Dreamed about falling in love with a transgendered person?

Question

Last night, I dreamt that I was at a college mixer. It was in a gym where there was also a garage sale going on. I ended up meeting a group of girls, and one of them announced that she'd found the perfect mate for me. It made no sense because they weren't people I knew in real life, but they were familiar to me in the dream. Anyway, they took me to meet this person, who was an FTM. He had dark hair, a wide face, and a slender, delicate form. I didn't really care what gender he was; I just thought everything about him was so attractive. But he was shy and aloof. The rest of the group encouraged me to get him alone so I could ask him out. The moment we were alone, the dream ended. My question is this: why am I dreaming about a transgendered person? Though I dated a transman one time, I primarily practice a straight lifestyle. Does the dream mean that I want to incorporate masculine and femine traits into myself? Or that I'm open-minded about who my soulmate should be?

Answer 1

Truthfully, I believe that we are all a little of both sexes. Our personalities have male and female characteristics but different proportions of these. For instance every man has a "Feminine Side" and a woman can become violent if the situation calls for it. Now, this could be representing a secret yearning for something different, and your dream is attempting to say this without breaching dogmatic boundaries. To me this is an acknowledgement that you want a sensitive man, attractive, and somewhat reserved. The aspect of transgendered transcends the label herein. You are unique and require a special type of man. One who breaks the mold and is a little feminate.

Answer 2

My question is this: why am I dreaming about a transgendered person? Though I dated a transman one time, I primarily practice a straight lifestyle. Does the dream mean that I want to incorporate masculine and femine traits into myself? Or that I'm open-minded about who my soulmate should be?

I think you have answered your own question really, you are open minded enough to have dated a transman, and open minded enough to know what transgendered is, you say that your preference is hetero, but imply that you have tried other relationships as well, so I would say that your intuition is on target, and you are open to the possibility that you may find your soulmate residing in an unexpected package, and open to accepting it, whatever form it should take, or it could be that you are seeking to balance qualities that society considers "masculine" and "feminine" within yourself...........

Answer 3

I'm not familiar with all the terminology here. FTM. Does that mean a man dressed like a woman? If that's the case, I believe it is saying without giving a doctoral dissertation here as to why, that you are seeking or are needing the emotional and psychological traits of both sexes at this time. Not that you are seeking a permanent relationship with either a man or a woman or a FTM. It's saying I think you want to feel protected and yet sensitively cared about the way a women does. You need tender-loving care. You need to feel pampered and babied. Who doesn't? But I feel you must be feeling particulary lonely lately, as it seems you need a heapin dose from the best of both sexes, in an emotional, non-sexual way.

Answer 4

You stated you're straight and you're attracted to an FTM (Female-to-Male) , which means you're still straight because an FTM is a male that feels they were born in the wrong body form and have or will get corrective surgery to fix their body to match their inside gender identity as male.

If you were attracted to females, then you could be bi-sexual.

The advantage that an FTM has over a genetic male is that, though we are male completely inside, we have the unique priviledge of being able to understand a lot of things a genetic female has to go through from dealing with preferrential treatment given to men at the work place; women not being given best pay, best promotions or having to fight real hard for them, to the physical and emotional things the female body puts a person through, hormonal ups and downs, PMS, etc. It gives us the chance to be more understanding, sympathetic and have empathy for women in a way a genetic man would never be able to do as well.

Perhaps you're looking for the qualities in a mate and I would say it does also signify your open-mindedness to who your soul-mate is, because real love is gender blind.

Answer 5

i am assuming from yr icon you are female? u feel at ease with the girls at college because part of you identifies with them, possibly their feminine side...or either personality traits of these girls. a garage sale selling secondhand goods...you are shedding parts of yourself that is not needed any more. one of these girls announces she has found the perfect mate for you...you are still relying on other people to make your desicions...it is time for you to branch out and decide who you are actually attracted to...but still feel possibly a bit fearful and confused about who it may be, as you are still identifying with this other group of girls. you are seeking variety in yr life...perhaps you are not ready to settle yet, you are still on yr journey. you are attracted to this new man but perhaps you are not ready to take this chance, as neither is he...being shy and aloof. i think basically what the dream is saying is that you seek variety in yr sex life...and u are still on your journey to find the right mate for you....the dream is just processing all your feelings about this topic...but tis okay, you dont have to decide just yet about what you want exactly.

Answer 6

Maybe love over-rides the gender for you?

Strangely enough I had the same dream.. but instead of being in a party, I was at a theatre. Years later I met someone like that who I clicked with.. but I resisted him/her because I didnt want that lifestyle. They hated me for it, but I dont regret it.

Did you have any other dreams like this?