is something worth saying even if it might damage your relationship permanantly.
my sister is really selfish, i had a miscarriage early this year and have been pretty sick ever since with ulcers and one thing and another. she sees me as an in-house babysitter and while i love spending time with my nephew i want to go get on with my life. she doesn't arrange any childcare for him just me but some days i'm not up to it, like being sick alot. she has my parents pay for the baby and she spends so much money. i dont wanna bring her down really but it's getting a bit too much. i dont really have time for myself because she organises my time for me. if i'm not babysitting then i'm shopping for her or cooking. my point is if i'm well enough to do that i should be working but she hasn't planned for me to go back to work. there's more but thats a hint at what's up.
If i tell her i'm worried about losing her, but she's taking advantage of me i feel.
2007-12-17 12:05:43 · 5 answers · asked by sleepyme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well my much loved sister I have to go back to work , I am sorry I need a couple of weeks by myself before I hit the work force again,love you, and thanks for the wonderful support you have been ( bit sarcastic I know) but now is the time I move on.
I am sorry but she does not have to plan for you to go back to work, YOU have to make that decision, please do not make a martyr out of yourself and then blame your sister, make a decision and stick to it
2007-12-17 12:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by Loretta M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but I dont understand this. Are you living with her or living with your parents? How old are you? How old is your sister to have a baby? What do you mean "she hasn't planned for you to go back to work?" This is laughable. Why are you tolerating this? Are you weak? Whose life is it? LOL Why are you afraid of losing her? She might be taking advantage of you, but you are the one letting her. Remember this, we teach people how to treat us, not the other way around. If you start standing up for yourself not by yelling or hollering, but by doing things for yourself. STOP laying around being sick. Start doing things and you will get better for pete's sake. Stop wallowing in self pity about your miscarriage and buck up. If you are living with her, are you taking advantage of her? Are you taking advantage of your parents by living in their home? You need to grow up yourself and start doing for YOU.
Get a spine and start sticking up for yourself. Get well, get a job, and get out. The answer is so easy.
2007-12-18 12:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is clear that she is utterly selfish and she is exploiting you to the maximum. She is trying to gain out of your sickness and being out of job.If you do not resist now,she will like to have you as her slave for the life. You have to make it clear to her that you cannot be dominated in this way. Your present unfortunate situation will not remain for ever.Despite making your position clear,you will live with her till such time you recover and are able to seek some job.Get away from her at the first opportunity.
2007-12-18 05:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
woow first i wanna say im sorry for ur lost and you have to tell her how u feel because u have a life of ur own 2 and is she cant understand that then oh well life goes on and so should she, if she really loves u she'll understand that she being a ***** sorry 4 saying that but trust me i been in a similar situation myself (tell her nicely) if she dont understand then pray about it!
2007-12-17 20:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by sexyboriqualisa 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her that you arent her maid or keeper ,and you dont need her to run your life. then tell her that your looking for a part time job and she needs to find a sitter and do her own chores.
2007-12-17 20:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋