well my son has been going there for almost 2 and a half months and he got used to everyone now but recently he started hitting his friends, my guess is because he cant talk yet so that might be a way of expressing himself ...plus i move alot we have been to travelling alot he didnt stay in one place fro more thatn two months ..and i guess now that he is growing up he doesnt like it much ..yesterday he woke up to say by bye while he is banging on the apartment door ..he is two and a half years old...so wut do u think is the best way to deal with that...i started to play mozart at night by his bed ...how about that?and thanks alot...
2007-12-17 16:52:07 · 12 answers · asked by REMO 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I am the mom of two semi-agressive children. The best advice I can tell you is he will grow out of it. Once they start verbalizing more remind him to use his words to express his feelings. Some tips that may help in the meantime: make sure your son has enough protein in the morning: cheese, turkey, soy protein works really well...(Power Bar Pria is a soy based granola bar). Be very stern with him and don't give in. When you pick him up, if he has hit, don't hug or cuddle say Mommy is very sad because you hit...no hitting....keep this up for a while. Also, when he hasn't hit make a big deal of it, extra cuddly...cheering..."yeah! Good Job"
Also, try to keep a consistent schedule. Most kids don't do well with change. The more consistent you can be, the better.
Good Luck!
2007-12-17 17:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by dhallkb 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all you may be blaming the wrong thing. What is preceding the hitting? Is a toy being taken away from him or is he being pushed or ignored? My son will hit but it takes him having a toy taken away or something to push him over the edge.
My son also talked late, he is just over 3 and has a few phrases and a lot of words and he can be frustrated easily if he isn't understood but he usually just walks away if he can't get his point across.
The preschool workers should be able to tell you what is preceding the hitting. If they can't than they are not watching the children well enough and you should look into another school.
Now that you are settled it will take time to adjust and just research child development for his age and you will understand him better.
Good luck!
2007-12-17 16:58:02 · answer #2 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some children at this age who would have occasional aggressive outburst that may be part of normal development. They are unable to control their feelings of frustration and anger. When a child becomes angry, he is quite limited in ways to express it. Handling such outburst can be the most challenging part of parenting. No child can be expected to learn to handle his anger immediately. It is a maturational process. Not until the child becomes six or older can he be expected to learn specifically how to handle anger maturely. Before I proceed further, there are some questions that need exploring.
What is your little boy at home like?
Is he the only child?
Does he have boundless amount of energy, gets bored easily, or concentrates on what he does not wanting distractions?
Anger and physical expression of hurting another may be due to two main factors. Genetically link or socialisation effects. Children learn by observing other‘s behaviour e.g. family, peers, and siblings. And the media. The media glamorise violence. A child’s reality is not fully developed to unable it to differentiate what is appropriate behaviour and what is not. They may believe that aggression is an acceptable way to solve problems.
Secondly, it’s important to examine the situation that brought forth such behaviour. Could his anger and frustration be triggered off because he is not getting what he wants? His actions can be a compensation for feelings of inadequacy, ineffective social skills or a means of covering up emotional or learning. Could other kids be seen as obstacles or distractions when he is concentrating on something? Or he may lack social skills in relating with other kids e.g. sharing his things, not understanding that other kids can be noisy, critical, unhelpful etc and not always accommodating like adults.
Finally, what you can do as a concern parent?
Monitor what T.V. programme your child watches. It has been proven that violent shows on T.V., computer games have an adverse effect on a child’s behaviour.
Provide outlets for you son to direct his negative energy towards something physical that is safe and healthy. Help him release his anxiety, tension, frustration through activities such as, sports, running, jumping, swimming, cycling, and open space.
2007-12-17 17:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert but it sounds like he might have some anger issues, possibly because of the moving? Get down to his level and calmly tell him that hurting people for whatever reason is unexeptable. Give the teachers permission at preschool to give him time outs ( 2 minutes for age 2.. 3 minutes for age 3 ..etc.) And show him the proper way to get someones attention.
2007-12-17 16:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by iflu_06 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm guessing you dont have any other kids?? but i have a babysitting day care in my home that is ran by my mother...i am 19 so i help out alot with the kids....but what we do when they hit/bite other kids we put them in a play pen in the middle of the room the other kids are in. So they can relize that when they hit or bite they arent allowed to play with other kids. Putting them in time out in an other room might work but it doesnt let them see that what they are doing is actually wrong....so it works for us...if he hits you i would try the play pen thing in the room your in and see hit that works.....hope this helps
2007-12-17 17:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by rachel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kudos to you for being such a caring and attentive mommy.
I doubt that it is anything to be overly concerned about. Sure it is not a nice feeling to know that your child is hitting at the daycare but it is anyone's guess why he was reacting that way...for all we know the other child hit him and he hit back a bit harder which made child one cry....
by the time you get there yoru child has long since forgotten about that incident and it would be pointless to remind him of it 4 hours later.
continue to do your best in soothing him.
and be patient with him HE IS ONLY 2
dont expect him to master all of the social nuiances that quite a few adults have yet to master
2007-12-17 16:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by lisa s 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No matter the age of a child they need to know that hitting is WRONG. Hitting kids, parents,animals anyone is wrong. I would put him in a naughty chair or certain spot so he knows it is wrong. Stick to it don't be a slacker. Do it ALL the time or it will not work.
2007-12-17 16:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your son acts up and has tantrums or does something which he shouldn't give him a good swat in the fanny. Get his attention! I never got one swat from my father while I was young. All he had to do was call my name and look. That did it. My mother gave me a few licks which were probably well deserved. One learns discipline and respect from his parents.
2007-12-17 17:05:07 · answer #8 · answered by googie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Spare the rod spoil the child.
Teach him that he needs discipline. There are consequences for his actions.
That is what a mother is for.
2007-12-17 16:55:20 · answer #9 · answered by customizedsongwriter Mike McCracken 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
explain to him why its wrong and put him in time out.
2007-12-17 20:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋