Bridesmaids??

Question

Hello, I was just wondering how should I pick my bridesmaids? Some of my best friends have turned out to be people that I don't even know. They have all moved away and changed SO much in the worst of all ways, and now when I talk to them I feel like i'm talking to a complete stranger. Should I have them as my bridesmaids?.. and also, I had one VERY good friend back in high school, we were best friends for about 10 years, and now only talk on occasion. Should I have her as a bridesmaid, or should bridesmaids only be girls who are close to you, and will always be a part of your life?

Answer 1

Pick people you want to be there on your special day. These people should enchance the experience and not make it stressful. If you have a friend thats a flake or someone you can't trust, don't pick them.

I would pick people you have been close to within the past few years and people you see yourself having a friendship with in years to come. If you feel unsure about your friendship now, then you probably won't have one in the future either.

Answer 2

Personally i chose people to stand beside me who i knew were good friends in the past and who i felt would be around in the future.

My mate of honor (yes my MOH is a guy) was a close friend of mine in high school. He's always been there for me when i needed him. Good times and bad and through some pretty horrid stuff. He lives in a different state at the moment and i only get to speak on the phone to him every now and again but after 13 years of friendship i know that he'll always be a part of my life.

My first bridesmaid is my sister. I can argue with her till our faces both turn blue but at the end of the day she's still my sister and that makes her special.

My second bridesmaid is a family friend who i've known all my life. We don't talk very often but when we do we get along fine. She's always been around and i'm closer to her than some of my cousins. I know that if anything was to happen to me she would step in and help where with some of my other friends i'm not so sure would hang around if i was in trouble.

I don't want 'only on a good day' friends in my bridal party.

My Flowergirl is my daughter... enough said :o)

so i guess the moral to my story is choose who you feel will be good from your past and into your future no matter who those people turn out to be

Answer 3

Do you have any siblings?I say siblings, because i've heard of people having their brother as a bridesmaid because they were super close to him. What about close cousins, or aunts?About your friends that your not sure about, don't have them stand, if yo u don't think they will be there when you need them most. The good friend that you talk to on occasion, set up some lunch dates, catch up, and then decide if you would still like to have her stand. I'm getting married in two years, and i have a wide variety of people standing for me, from my sister as my maid of honour. A girl i was best friends with in highschool as a bridesmaid. And a girl i work with as a bridesmaid. And hun, if u can only think of one person to stand for a bridesmaid, thats fine, theres no limit!Good luck, and congrats!This time shouldn't be stressful, its ur day, so make sure to enjoy it!

Answer 4

I had an assortment of girls as my bridesmaids: My sister was my maid of honor, I had my cousin who I am very close with ( I was her maid of honor), I had one of my best friends from high school ( I was also her maid of honor), I had my long time best friend from high school we don't talk like we use to but we will always be friends, My best friend from college, one of the grooms man's wife, and a new girlfriend that was taking the place of another girl who broke off her engagement and he was one of my husband's best friends (very uncomfortable situation). I would suggest that you put the people you are closest to in your wedding, a long time friend who you've only talked to occasionally might be a great bridesmaid and rekindle your friendship, don't forget to include any sisters of the groom and your own if you have them. It is always good to have family share in the day, while my husband has no sisters both of my brothers were in ther wedding on his side. It is so much more special that way.

Answer 5

Selecting bridesmaids is a tricky thing...on the one hand, you want people standing beside you that you really care about-that are your closest loved ones...but they also need to be organized and willing to tolerate the "business" of wedding planning, not to mention be financially able to handle the things they will need to pay for (let's face it-it's the part no one likes to address, but being a bridesmaid does cost a fair amount of money, even when the bride is being as frugal as possible!).
Do you have any family members you could ask? Then you wouldn't have to have your girlfriends you aren't close to anymore (And since it would be all family, those women wouldn't feel slighted). Or are you closer to guy friends? Because you could always have bridesmen....if your fiance is cool with that.

How many guys does your fiance want in his party? Maybe you can go with just a maid of honor and a best man....that way you wouldn't have to surround yourself with people you aren't close to, and could just chose the one person you care for most to stand beside you...
Good luck! Try not to let this part stress you out-let wedding planning be as fun as possible!!

Answer 6

You definitely want to pick people you are close to and can rely on. You do not need to have a large bridal party. In fact if you want you can have just a maid of honor and best man, or maybe 1 bridesmaid and maid of honor. If there are any family members you are close to it would be best to include them.

I know some brides who have had their parents stand up for them and the grooms parents too. So you don't need to have a traditional bridal paryt if you don't want.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Do you have any sisters or cousins I would say choose them. A bridesmaid does not have to be a friend, I know mine will be my sister. Or you could even pic a close relative on the grooms side.

Answer 8

Hi. I would only pick people that you feel comfortable with NOW...not friends from long ago who have changed. It would be nice to ask your high school friend if you think she would be honored. What about family? Sisters? Sister-in-laws? Counsins? Your fiance's family? Does HE have sisters? You don't ONLY have to have friends.