OK, well, I love my boyfriend to death, withall of my heart. I want to be with him forever. We've been together a year, and recently things have been at the worst. I messed up a while back, just by being too "emotional" or whatever, but I wanted to be with him so much and so I decided to do better and I have. I've definitely done all I can for him. Well, things used to be wonderful, we were so close and I could tell he wanted to be with me everyday and I could tell he was just as crazy about me. Lately it hasn't felt that way. Because of something I did a while back, he's said he's "lost feelings for me", but yet he still wants to be with me. I found a journal of his where he mentioned wanting to be with other girls, and how he regretted not takling to someone, and how he HAS to talk to this one girl sometime this year. And I just broke up with him, I wasn't upset, I just felt so disrespected and worthless, so I let him go. But he kept calling me, and of course I DON'T want to lose him. Now I'm thinking about moving, I want to just be his friend so he can think about whether he really wants to be with me or not. I told him this, since he's supposedly lost feelings for me. But he never does anything for me, he never asks to be with me, he never wants to call me because he truly wants to. I can just tell he's lost feelings for me as well. As heartbreaking as it is, I told him I'd be his friend while he thought about, but he says he's sure he loves me and he;s sure he wants to be with me forever. He keeps changing his mind. I want to believe him because I want to be with him, but I don't know. I know nothing will probably change and I'll end up hurting again. What should I do???
2007-12-17 12:45:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just a thought start by clearing your mind and vision the things you want most in your life. Put on a balance all the good thing and all the unpleasent things about your relationship with him. One will surly outweigh the other. It is never in your best interest to be unstable its the worst feeling, i kno. People will never change unless they themselves want to. The hardest thing to do is to let someone go if you have strong feelings for them. But it is only then that you will realize what kind of a person he really is. It will also open your eyes to many other posibilities. Love is the hardest thing to describe and feel. It is an addiction to how the other person makes you feel. One yearns for the others attention in many aspects. But like all drugs there builds a tolerance. And who is to say either of you will find better? Think about what you truly want. To be certain or forever in question.
2007-12-17 12:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an ex that sounds just like this. You really have to listen to your gut on this one. Honestly, a guy will say anything and do anything to avoid losing someone in his life; especially someone he is on the fence about. You read his journal right? And he mentioned another girl and you noticed his "loss of feeling." I say, move on. It is always hard to be friends with an ex because you never know where to draw the line. Of course you're attracted to him and wish he would change; but, guys, in my experience, are pretty much straight forward, stubborn human beings. They won't change over night.
It's like that phrase: "you don't know what you had until you lost it." But I say, "if you're too blind to not know what you had in the first place, you don't deserve it anyway." This is exactly what you have to say to this guy.
You know that you'll end up being hurt...so why put yourself through the agony when Mr. Right could be right around the corner? Don't go back to something you know wasn't working out towards the end when you could have something better in the future. You know?
Good luck in your decision.
2007-12-17 20:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by nagem277 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on no matter if you love him. If he loves you and wants to be with you forever like you say...he would give you another chance to make things right...but if he's still thinking about it...then its best to just part ways for good. i know its hard because you have strong feelings for him, but if he's not understanding that or doesn't want to be with you because at the moment he's interested in seeing other people than its best that you dnt put your hopes up. remember if its meant to be its meant to be. let him go, if he comes back then he was yours but if not he never was.
2007-12-17 20:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by BLACKEST- i 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being in an unhealthy relationship is no way to live, no matter how much you love someone sometimes it just doesnt work out. i say u should move on, it will take some time but you will get thru it. there is one other option, talk it out in couples counseling, if nothing comes of that it's time to move on.
2007-12-17 20:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take time to get over him but u will...move on to someone who can give u all the love and respect u deserve..u dont deserve that stress...moving wont make it any better and u talking to him will only make it harder...
good luck!
2007-12-17 20:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definately be friends for awhile and see what he wants to REALLY do. If it is meant to be all will go well. If you rush it, it may never work out.
2007-12-17 20:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by CRXJ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
id say get back together with him, and if it doesnt work out again, and he says he wants to get back together, reject him
2007-12-17 20:58:28 · answer #7 · answered by reddy0031 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
end the relationship.
2007-12-17 20:48:45 · answer #8 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋