Ever since I have been married to my hubby I have always been indirectly put down by his mum & sis, funny thing is that they have never really complimented me and seem so absorbed about how beautiful and intelligent other members in there family are. I am a tv model and am doing a phd so frankly I do not need their praise, but its kinda strange coz if I saw anyone who had achieved what I had it would be so hard not to compliment them and wish all the best. I am not one to be arrogant either since I really like my hubby's bro's wife who is a house wife and had a baby boy really young, I like her caring nature. However in a way I sometimes envy the love and attention that she receives from my in laws. My hubby's sis put her bday pics on facebook, none with myself present but most with the other sis in law present.
2007-12-17 19:59:39 · 12 answers · asked by kitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You know what! Don't take it personally...if you could have heard the thing's my dad's mother says about my mother behind her back you'd gasp with disbelief that someone who is a mother would actually put down his son's wife...if that makes sense to you. Calls her a bad mother, that my dad could have done better...yada yada yada. Have you tried complimenting them unintentionally? Or maybe they envy your potential..either or don't let it get to you. They're just bullying you, you've got to not let them get to you in a way that stresses you out. If you ignore them they'll just go away like a bad smell. That's my best advice, if you're not biting they've got nothing to work on.
2007-12-17 20:06:39 · answer #1 · answered by tweak_a_freak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a case of jealousy to me.
Concentrate on the friends who you get on with and don't worry about interacting too much with the in-laws some people can just be too parochial.
As a TV model I am sure you are beautiful and must have brains as well to do a PhD. The personal buzz you will get from achieving your doctorate will allow you to live on a higher plane than these people who obviously do not know how to interract with you.
2007-12-18 04:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by stef 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't let this worry you. your hubby's sis is definitely jealous of you and what you have achieved in life. you don't need any praise of anyone apart from your husband. if he is saying how well you look and how well you've done then be happy. don't worry about the in laws. and as for the party pics of the other sis in law why don't you comment on them forget the sis of your husband, be better then them all. jealousy causes alot of family disputes. best of luck with this hun x
2007-12-18 04:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by Suzie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's funny really....I feel much the same with my in-laws.... No one will EVER be good enough for their son. My sister-in-law is very weird and controlling. The oldest of 5 kids and still feels motherly....And is a PIM ***. It's her and 5 little brother....Little, the youngest being 40 for goodness sake. And me, and the other daughter-in-laws.....all get talked about. They talk together about the others when I am with them...SO, its probable a safe bet....I am talked about when I am NOT there. I sense it and they do too....SO, my advise is to say just screw em' let them think what they want....I am me....you are you...We're good decent people, and if its not enough....OH WELL....Long as we have a happy marriage. Good luck to you....I KNOW it's a hard situation to ive with....and quite un-comfortable.
2007-12-18 05:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by Your Asking Me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like they are jealous of you - in other words THEY have a problem not you. Just ignore the ignorant SOB's and enjoy your life to the full with people who like and appreciate you - you are too good to let buffoons like them get you down. I suggest though if ever YOU get a facebook page you put really nice pix of them on it and say nice things about them all just to show them up for what they are while you come out smelling of roses!!
Good Luck and Happy Holiday
2007-12-18 04:05:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u must care about ur hubby treats u and not his family, u r married to him and not to them. U just be urself, and be sure, if they are not nice with u, it's their loss. It's too short a life to live it hatefully. If u r this successful then maybe they feel threatened by ur success. However u be good to them so u don't appear to be the bad one, and try to ask ur husband why they r not nice with u,maybehe knows something
2007-12-18 04:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if I were u I would not worry about getting any complements from them ,,,sounds to me they are a bit jealous just continue to go on with Ur life and do not expect to receive any compliments cause sounds to me like they are jealous
2007-12-18 04:15:04 · answer #7 · answered by blugeanie923 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kitty maybe they are jealous, maybe they simply do not think to praise and worship you.
What is important is what you think of yourself, and the way you treat others... not how others treat people.... that's not up to you.. and you can't control anyone but you.
You also sound very vain?
2007-12-18 04:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be such a stuck up cow frankly his family is right to hate you. Everyone else does
2007-12-18 04:31:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure you know why, jealousy. women can be B****** when a more attractive and accomplished woman is present.
if they are snide to you in your own home, request that they no longer visit you (but speak to your husband about this first). i hate people without manners, and being rude (whether its said outright or just implied) to someone in their own home is about as rude as you can get.
2007-12-18 04:05:12 · answer #10 · answered by UnholyAngel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋