Okay so I am having issues figuring everything out..Is having your wedding and reception at a hotel tacky??? My best friend thinks it is...Also would having just salad bar, sandwiches and fruit or something like that come off as cheap??? We are on a VERY TIGHT budget and i have over a year to plan but the details are driving me crazy...HELP!!!! Feel free to IM me...
THANKS EVERYONE!!!
2007-12-17 15:04:51 · 9 answers · asked by luvinlife1020 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
hotel is fine but I would re-think the food part
2007-12-17 16:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Vanessa♥ஐ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A reception with a light meal like that would be appropriate for a daytime get-together. The food would not be a meal but more of a lunch.
Now, the question of whether you could do that at a hotel is another story. I doubt it. Better to rent a hall and get the salad, sandwiches and fruit catered.
You might even be able to book a space in a public park and have an outdoor reception. Weather, though, is always the wild card.
Getting married at the same location as the reception is becoming more and more common. Get a justice of the peace (or whatever they are called in your area) or a member of the clergy to come to the site and perform the ceremony. Nothing at all wrong with that.
You CAN have a wedding on a budget. The thing to keep in mind is to keep the tone light and fun. Stay away from the formal bits and nothing will look cheap.
2007-12-17 23:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ceremony and reception were at the same location, even the same room. We didn't want to be rushing around from hotel to ceremony to reception and back to hotel. It's not tacky at all. As a guest, I prefer it, actually. It saves me time and the headache of finding the place and parking twice.
A salad bar and sandwiches would be fine for a post-lunch or mid-morning reception. You might ask your reception site if they have a salad and sandwich selection instead of a salad bar. Or, just go with finger sandwiches and cut vegetables for folks to nosh on. If it's done tastefully (maybe spring for nicer flatware, plates and napkins), then it can be just as beautiful as a sit-down meal.
Just because you're hosting your wedding doesn't mean you have to feed folks a lavish meal. It's about the couple and enjoying the state of marriage. Stick to your budget! If folks are going to hassle you over how you plan your wedding and reception, then they don't have to come. Simple as that.
2007-12-18 19:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by Willow Natalia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
Why would your friend think it is tacky? I don't understand. Many, many couples are doing this. A hotel banquet room is usually very nice.
Now the meal....yes, you can have a light meal of salad bar, sandwiches, fruit, etc. BUT, as others have mentioned, check with the hotel first. That is how they make their money (on banquets), so see what they are willing to offer you.
Also, if they say OK....you would want to do this as a lunch and not a dinner. You would want to have a late morning 11:30 or 12 noon wedding and then a light lunch after. The meal you suggest would NOT work if you want something in the evening. Your guests would expect more.
Now, if they hotel does not allow this...then you still have other options. Look at other banquet facilities that let you bring in a caterer.
Good luck!
2007-12-17 23:37:18 · answer #4 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's certainly not tacky, provided it's not Motel Six. You can have a beautiful wedding at a hotel. If you want to keep the affair low-key, that's fine too. Sandwiches and salads are o.k., but you can also do a lot more with a limited budget. Have it in the early afternoon rather than evening, so people aren't expecting a full dinner. Order from a local restaurant rather than having it catered, or have family cater it. There are lots of options. Either way, people are mostly going to remember you and your new husband, not the food or decor. They are coming there to celebrate you. Congratulations.
P.S.- Your friend's opinion matters why???
2007-12-17 23:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think hotels are tacky. They tend to be a little expensive though, so you may want to keep looking. Maybe you can find a hall. As far as your food selection, if that's what you have to do, go for it. However, you may want to have a late-morning wedding with a lunch or afternoon reception. If you have a reception in the evening, people expect real food.
2007-12-18 11:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by Allison L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt there is a hotel that would allow you to have that sort of reception- usually they offer either a full buffet or a sit down dinner. That might not be your best bet. Try looking for creative spaces in your area. Go to theknot.com and check out the local message boards, see what other brides in your area have been able to do on a budget.
Good luck.
2007-12-17 23:13:36 · answer #7 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding is just that...YOURS...feel free to do whatever you want with it. And if anyone doesnt like it just look at them and say "when its your wedding you can do that" I went to a wedding this past summer that was at a park...the reception was just a little rented shelter and they served pancakes for the food..this was at 3pm. So be creative and if its cheap too.....even better
2007-12-18 15:58:17 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knock your "classy" best friend off the wedding invite list and save a few bucks. Good luck and congratulations.
2007-12-18 00:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋