I met this guy about 6 months ago. He was great, but I noticed a change after a month or so. Come to find out that he was getting over a previous gf of 3 yrs. but he has known her for 25 years. They had only been apart 8 months.
All of a sudden, she seems to be back in the picture. She doesn't want him, but she wants him to still want her.
I really care about this guy, but I am beginning to feel taken for granted, and somewhat used.
What can I do to make him realize what he has in me? He says that he loves me, but I know that he still has love for her too.
He gets angry every time I try to talk to him about the situation. He says that I should not even bring it up. That just frustrates me more.
I need a strategy to turn him around, or I am out of there.
2007-12-17 21:47:33 · 12 answers · asked by PEGGY S 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave him. honestly, you've tried talking, he won't listen, instead he gets angry. he's not over her and taking into account the length he's known her, he won't get over her for some time.
if you stay, be prepared for a bumpy ride and an unhappy ending.
2007-12-17 21:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes you have a war out there is good to have a strategy not to fight the war. Win him over, woe him over needs patience and endurance. Do you have all the time? Check out what he likes in that old flame and be a bit more creative ,or make him notice all the goodness in you...... Will all this help? I dont know. try
2007-12-18 15:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by hwa g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to have strategies like what you are thinking right now. Just be natural as the way you are. If he doesn't want to talk it over then he might be guilty of his doings. You have to let him choose between you and the other girl.
2007-12-17 22:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't fix a problem with him if he's not even willing to address it. Bring it up to him again, and try not to be accusatory in your questions, just be honest that this is something that you feel insecure about. It's an understandable worry, and if he's the special person that you think he is, he will understand that.
2007-12-17 21:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by keashka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 22:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ultimately fate...or destiny...whatever u say......Just do ur part of the act.....forget that u r in such a situation...stop being possessive....it will make him suffocate......he himself is confused now....don't confuse him more......what ever comes up will eventually be good......in the meantime, let him know ur positive sides, also giving him hints of the negative ones.....also, this will be ur best opportunity to scroll through his pages.....if he complains, stop nagging and tell him that it was just to understand him as u r choosing him as ur life partner.....and unless u understand each other, u r not partners.......so participate and let the river flow......Ocean ahoy!
2007-12-18 02:37:08 · answer #6 · answered by Chandrachurh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant change anyone. if he is going to go back you cant do anything. if he stays with you, and he doesn't make things clear to her, your going to have to deal with her and this problem throughout your relationship. You are you there is nothing special that you can do to change his mind about you or her. So you have to decide to wade it out and see what moves he makes in the situation, or get out.
2007-12-17 21:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by loquitaamericana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I don't know how good is that bu try to be distant some time, let him think. if you tried to talk about it and he doesn't want too then there's nothing that you can do if he's not open for a communication.
2007-12-17 21:57:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just give him an ultimatum, "It's me or her." If he chooses her, hey, you don't want to be with someone like that anyway. 99% of guys come with previous relationships. Find one who isn't still hung up on his.
2007-12-17 21:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
say good buhhhhhhhhh Byeeeeee!
2007-12-17 21:57:21 · answer #10 · answered by thunderson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋