So I just finished my first semester of college going for a Registered Nurse... Im sooo happy... about that... but now everything seems to be going wrong. I just found out two days ago my girlfriend might be pregnant I we arent telling anyone till we know for sure. (shes 17 im 19) A few hours ago I just found out my mom may have just got layed off... my parents just found out me and my girlfriend were having sex... they could have reacted worse I guess... I work a not well paying part time job. I would have to probably leave school, get a full time job, move out, marry my girlfriend... but I just dont have the money or support to do these things... Im going to be the best dad possible, and I would never think about leaving my girlfriend, I love her way to much. We were planning on moving in together next year.. but mabe thatsll have to be sooner... I think I may have just screwed myself over, I mean how am I supposed to tell my parents now?!
2007-12-17 13:55:17 · 42 answers · asked by teh_masta_of_all 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I should mention where im from the age of concent is 14, and her parents love me... well at the moment anyways... so when I said Im screwed thats not why, Im screwed because of what I mentioned and because of how I cannot possibly tell my parents and have it go over well...
2007-12-17 13:59:37 · update #1
ok first i really don't care about getting best answer so this is ALL honest! i am sooo sorry about all this!!! next time wear a comdon please! yooh should tell yur parents the truth! trust me it WILL end! i mean they aren't going to yell at yooh forever... i mean they "did it" i think no matter what yooh SHOULD finish yur skewl...my parents had the hardest life becuz they were tooo poor to even afford 2nd to 12th grade, soo work hard!!! i'll pray for yooh!!!!!!!! and i have faith in yooh! lol... i knoe u'll be a great dad
2007-12-17 14:02:52 · answer #1 · answered by Loser(x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a big problem, who's l9 these days and ain't screw'n
As for your parents, you are a father now, you have to grow
up. They are going to have to accept you for what you are.
Your girlfriend needs to get started in school with you so
that you both will have an interest to study and get some
financial aid. With the two of your grants, loans and tuition
aids, you two can get an apartment together. I would
recommend that you keep you partime job. By the time
you have your baby you will have completed at least a yr
of your nursing degree. After the baby is born your girlfriend
can get a part time night job or weekend. Make sure you
guys get the health insurance that is available through
your college. Good Luck
2007-12-17 14:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one...But you should just get it out and into the open. Delaying it will only fester the situation and soon enough everyone will know anyway. Your parents will be disgruntled to say the least...But they'll give you some information on how do deal with your situation, as they were your age at one time. As for your schooling? I cannot see why you can't stay in school and work at the same time. I finished full time while in college while working a full time job. It was very difficult and I lost A LOT of sleep!!! But I got it done.
2007-12-17 14:02:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you'll have to bite the bullet and tell them. It's pretty hard to keep pregnancy a secret for long. Between both sets of parents, they would probably offer some help, either financial or child care so you can continue your education. You are to be admired to recognize your responsibility, and I think your families will take that into consideration and help you out. It may be tough going at first, but you will need your profession in order to earn enough money to support a wife and child. So the sooner you get this all out in the open, the better it will be for everyone concerned. Good luck!
2007-12-17 14:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that the greatest things life can offer happened to your girlfriend and that you are the proud father that wants nothing but happiness for his son. Seriously I no somethings may seem unexpected but its all planned out by the lord and a baby is the best thing. But I wouldn't let that stop you from your dreams I mean maybe if you tell your parents they maybe mad but more concerned and may help you discuss how you can have a son and go onto your dreams and which nurses make good money that money will help support your family but regardless you'll be happy after the storm is over but don't disband your dreams unless your certain that you cant afford it. Good luck Man
2007-12-17 14:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by jesse L. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 19 and while your parents are your parents, you are a grown man. If your girlfriend is pregnant, you didn't "screw yourself". Like you said you will be the best dad you can. That's an accomplishment and you don't want to let your parents down so it sounds like you are responsible with values you can pass on to your little one. It's not the end of the world. It may be different than you had pictured but life is a mix of unexpected things. SOme pleasant and some not. I think this one could be one of the pleasant ones. Good Luck!!
2007-12-17 14:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by nivea41176 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do the right thing, your parents will know sooner or later, you will have to tell them but not now, wait till the right time as they seem to be going through some rough times. The most important thing is take care of your gf and future child, things will get better with time as you are still young and will have a chance to go back to school and finish your education even as a part time student.
2007-12-17 14:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by SandCat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you guys should move in together sooner and work out your schedules so someone will be home for the baby. Actually, if you ahve a kid, going to school is paid for if you a single parent. You even qualify for housing assistance. I had a friend that did that and they even gave her a check every month.
YOur not screwed. and stay in school. Your better off in the long run. RN is only a two year program and you get like 20 a hour to start. Its worth the commitment. Do it for your kid.
Good luck friend.
2007-12-17 14:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by Kristin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, try not to get in panic mode until you know for sure. I'm assuming she's going to do an at-home pregnancy test. If she is...look at it this way - it's not like you are the first or last couple this has or will ever happen to. I'm betting your parents love you very much and will be very supportive once they are over the shock and other emotions they will have when you tell them.
Good luck, be strong. It will all work out!
2007-12-17 14:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by Collinsville Cookie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep going to school!!! It might be difficult at first but it will pay off! You will be able to take care of them better. She can work too! I was operating a crane through nearly half of my pregnancy. Whatever you do just don't quit school. It is possible to go to school with a child. Get wic....she can apply right now while pregnant. Also apply for subsidized day care and housing. It will help you guys out a lot. I only have wic and it helps. The wait list for the other two things are long so hurry! Good luck. AND PLEASE don't quit school!!!
2007-12-17 14:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by meekee02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geesh.. well you probably shouldn't be having sex. If your girlfriend isn't pregnant then I would get her on some birth control before even looking at her again lol. It sounds like you have too much going on to worry about having a baby right now. Get her a pregnancy test, or take her to the doctor so that you can be sure. And like I said, if she isn't pregnant, birth control or abstinence are the only answer.
Wait until you know for sure to tell your parents.
2007-12-17 14:00:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋