Ok, I met this guy at work. I really like him! He's good to me, he make me laugh! All the good stuff! But........ I'm still in love with my x.... I really dont think about my X when i'm with the new guy, But when i'm by myself, i think about him! What should i do?? The other guy said that he will wait till i'm over my x... Will that ever happend? can i ever get over my frist love? or I'm using this guy to get over my X? My X cheated on me, Thats y we're not together! And this guy make me feel happy and calm! I havent felt that in a long time! I just dont know what to do? Need Help!! ANYONE CAN HELP ME????
2007-12-17 21:25:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy is soooooooo good!! He want to take time to get to know me and stuff! I never bn with a person lie that... And he know that i'm still in loved with my X!!!!!
2007-12-17 21:32:37 · update #1
I M kinda in the same situation my x broke up with me cause of some dumb reason so i m now talking 2 this other guy who really likes me and would like 2 get 2 no me hes so adorable i had just met him this weekend and we are now talking i dont get 2 see him as much but only on the weekend so i guess i m going out with him just to make my x jealous or to get over him but i cant get over my x i still have feelings for him and i still love him i dont no wat 2 do and the bad part is that he is talking 2 my cousin after he just broke up wit me and i dont think thats right he wont talk 2 me hes always talikng about me in a bad way 2 my cousin and he guess hes just fed up wit me and i want 2 cal hima and talk 2 him so bad but im scared that he just might hang up on me or say mean things he had huted my feelings the other day cause he had called me some really bad words rhat he shouldnt have called me but i m over the fact that he doesnt care or still have feelings for me but he doesnt no that i will alwys care love and have feelingds 4 him no matter wat cause i will always love him and the other worst part is that he made me a bunch of promises that he hasnt shown me even though we had broken up a while ago i really still like him be he goes wit my 13 yrs old cousin and my x is 15 but i mean i cant help but wait hes telling her all the same stuff he told me which is a lie i keep on telling my cousin about him but she wants to be hard headed so ima let her get her feelings hurt just like he hurted mine so that a lesson learned hes just telling her all the things he wants her to hear and shes fallin for it like a dummy but all he does is just tell her that he loves her and talks about me for no reason if were done and over with and you dont care y r u still talkin about me but my cousin told me that he had said that he would go back with me but i m talkin 2 another guy which is right cause he did me wrong anyway and i dont nedd nobody like that and this other guy is treating me way better i had told him wat happened and he told me i deserved better than that and i dont nedd him and thats y i am with this guy cause he does me better than my x and dont treat me any kind of way and when i m wit him he keeps me calm and focus and i dont have no worries and i trust him so i hope my story helps u out alot and helps u figure out who u want 2 be with from ur best friend Jasmine xoxo
2007-12-18 01:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by jasmineisballin2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone really gets over there first love that's how you know its your first love. I split from a 4 year relationship and got with someone else not long after. I liked this guy for ages but obviously could not do anything as i was already in a relationship. But anyway i did like this guy but thought id get with him just to get back at my ex and make him jealous. But a year on i have fallen madly in love with the man im still with. I still see my ex around as we live in the same town i look at him and think of the good times but i would never finish with my partner now to get back with my ex love takes time.
So if this lad has said he will wait i think you should get with him just explain that you want to try with him because if you don't he will get fed up and find someone else why your still trying to get over your ex.
Good luck
2007-12-17 21:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by sarah h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stopping yourself from committing to another relationship will just make things harder for you especially when you're alone. But my advise is not to go hastily, get to know the guy better. I think he is a nice guy and I believe it when he says that he will wait for you until you get over with your x.
Do not torture yourself, go out and spend a quality time with this nice guy and you'll just then you'll just wake up one morning and feel nothing about your x. The more you try to forget your x the harder it would be for you -so let it go away naturally.
This nice is already throeing signs at you that he's willing to help - something that not all guys are willing to do. Go ahead, don't stop...it's time for you to be happy.
2007-12-17 21:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by Señorito Archer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to have some official closure about your X mentally. Basically, remind yourself he cheated on you and it's over forever. It's kind of like mentally conditioning yourself. You can't move on if you keep having reoccurring thoughts.
If this is your co-worker you're talking about, I don't really advise dating people you work with. Anything that goes wrong between you might affect your job in the long run.
2007-12-17 21:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget the cheater. I know it's easier said than done. Get over with hangups as quickly as you can. You said that you really liked this new guy. right? And thats the key. Be honest to yourself and find your own answers. There may be many good guys/gals around. But its really really hard to find one. And if you happen to find one just don't let it go dear. I guess its time to move on :)
2007-12-17 21:41:16 · answer #5 · answered by dsotm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok so people say that you shouldn go out with someone on the rebound but if this nice guy understands that you are trying to get over someone and is willing to help you then I say stick with it. He makes you feel good so concentrate on the qualities that he has that are so different than your ex. Let him restore your faith in men. A bit like getting back on the horse!!
Luck x
2007-12-17 21:29:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are still in love with your Ex, then don't rush into any real relationship. I'm not saying you can't have rebound relationship, but you have to ask yourself. Do you want him as a rebound? or Someone that you can be serious with? Right now, I don't think you are ready for a serious relationship, if you are still in-love with your Ex.
You can't think of someone while going with someone else in a serious relationship. It's not fair and think of you in his position. Would you want someone that is in-love another person while you are dating them?
2007-12-17 21:33:19 · answer #7 · answered by cheng 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're still think about you're ex! Thats NOT good, never good. So I think the best thing you can do right now, is first getting over you're ex. But maybe this guy can help you get over your ex ;-)
2007-12-17 21:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok this is kinda easy to take care of for you ...
know this...first after a fall out is known as
fall guy/gal....call guy gall and is usually used for the get over it reaction and a way to get used to being on the hunt again. ok?
so have this guy wait till after you have used your fall guy then get in with this guy.
2007-12-17 21:51:25 · answer #9 · answered by thunderson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes time to get over a breakup .. at least this guy knows you are not over your ex and is willing to wait ... seeing this new guy isnt a bad thing ... as long as you are up front about not being over your ex .. that way he knows there is a chance of him being the rebound guy ...
2007-12-17 21:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋