I made the mistake of inviting my sister on my work's local work retreat. Spent a Saturday evening on the mountain, and co-worker (semi-bigwig) ended up hitting on her. Now my sister says she's gonna date him (she says this in anger and knowing that he has money & a GF). I'm at a loss. My sister is vindictive. I've worked diligently for this company for 3 1/2 years and I'm a sole provider to my daughter and I. My sis is $ hungry, looking for a free ride. He's (my co-worker-big-wig) is a 2-timer looking for a lay.
I'm just trying to keep the peace, without being extorted by my sister. What do I do? Tell HR? Tell the two-timing suitor that I am not associated?? I honestly dont know.
Please help. I need to know my rights. If you have any questions I'd be happy to specify.
BTW-There is not a chance this relationship could work. This is highly revolved around $, and not love of any sort.
Again, plz advise.
2007-12-17 16:29:35 · 4 answers · asked by tobelove75 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Sigh, this is a very difficult situation. Unfortunatley, your sister's actions will reflect on you, even if you had nothing to do with it. My first step would be to talk to your sister. Tell her how important this job is to you, that her niece is dependent on you and that her actions will greatly affect you. How selfish can she be? I'm sure there are many other big-wig guys she can go after.
If that doesn't work, I would make things hard for her. Tell the big-wig guy that she has a bf, or whatever it takes to make him not interested in her. Or, you can be honest and say, "look i don't know what my sister is up to , but I have nothing to do with it." Not sure if that would go over well.
perhaps you can talk to HR and find out what options you have.
2007-12-17 17:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay out of it unless or until the relationship ends badly and Bigwig starts taking it out on you. What you can do now is keep extensive documentation of everything to do with your job performance (e.g. if BW or anyone sends you a complimentary memo or e-mail) so that you have hard proof of your value to the company and that you are a good employee.
Good luck-nice sister.
2007-12-18 00:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by barbara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them be and let him know that you value your job more than the sis (only in this relationship) and if/when it ends please keep you out of it. Tell him you are worried that it will reflect on you and you don't care one way or the other if he sees her or not. If you go to HR then they will tell him and the first small real mistake you make you will be let go.
2007-12-18 00:35:20 · answer #3 · answered by Linda S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well from my prespective this hasn't got a thing to do with you other than the fact you work with the guy, and related to the sister
warn her, let them work it out amongst themselves
2007-12-18 00:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by HL2k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋