i don't consider myself as "religious" per say but i do believe in God and i pray often...i've been dating this guy for a lil' over a month and things seem to be moving along pretty well...the only thing that sucks is that he is atheist and i'm not sure if i can see a future for "us"...Don't get me wrong, he's a great person and all and i respect his beliefs BUT i'm thinking about the future here and it would be kinda weird raising kids w/ someone who feels so differently than i.
What do you think?
2007-12-17 11:40:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I wouldn't do it.
My father was an atheist at heart, my mother a die-hard Chrisitan. They divorced, and it was nasty, because I learned that my father was an atheist, which I didn't l know growing up (I was 11 or 12). It hurt me tremendously, and a lot of the problems they had boiled down to morals and God. They were married for 13 years, had two kids, my brother and I who are ten years apart, and now I live with my mum with my brother. My dad just went missing afterwards.
I wouldn't do it, for the sake of your future children, because when you get married, and things don't work out, it's all ways the children whom get hurt.
God bless, and I don't write this for you to pity me. I write this because I want everyone to learn from my parent's mistakes. Even if he were to believe in ANY God, it would be better than no God. Religion gives people hope, and something to fall back on during grim times.
2007-12-17 11:56:26 · answer #1 · answered by Polka Dot Alley 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The question is, does he respect yours? If you are not overly religious, and he is not religious, it should not be too much of an issue.
Getting married? If it's important to you to get married in a church, make sure he can go along with that. When I got married, it was important to him to be married in a church, I did not care one way or the other. Because it was important to him, we did.
Kids? Explain to kids as they are growing up that lots of people believe in different ways. A good church for you as a couple/family might be the Unitarian Universalist church. I have atheists, theists, Buddhists, Catholics, Methodists, etc. sitting around me and no one gets uptight about particular beliefs. We have great discussions over lots of coffee.
Bottom line? As long as you both respect each other and work together, you'll do fine! Love is awesome.
2007-12-17 20:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have seen it work, but i think it creates too much conflict among both families, sometimes even among the couple.
But a lot of things are compromised when two ppl marry from 2 different religions.
For example, what will the children believe in... some couples say: we'll let them decide... thats fine.. but then the families of the couple intervene and say that isnt good enough.. one family might want to christen the child, another family might not believe in that... etc..
Its just soooo complicated!!
I've seen first hand how it affects families... and its really hard to watch... (My brother--Muslim-- married a catholic girl) And theyre great now, they dont have children, but i think once they do there is gonna be a LOT of conflict!!
Peace and Love!!
Merry Christmas!
Eid Mubarak!
2007-12-17 20:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by ~Mez~ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should get out now! Remember what the Bible says. A house divided cannot stand. Also, that a believer shouldn't be unequally yoked with an unbeliever. If it bothers you already. Maybe you are closer to the Lord than you realize. It would be better to end it now. Just be honest w/ him.Its smart to think ahead. Think of this as a sign from God. God Bless!
2007-12-17 19:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by paula r 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would never date someone with different religion beliefs. It would be a huge waste of time on both parts. Not to mention a lot of headbutting as well. I suggest that you pray about it, read the Bible to see what it says about this matter, and make your decidsion. Good luck.
2007-12-17 19:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by Jason M 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It wont work long term especially in regards to raising a family. You will want to give your children views, he will think it's all a "nice story" - this is a fundamental difference when raising children. You will want someone to share your views especially as you get older.
2007-12-17 19:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by Las Julius 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a devout Wiccan and my husband is (and always has been) an agnostic. We have been happily married for almost thirteen years now.
2007-12-17 19:46:22 · answer #7 · answered by prairiecrow 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it. Variety is the spice of life.
2007-12-17 19:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
it depends how open both people are... i've seen it work, i've seen it not work...
2007-12-17 19:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋