I usually head back home to Cali for Xmas but this year my sis could not travel back because she just started a new job. I didn't want to leave her here in PA by herself for Xmas so I decided to stay back so she wouldn't have to spend the holidays alone. My mom and brother decided that they would fly over to spend Xmas and New years with us since my sis could not make it which is very sweet. Well i just found out that my sis is making plans to go party with her friends in Miami new years eve and she hasn't told me or my mom anything about it. I am upset bcuz we all made the sacrifice to stay here and b with her and now shes planning her own thing behind our backs. I am upset bcuz i wanted to travel to the caribbean for new years eve too but i decided since my mom is flying all the way here for my sis i will spend the time with her instead. Do u think she is being selfish and should I have every reason to be upset. Its not the 1st time she made other plans behind my back.
2007-12-17 14:45:35 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes you have every right to be upset... You have given up going away for Christmas and new year for her... to make sure she wasn't lonely and by herself during this time of celebration.. i would be extremely disappointed in her!!!
You go ahead and by angry and upset with her!!!!
2007-12-17 14:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by misscutie62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have every reason in the world. Had she made these plans and informed you BEFORE you made the sacrifice for her, then you shouldn't be that angry. But because she's done this after the fact- and behind your back- then yes I think you deserve to be mad. You ought to tell her to grow up and spend Christmas with her family like she should- tell her that she only gets to see her family every so often and she'd feel horrible if she lost her mother (saying hypothetically your mother passed away this next year... which I hope doesn't happen of course) and didn't spend Christmas with her.
Try to prevent her from making this mistake! If you can't, there's not much you can do- but you have every right to be pissed. But what do you expect if she's done it before?
2007-12-17 14:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have every right to be pissed, and I'd tell her, but don't let that spoil your plans with your Mom & brother. Enjoy them and be forwarned your sister is very selfish and thinks only of her self. I guess to her Xmas holidays didn't include New Years Eve. Remind her Xmas season isn't over until News Day.Next time make your plans according to you.
2007-12-17 14:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by luvsmusiz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I can assume your sister knew that you were staying in Pa for her, right? If that's the case then she is being very insensitive. Selfish is a nice word! The only thing you can do is enjoy the holiday with the family and learn a lesson from this. Did she even invite you to the party in Miami? That would be sweet of her. I hope you told her how you feel. Please do that. MERRY CHRISTMAS to you.
2007-12-17 14:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by Watching in Westminster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have all the reason in the whole wide world 2 get mad at her but a quick question 2 u if she's done that be 4 then y feel bad 4 her and not go home 2 ur familly? well u have all the right 2 be mad at her i would tell he in her face explain 2 her how u cancled u plans 4 her and then she went off and planed something 4 her...tell her it was wrong i know she's not a little girl bt just tell her maybe she will learn or do it 2 he so she can know how it feels i know its mean but tell her its karma ^_^
2007-12-17 14:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by ~Dani~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she should have told you about the plans ahead of time, but you are over reacting a little because you guys came up their mainly for the sole reason of christmas, not new years eve. if she distinctly told you not to go to the caribbeans, then you have a reason to freak out. but i would enjoy the time with your mom, at least she will get to enjoy your company instead of both daughters being gone on new years.
2007-12-17 14:51:02 · answer #6 · answered by "Your Name" on my *SS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do and i dont. :) haha. i mean she is her own person and it does seem selfish of her. but at the same time you can't change someone that is definetely set on something and is that stubborn. some people mind just overlook things like otherpeople and think about things that THEY want to do instead of others. i mean she might have fun @ the party and all but later on down the road, she might wish she saw her mom and u or something. dont worry i think u have a right to be mad though. i would be too. just step up and be the better person this time.
2007-12-17 14:50:19 · answer #7 · answered by Nick T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very upset because you stayed behind for her and her feelings ,I think she should have enough denseness to stay their with you and then your mom and brother are flying that way I think she is very selfish, and should think about others tell her the way you feel!
2007-12-17 14:52:44 · answer #8 · answered by nicole s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your all adults, so you should speak out to what you really want to do for your holidays!
I'd be upset but would get over it. Why can't you tell your mom you would like to go to caribean new years eve and have her leave early so you can still go???
2007-12-17 14:51:33 · answer #9 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do have every reason to be pissed. You can't just tell someone that you're planning something with them, and they go and do a different thing. It's ditching. Your sister isn't being very respectful of your alls decision to stay in PA for x-mas.
2007-12-17 14:49:22 · answer #10 · answered by HaweeSaurus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋