Engagement Ring / Jewlery Question........?

Question

My man bought me a beautiful ring yesterday for Xmas.... the center gem is my birthstone (heartshaped) and on each side it has 2 small real diamonds...the details/engravings in the ring are breathtaking and working in healthcare it's perfect cuz there is no stone set up higher than the ring so I won't catch it on gloves or anyones skin.
When he gave me the ring he asked me to marry him..... I said YES and he opened the box. I love the ring but it is not a traditional engagement ring & my friends are teasing me about the ring saying that because it's not at least a single solitare diamond ring that I can't say it's my engagement ring...... are they correct?
My cousin says that it don't matter it's a ring with real diamonds in it and I can be proud to show it off as my engagement ring cuz people today are different and not as traditional & choose different styles these days.
I just want to know if it's ok to show it off as my engagement ring or will I look silly saying it?

Also.... it is 10k white gold.... can I wear it 24/7 even in the bathtub/shower?
What type of metal do I want to stay away from if I want to wear something 24/7?
What type of metal is cheepest but yet can be worn 24/7 without changing color or looking cheep?

Thank You for all the great answers.... I just wanted a lilttle moral support and I got that so thankx.
TO MISVIV-
You said something that I'll remember forever & I will say it to people who tease me. My ring and the way it is styled shows that the diamonds on each side are my fiancee and myself joined by the large heart shaped gem in the middle.... thank you for that thought.... it was awesome.

Answer 1

He got you that ring because he loves you and wants to marry you. What's more important to you? Marrying him or wondering what other people are going to think??How do you think he would feel if he knew you were trying to hide it?? You should be honored and proud. Come on.

Answer 2

It sounds like the perfect engagement ring to me. It is unusual, and was bought and given with love. Congratulations. Remember before the de Beers diamond campaign, engagment rings were usually gemstones.
Not Forgetting Diana, Princess of Wales, who had the most famous engagement ring ever, and it was saphire.
Many women these days are choosing gemstone rings. I wanted a ruby, but my fiance was more traditional and got diamonds.
It is most definitely your engagement ring. An engagment ring is any ring given with a proposal from the man who loves you.
It sounds beautiful to me, and you wont look silly at all.
Your friends are the silly ones. Perhaps they are jealous of your lovely man, he sounds so nice, and went out of his way to find something unique, like your love!
10 karat white gold is probably the hardiest gold you can get. Some engagement rings are 14 k and some 18. The higher the number, the more pure gold is in it and the softer the ring is.
People often say you need to get white gold redipped. Well that all depends on how your skin reacts with the gold. When white gold is made it is gold mixed with silver and other metals. They then dip it in rhodium to make it look really white.
I have various rings in white gold, I have a 9 k band channel set with diamonds. It still looks at beautiful as it did the day I recieved it and I have worn it every day for the past 3 and a half years. I wear it to the beach, in the pool, doing the washing, to work, gardening. It still looks new. I polish it occasionally with a gold polishing rag. Some people think white gold is just plated yellow gold. This is rubbish. You only need to have white gold redipped if you are particularly hard on your rings or perdantic about wanting it to always look sparkley white.
10 k is pretty hard wearing. I wouldnt worry about it too much.
Enjoy your beautiful ring, and your beautiful man.
Happy holidays and I hope your future is as bright as the gorgeous ring on your finger......your ENGAGEMENT ring! :-)

Answer 3

Your friends are stupid, it has NEVER been the law that is has to be a diamond, or a certain size/shape stone, the ring is merely a symbol of your engagement and they are really stupid if they believe it has to be a diamond. Look at how many people DON'T have diamonds, or don't even have a ring, an engagement ring could be a piece of string, or the ring pull off a drinks can!! The thing that makes it an engagement ring is the proposal, he proposed, you accepted, so that makes you engaged, it has NOTHING to do with diamonds.

Answer 4

10K gold of any kind, white or yellow. No you don't look silly. As your cousin said, an engagement ring today is a ring that both parties love. Its not the ring that matters, its whats between the two of you. As long as you love the ring as an engagement ring, thats what counts. Not whether its a solitare. Traditions change and more people are wearing rings that suit them, than rings of old. Show it off and be proud of it. His love got it for you, its his love that you want forever.....not his ring.

And if people tease just tell them. We are different so we wanted our rings to be different with a huge smile on your face.

Answer 5

I agree with everyone else here, it isn't the stone in the ring that matters it is the proposal. It shows that your fiance knows enough about you to get you a ring you would love. When we started looking for rings I knew I didn't want the usual diamond ring. The more I looked the more I found I liked blue topaz. One day while shopping at K-Mart of all places I found the ring of my dreams and knew I had to have it. It originally cost less than $500 and we got it at 70% off. It wasnt the price of the ring or the style of the ring that made me engaged, it was his proposal. Sounds like you have a wonderful man who puts your wants first. Congratulations.

Answer 6

Engagements rings traditionally are meant to be made of the lady's favorite gemstone. My mum has a sapphire as she loves them & they are no less cheaper than a diamond. In the olden days most engagements rings were sapphire, emerald or ruby with diamonds on the side.

Diamonds are overrated. Most people these days would rather put the money they would spent on a diamond on a deposit for a house which in the long run is better for your future.

Tell your friends to shut up. They are only jealous.

If you look in any jewelery store these days you will only find fake sapphires, emeralds or rubys & you pay top dollar for a real one, you know why? Because they are the last of the real gemstones.

Diamonds are just compressed lumps of coal, really.

Answer 7

You obviously love the ring. It shows that your man knows you. Who cares what they think?

It's not silly to have a beautiful engagement ring of your choice. On the contrary, I think it sounds brilliant - two sparkling individuals joined by a heart-shaped gem. Definitely more meaningful compared to the solitaire diamond ring every fiancee wears. Be proud of it.

Wearing 10K gold 24/7 is fine but try not to expose the ring to highly acidic or basic liquid such as lemon juice and strong detergent. Avoid wearing gold while swimming in the sea too as this could corrode the nickel alloyed with your gold.

Answer 8

Do you love it? An engagement ring isn't about being flashy, it's a symbol of your love. If you want one with your birthstone instead of a diamond in the center, go for it. Who cares what anyone besides the two of you think. That goes for pretty much everything else in your relationship too by the way.

If people give you crap, just tell them you are not the traditional couple and wanted something that was special between the two of you. What makes everyone else happy isn't meant for you, but he sure is.

Answer 9

What a strange reaction from your friends.

First of all, they are unkowingly influenced by The Beers - International Diamond Price Fixers. They are preaching their holy message and they don't even get paid for it. Is that dumb, or what?

Secondly, and I really mean this: It is your engagement ring if you say so. A ring is a symbol between the two of you, and you define those symbols.
I saw a question about a girl who would not wear gold or diamonds because of personal beliefs. Who are her friends and collegues to say that whatever symbol she chooses is not real?

I don't care if it's a gold, diamong, or even if it's a ring, a tattoo or a piece of string. If you say it symbolizes your engagement, then it does!

Good luck, and choose your own path!!

Answer 10

sweetie, first of all congratulations on your engagement.
your ring sounds beautiful. your friends are wrong, your engagement ring is the ring he gave you when you accepted his proposal.
personally i find diamonds are so over-rated and so over-done! i love the uniqueness of using other stones such as semi-precious and precious stones. the birthstone gives the ring a truly personal flavour, and putting your birthstone in the ring is a lovely idea.
as for 10k white gold, i love white gold, and 10k is the hardest gold! the higher the karet, the softer the gold, the easier it is to have it bend out of shape! that is why you will find most men's rings are 10k!
my ring is a simple wide gold band in which my husband had our birthstones set in, and every time we had a child he took my ring back to the jeweller and had that child's birthstone set into it. there is no other ring like it on earth, it is truly unique and shows our family history in full colour! lol
your ring is the same, it is a truly unique engagement ring and you should wear it proudly!
good luck sweetie!
and
merry christmas!

Answer 11

Who said an engagement ring has to be a diamond? Just remember that Princess Diana's engagement ring was a blue sapphire with diamonds...It does not matter. Your friends should keep their stupid comments to themselves. You should tell them you wanted that color birthstone, and you didn't want the traditional diamond ring.