he obviously loves you and will tell you outright good luck x x

Answer 4

It is possible, how drunk did he appear at the time you last saw him? If he was steaming drunk then possible its the truth.

Also would it normally take him till 1 pm to get up?
I hope it all works out babe, i don't agree with cheating.

Good luck

Answer 5

I would think he did. I wouldn't leave him in a bar talking to some other chick, but if I did, and he didn't come home and didn't call me til 1 combined with the fact that he is extra paranoid - yes I think he cheated on you.

Answer 6

Dear friend i think ur bf is a smart guy i think he cheated on you and told you he was drunk so if there is a possibility that some one may seen him he told you i was so drunk that i could not remeber what i have done this is the smartest answer that he could gave you but anyway this doese not mean that he doese not like you
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you have to ask urself doese ur bf when he drinks get horny ?
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let me explain
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when ppl drink
they either become very hyper or very sad

so you have to ask urself which of these two kinda ppl ur bf is
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have a great life

little john

Answer 7

has he ever lied to you before??? if you have been with him for 2 years then you should know if he not being truthful to you. dont think to much of it he just got drunk and went on his own way. it happens sometime. i wish you both luck with your future

Answer 8

This guy is the best thing that's ever happened to. Don't assume that he's been cheating. Don't mess it up. Besides, it's not like you can prove it... so you have no one else to believe

Answer 9

If hes paranoid could well be! give him some of his own medicine.... if he stops being paranoid then you ca tell him you will stop also. Give him the beneift of the doubt...

Answer 10

there's a high possibility that your nf is cheating on you, if you can't trust him then he might not be the right man for you.