I'm 25 and a grad student , commuting from home to college, I have nothing to do with my Moms friends and have not seen her family in 5 years, i asked her not to put my name on her x-mas card, she told me as long as i live in her house she must put my name down along with my sister because it wouldnt look right otherwise..
Is she right? I dont want my name on them. makes me feel like a baby.
2007-12-17 18:18:17 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'm still living at home and a grad student because I have not completed grad school yet and do not have the money to work and pay for an apartment being that I go to school in Manhattan and the rent with a roommate is $3,000 a month for a 1 bedroom aparment share.
2007-12-17 18:30:27 · update #1
You are a whiny complainer and are acting VERY childish, what possible harm does your name on those cards do. Your mother is doing to save face that she feels she'd lose, or explanations that she'd have to make if suddenly your name wasn't on the cards.
Use your brain, thank your Mom for letting you leech off her at the age of 25, and get some therapy if something like this really makes you "feel like a baby".
How about thinking about all this before you comment and stick your foot further down your throat.
2007-12-17 20:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Haha... Don't feel like a baby just because your name is on the Christmas card. Even if you were 50 and living with your mom it's only right your name is on the card. It's just from whoever is living in the household. My aunt always puts her dog. My sister always puts her dog too. I had a cousin that used to put her son's name on it even after he moved out because he still partly lived at home, so it's just from a household really even if you don't see them. And although I'm no longer living with my parents, they still include me in cards as though the gift is from the whole family. Once you move out you can have your own cards.
2007-12-18 02:24:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want this to come out rude, I just want to say that at the start.
Is it really hurting anything that your mom is including your name on the family Christmas cards? Honestly, I would be offended if I lived under her roof and she didn't include me. If it makes her happy just let her do it and leave it alone. I mean, apparently she loves you or she wouldn't be still taking care of you. It's hard for mom's to let go. I have been married for 8 years and my mom still calls me by my maiden name when she yells at me, LOL.
Your mom loves you and is proud of you and I think it's nice that she still includes you on the family Christmas card. I mean this in the nicest way possible...it sounds like you need to grow up a little if this is bothering you this much. Choose your battles, if you even consider this a battle...
2007-12-18 02:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by Bexx 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Heaven's girl, she is just showing you some respect, you are part of the family, when you are on your own you can send out your own cards, these friends probably new you from a child or new about you, she is very proud of you and lets her friends know by acknowledging your existence. Do you really think it is worth making her feel bad. She loves you do the same for her, you be out soon enough and on your own.
Enjoy these times,with her don't argue about something so petty.
Merry Christmas
2007-12-18 02:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by wenver 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it really worth fighting over? Just let it go, it's no big thing. Here's some good life advice:
1. If it will not matter a year from now, don't worry about it.
2. Learn to pick your battles.
2007-12-18 02:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by nesmith52 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I moved out a year and 1/2 ago, and my mother still puts my name on all the cards she sends out. I think it's just how mothers are.
2007-12-18 08:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by grt_n_pwrfl_oz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I am going to go with your mom on this, you are living under her roof. My parents when they write their Christmas letters (when they do write one), will put details of me, my sister (and her family) and my brother in their letter. None of us live at home. So many people I know write about their families when they send out Christmas letters about their adult children. But you do live under her roof.
If you want to feel like a baby think about it this way. why are you still living at home at the age of 25 and a GRAD student????
2007-12-18 02:27:18 · answer #7 · answered by Artist Wanna Be 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The way I see it is if the children are unable to write their own names on greeting cards and if they live at home, then it is acceptable for parents to sign their childrens names.
I suggest if you don't want your mom signing your name on the cards, you can volunteer to sign your own name.
If you don't volunteer, you can't stop your mom from signing your name.
Any parent who doesn't include their childrens names on greeting cards, if their kids are living at home, probably don't care about their kids.
2007-12-18 02:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is sending her cards to other people from her family unit, that she considers includes you and your sister.
If you do not consider this to be the case then you need to let her know that you consider yourself separate, the best way to do this is to move out.
My mom has not included me on cards since I left home, and I have not included my daughters names on cards after they left home.
2007-12-18 02:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by Jabberwocky Jones 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think thr is anything for u to worry abt. May be she wants it to look like a family wish for her frds... Jus be cool abt it and dont think it makes u look like a baby... She is not asking u to put her name on ur frds' cards right? so jus let her do what she wants for her cards... Merry Christmas!!!
2007-12-18 02:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by Tani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋