ok, i have a guy friend that i've known since the third grade and i am now 23, and all that time i haven't gone out with him. Since hurricane katrina happened, I got back intouch with him, and we got to talking about if we went out together what would happen. anyway, now it seems that I am finally realizing that i may love him, but im not sure how he feels about me. So is there anyway that i can tell him that i love him without me scareing him off or without him out right rejecting me?
2007-12-17 20:23:47 · 7 answers · asked by princess_selena_491 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask him if he'd like to get together with you for a social evening. That's a good way to start. You'll want to get some idea of what his feelings toward you are before you say anything "drastic".
2007-12-17 20:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by Richard B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that if you've known each other for a long time, it wouldn't scare him off. If you live close together and have talked about going out, even in a hypothetical way, then it shouldn't come out as a huge surprise. I wouldn't call him and tell him, "I think I am madly in love with you." A better idea might be to bring up the conversation about dating and ask him if he would really be interested. See how shocked he is then! Chances are if a guy will talk "hypothetically" about dating, they are interested. I hope this helps!
2007-12-18 04:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost... don't fear rejection. It's a constant inevitability, just like death; you're going to have to face it one way or another. You have to learn how to accept and embrace it. Rejection may hurt, but it doesn't mean the end of your world. You just have to accept it, and let it make you stronger and wiser.
That said, if you're really planning to tell him how you feel... observe his personality, first. Is he the type of person that will respond well to a blatant confession? Try to predict how he will act and behave accordingly. You have to be subtle and go about it with finesse.
Again, don't worry about rejection. If he does turn you down... then at least you've rekindled an old friendship, right?
And the fact that he put in effort to getting to know you is an indication of how much he values his relationship with you.
2007-12-18 04:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by Curious J, Esq. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him everything. If you scare him off that is his reaction to him knowing what you're really all about. Any actions of his without him knowing how you feel about him are based on misconceptions about who you are. Such a relationship based on misunderstandings are hardly worth having. If things don't work out but you make sure that you are fully understood, then at least you are living something real.
2007-12-18 04:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there's a say 60-70% of communication is body language. so u can be maybe affectionate to him in subtle ways and u can see how he reacts. if he feels the same he might ask u out b4 u do.
2007-12-18 04:29:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are just chatting, why not meet somewhere to chat, coffee, etc and see where it goes from there.
Just make sure you are being realistic and not too hopeful.
2007-12-18 04:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by Terryc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
asked him what he think about you and after that tell him your feeling.
2007-12-18 04:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by Msz Grizzly7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋