OK here goes...There's this girl I like ALOT. We've gone out twice now and the other day she was in a cranky mood and was like "I really like you as a friend and I don't think that will ever change." At the time she said that we had only gone out once. We went to the Steeler game yesterday and spent the whole day together. Breakfast, the game, and dinner. It was a total blast (she even text me at 12:30 last night to tell me that). Now down to the stuff that all of you have tuned in for. Well walking out of the stadium she grabs my arm (she said it was to pull me through the crowd so she didn't lose me) which them led to her holding my hand (at this point I'm like WTF?! cause of her comment earlier in the week). when i dropped her off I got a huge hug and a kiss on the cheek. What's your professional opinions? Does she like me or not?
2007-12-17 15:59:14 · 20 answers · asked by Rich 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
kiss on the cheek normally means i just want to be friends.
2007-12-17 16:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by Jaim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Professional opinion? Hm, okay. In my professional opinion, when a girl holds a guy's hand, she displays some sort of attraction towards him, although it might be purely platonic, as there are cases where a girl would even get in bed with a guy without ever wanting him to be her boyfriend. This type of girls would often be referred to as sluts. Ordinarily, however, anything beyond a casual hug or kiss on the cheek, i.e. a kiss on the mouth, provocative stroking, etc., would mean that she is very attracted and emotionally attached to you, and that asking her out would not be a bad idea. Given the fact that she has not done anything to "cross the line", one would think that she is still simply acting friendly. Given the other fact, however, that you're surprised by her recent actions, which would suggest that she has not ever given you any hugs or kisses before, might indicate that her recent actions were meant to surprise you, that is, there's something developing which wasn't developing before, although no one could say with certainty as to what kind of thing that is. Therefore my professional opinion would suggest that you stay where you are and not risk your friendship, and simply enjoy the new hugging and kissing and spending time together. After all we trap one another in cages only because we don't want anybody to steal our beloved, and we have a sense of security only for a while before one of us finds another free bird out of the cage and escapes, and then we feel lonely in our own cage, in which we had locked ourselves to be together, undisturbed by others.
2007-12-18 00:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by Maus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a classic case of 'nice guy' syndrome. You're fun, friendly, and available, but you're not necessarily cool, popular, or drop-dead gorgeous. A lot of girls, especially girls under 30, somehow get it stuck in their head that they're only supposed to date people who are popular, because that's what makes them popular. In their hearts, though, they know that you're good for them and that they have a good time around you. So what do they do? First, they shower just enough attention and affection on you to make you keep being nice to them and keep spending time with them--that way they don't have to give up the pleasure of your company. Second, they tell you flat-out that they only like you as a friend--that way they can sleep at night because they can pretend that they're not leading you on. Third, they will date and make out with classically popular kids whenever they have the opportunity.
So the good news is that she likes you. The bad news is that this does NOT translate into any realistic possibility that she will be your girlfriend. The good news is that girls as a whole mature as they get older, so eventually you'll meet a girl that doesn't pull lame stunts like this one does. The bad news is that this can take a heck of a long time, during which your current crush could wind up abusing your tendency to be nice to her. The good news is that you can stand up for yourself and tell the girl that if she doesn't want to be more than friends, then you don't want to take her on awesome dates and show her a fabulous time--instead, you'll just say hey when you see her in the lunchroom or whatever. If you get really lucky, maybe she'll realize how stupid she's being and change her mind. More likely, though, she'll take you up on your offer, and then you'll have more time to find an unusually mature girl about your age who sees genuinely fun guys like you for the awesome people they are. Stay true to yourself, but don't be a wimp!
2007-12-18 00:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, don't listen to what women say, listen to how they act. Second don't worry about whether she likes you or not, just keep having as much fun with her as you possibly can. Then when and if ever the time is right just kiss her. Theres no need to ask about if she likes you or not. Sometimes women really do just want to be friends, but usually there open to more than that as long as you always treat them like they're not just a friend. No one can read her mind, but chances are she's open to the idea of being more than friends. Have fun with it.
2007-12-18 00:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by captaincoolbeard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She got caught up in the excitement of the day? Nah, just kidding. I think she may have liked you holding her hand and you showed her a good time at the game. Maybe you have a chance after all.
2007-12-18 00:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by Time To Go 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, when you like someone as a friend do you let them know it? I learned recently to hear what people have to say to me. My ex was my friend. He told me several times that I would always be a life long friend. I just never listened and pushed the relationship into something it was not.
I think that she may like you but she is not looking for a relationship.
2007-12-18 00:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by swedegirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she just like you as a friend, for now. Give it sometime and see how things go with her, continue taking her out and hanging out with her. You could even try and date another girl, and tell her about, if she seems to get jealous about it, then she def. has a thing for you. Sometime us girls can be very confusing, and sometime we expect you to just know certain things... I hope this helps. Good luck with her.
2007-12-18 00:07:18 · answer #7 · answered by OMGflyingMONKEYS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girls say a lot of things when they're in a cranky mood! Maybe she didn't mean what she said. In other words, yes she likes you =]
2007-12-18 00:03:03 · answer #8 · answered by ▀▄▀▄▀ кαяίs ▄▀▄▀▄ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's tough, If I was in your place I would just go with the flow and just see where it leads to. Eventually you will be able to tell easily whether she does or doesn't.
2007-12-18 00:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by Blobofgoo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
SOUNDS LIKE SHE WANTS TO BE FRIENDS MAN BUT GOOD FRIENDS YOU NO NOTHING WITH BENEFITS ABOUT THE COMMENT ASK HER WHAT SHE ACTUALLY MEANT BY IT SO U GUYS R FRIENDS U MOVE ON FIND YOURSELF A GIRL AND BE THE GOOD PERSON YOU ARE LET HER WANT TO BE JUST FRIENDS GOOD LUCK
2007-12-18 00:05:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋