Gay men and nasty girls talk,?

Question

in my work place, there is gay guy who joined a work group of 4 females and since then I can hear them talking nasty girl talk with him. on the first day he came in they were actually talking about not wearing underwear under their uniforms to seduce men !!!!! and today (which is only my third occasion there, they were talking about menses and one girl were saying that she needs a pad, and they all kept joking about and they were saying some stuff like " last month I was just pouring, blah blah".Totaly disregarding he is in fact a man regardless of sexual orientation.

offcourse they don't say such things when they know I am or any other straight man around. but for some reason it is ok to discuss these things with him because he is Gay.

Also is it appropriate for him to join this conversation???
We also have a lesbian coworker but we guys don't discuss such nasty guy's business in front of her, she is still a woman regardless that she is very musculine.
What do you think

ok so let me put it this way, I am VERY comfortable discussing menses with them and it doesn't offend me at all. why did they all shut up when they knew I am around.

My question is, would you talk about such things with me, I am comfortable with it, if not, why not???

The whole things seems very stupid for me, a man is a man regardless of sexual orientation, if it is impolite to talk about such things in front of men, then gays shouldn't be an exception.

And the final question what if he was BI. would it still be appropriate???

Answer 1

You'd be surprised. At my past job, we had a gay person who was allowed to use the women's restroom and the women were okay with it. I guess your co-workers considered him as being one of the girls.

Answer 2

The real question here is whether or not this kind of talk is appropriate for the workplace, or would it better belong in a bar after work? I think the answer to that is pretty clear.

P.S. The gay guy is probably totally grossed out by the menses talk too, I've never known a gay guy who wouldn't have thrown up a little in his mouth upon hearing that kind of thing. And I used to work in an AIDS testing center, I've known a lot of gay men.

Answer 3

NO NO NO only because such subjects in the workplace are unacceptable!!!!
Such subjects are offensive and unessesary. You or any co worker should keep sexual orientated disscusions out of the workplace entierly.It is illegal to have such subjects openly and with others while in the place of employment.
When does anyone work??? Be a better employee,spend your effort on job skills and preformance not poor work ethics and immproper behavior.
Sorry you have to decide which sexual issue to think about instead of work and goals. Get a New job

Answer 4

Personally all personal and private male and female issues are inappropriate at work regardless of the sex. It is insulting to everyone to be so blatant about such matters in that environment. It certainly isn't professional. Many women feel "safe" around gay men but it doesn't make it right to throw it out there in public. If they want to do so in a club or home setting, fine, but they should be thinking twice about doing so in a professional setting. I wouldn't join in the conversation if you wish to continue your professional career with your firm.

Answer 5

I think your overacting a little bit. If the woman feel comfortable talking about such things around him it shouldn't bother you. Most woman do feel fine about talking to gay men about girl things. Also its not just gay men I am straight and lots of my closest friends are girls and they talk to me about such things. I would just let it go.

Answer 6

They connect with a gay man bgecause they feel comfortable around him. He lets is femine side show and thats what their connecting with him. As far as you not talking to the lesbian at your job, thats on you. She is still a female and that shouldnt matter she might just be able to relate to men more then she can women. You never know untill you talk to her. It soes matter if your gay or not its how comfortable you feel with that person gay or straight. This is comming from a lesbian perspective.

Answer 7

The reason why women do it to gay guys is b/c they are more open to it the straight guys. I mean most straight guys don't want to hear about periods and crap even if its your own girl. Unless its the girl telling him he missed her period. As for lesbian shes still has girl issues, so thats why u don't talk to her about guys stuff. I mean its a double stander but most gay guys have to deal with crap on their ***** unless the but is clean and they understand the whole thing of getting suck and worried about stuff like that.

Answer 8

for some reason , women have always felt safe around a gay guy, its like getting all the man answers without asking a man.
on the other hand men never feel save around a lesbian (especially a butch one), we like to watch them from afar but that's about it. I mean if a woman Can satisfy a woman better than a man, what does that say about us?

Answer 9

I'm not attracted to girls because they're not manly enough XD But i do think people can be seriously attracted to peronality alone, unfortunatley it' not enough especially since gays normally have a high sex drive thats equally important. Thing is though, i think breasts are beautiful but i like c'ock waaaay more x)

Answer 10

Maybe for the fact that some gay men are more feminine than most women I know, straight or otherwise, this line of conversation is not off limits. Maybe he is entertained by this kind of talk.

Answer 11

I really think it depends on how well the girls know the guy and if the guy is okay with it. If so, it really doesn't matter. I know that I tease my guy friends about that kind of thing, though it's probably somewhat diluted.

If the guy is uncomfortable, I hope he'll tell them, and you can be there to back him up if or when it happens.