I'm an idiot and just plain dumb. Honestly, I'm in engineering it was my first year and we just finished the term in University. And I'm going to break down. All my exams are over but I don't know. I have a feeling I did really bad. From December 1st thru December 17th I studied stright non-stop for exams. I sacrificed food, money, friends, family, everything man just for getting good marks in exams. Either I'm stupid or just an idiot. I have a bad feeling I may need to repeat the term. My parents are so proud of me that I'm living on my own and studying engineering but at the same time I eel like I'm going to let them down. When I got accepted to this University (best in engineering in canada) everyone were suprised. I had friends who told me I won't make it but I did. But now I feel like there right. even though I made it I don't think I'm going to make thru first year. I mean my bro look upto me soo much and if I fail and have to repeat, I loose respect from everyone.
2007-12-17 19:34:13 · 18 answers · asked by VC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'll beak my parents hearts man. I love my parents like crazy and it's because of them I'm hear. But now, all because of this stupid hardass university here, I don't know what's going to happen next. I'm an idiot and just stupi for studying soo much and ending up like a loser about to fail. Trust me I aint no nerd though I'm more of a sports kinda guy but when it comes to work, I work real hard. I just feel like I'm going to let a lot of people down if fail. If i did fail I'm going to waste 5grand and just a whole year of my life asted. I'm serious, today I spent crying for a hole hour stright non-stop all by myself. And I NEVER cry. Like I've been so emotional hurt by all this...I just want people to pray for me that I do well
2007-12-17 19:36:57 · update #1
First of all, I must ask: How much sleep did you get? Because I know I'm about 10 times less smart when tired.
Besides, trying deserves respect in it's own right. I'd keep trying through the year. If you still can't, downgrade, but make sure to give yourself a pat on the back first for staying so long.
If it helps any, I'm wishing you luck on this right now, and I'll try to keep thinking of it until I fall asleep. : )
2007-12-17 19:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi... perhaps the first thing you could do is stop beating yourself UP! You are saying you are dumb and an idiot.. you have a terribly negative attitude about yourself.
second thing is, you are going to become an engineer on account of whom? YOURSELF? i HOPE that's the person you're working for, because you are supposed to be number ONE in your life... not mom, dad, the neighbor up the street, your brother, uncle or grandmother... YES they will be happy when you succeed, but PLEASE !! Do this because YOU want to do it~
now that i've gotten that out of my system, i sure hope you take heed and think about it.
I'm proud of you too.. you have a lot on your plate... apparently you have been in school for a while, are busy, and stressed and trying to do the best you can.
Do you know that people go through rough spells sometimes? And stress and worry over things, instead of just making their best effort and being done with it...
You seem to be doing the best you can.. You also seem overwhelmed with what other people think.. what about what YOU think?
No your "friends" are not right! You can do whatever you put your mind to doing. If you have to repeat something then chalk it up to a life experience... and just do it again...
And these "friends" who told you would would not make it are NOT friends.. they are idiots. More negativity in your life is something you do not need right now...
if you are having issues why not consider talking with the schools counselor, and your professors?
You WILL be successful and you'll make it... if you have bumps in the road to your success, just pick yourself up and dust off, put your head up high and try again... because YOU CAN do it!
sending hugs....
now go look into the mirror and tell yourself you are a wonderful person deserving of good things and that you can succeed.
2007-12-17 19:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People won't be disappointed in you if you don't do perfect your first semester. You've never been in this kind of world and it takes time to adjust. Just focus on the future. Look back at how you did and see what you can improve and what you've learned from this experience. It's perfectly fine if you have to repeat a class... plenty of people have to do it, and its not because they're stupid.
Most of all, you need to not beat yourself up over this. You can do it! You've made it this far and you can only move up from here. You're building momentum right now, so don't put a brick wall right in your path! Stick it out even though its hard to think you didn't do very well. Set a goal to do better every semester.... and breathe!
2007-12-17 19:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by Chamu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you will just have to wait and see your results.
If you just failed, and had adverse events that may have affected your learning during the year, sometimes you can appeal.
If you felt that you should have done better, go and see the person in charge of the subject to find out how you failed and that they have correctly recorded all your results.
Otherwise, you will just have to see what you can repeat next year.
The secret is to study right from the beginning of the year. If you do not study right through out the year, then you ru a severe riskof failing.
OTOH, if engineering is not for you, look at transferring to another course.
2007-12-17 20:26:41 · answer #4 · answered by Terryc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are under a great deal of stress. I am going to tell you that in 5 years you will look back and say, "Whew, that was an ugly time in my life, but now things are so much better. It sure seemed bleak back then!" My friend, time heals, and you are currently broken. But alas, you said a magic word: You care for your parents! You care enough to be stressed and believe me when I say this is a healthy and admirable thing. Some careless and insensitive sloths might say, "The heck with it, I don't care and the heck with my parents ....". You care and in this regard you have passed a mighty test in life!
I pray for you
n.b. Many many people repeat their grades and those who have difficulties and go on to correct them are more highly regarded than those who carelessly flash through something.
Hard work and thoughtfulness, and the ability to possess empathy will get you further in life (and beyond!) than all the A+;s in the world!!
2007-12-17 19:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by screaming monk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go home, & spend your break relaxing. What you have accomplished can never be taken from you, or your family. You are a human I assume, therefore you are not perfect. No one is. If retaking a course is the worst thing that ever happens to you, you can consider yourself blessed. Adversity builds strength, & perserverence. Buck up there the journey has just begun. By the way you have gained my respect for trying. May The Lord bless you, & your's.
2007-12-17 19:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by starry_skies1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you think you have did bad you didn't. just breathe and don't over proccess it. the hardest part is over, you finised the term. go eat, make money, and enjoy friends (and not the ones that were saying that you weren't going to make it. they not really your friends. i'm more of a friend than they are because a friend is someone who will encourage and help you to do your best.). and if you did your best, then you have done all you can. enjoy the holidays. when your grades come out, that is when you decide what action you need to take. and your brother will look up to you even more because you didn't let a bad semster stop you from prusuing your dreams. wish you the best....... and happy holidays!!!
2007-12-17 19:45:17 · answer #7 · answered by godvsl7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man give yourself a break. No body is perfect. Your friends realy need to grow up. A friend is there to suport and to encourage you, not to tell you that your stupid. There just jealous. You got your self into College not your friends. Your Brother should look up to you studing and pushing for what you want. Don't let anyone put you down. You have to be smart to get your self into college and now you just have do the same thing in college but to do it abit harder and to diseplin your self. Good for you because you got your self here not your friends.
2007-12-17 19:47:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your stressing over this too much and that you dont have alot of confidence in yourself. CHILL OUT!!! if you studied that hard Im sure you did good on your exams. Take a xanex and wait till you get the results of your exams then stress.
2007-12-17 19:40:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don,t think what will happen now, just go on and perform the basics of study lke attending class, finishing work on time and remember only the wrk is what you have to do and result is not in your hand
yo can achieve anything
just trust yourself
2007-12-17 19:41:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋