She, my dad and three siblings did something really bad to me a few months ago. I can't bring myself to forgive them and I even think that this is happening to her because of karma. I disowned them when they betrayed me and I vowed not to have any kind of relationship with them ever again. They have been trying to get in touch with me because my mother is now in the hospital apparently she had an anneurism. I don't care to go see her and I don't care to know what is happening to any of them. I want them to just leave me alone and to stop pretending like nothing happened between us. What they did was really really bad it involved my son and I can't forgive them for it. I just want to pretend like they are already dead. Can anyone on here understand how I feel.
2007-12-17 11:26:08 · 13 answers · asked by I'm Ecstatic!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
YOU are an individual..You possess free will.. If what they did is unforgivable, that's alright.. You don't have to forgive,forget or do anything that you feel is unforgivable.. You have a son, he and you are a family.. Make sure that your feelings can survive with what your decision will bring.. This could be the last time you will be able to see your mother on this earth.. KARMA has nothing to do with what happened with your mother.. If she is no longer here on earth, will you care?? If the answer is NO, then the breech between you and your family is such,you best move on and get on with your life.. You have been terribly hurt, and believe me, I know your pain.. Cleanse your mind of this incident, and only think positively of your future and your son.. Believe this, not today, or tomorrow, but some time in the future this will pass, and remember the old saying, "That which does not kill us, only makes us stronger!! May You Find Peace.. SOLOMON
2007-12-17 11:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by solomon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand. When it comes to the well being of your kids that "line" can get drawn pretty quickly. If anyone crosses that line... I know how hard it is to go back. I don't really know what they did... so I can't really say whether you're being too harsh or not. All I can say is just to think about it long and hard before cutting them out of your life entirely. Like I said... I don't know the situation... maybe the totally deserve it. I just don't want you to wake up 5 years from now and wish you would have seen your mother in the hospital before she died. I know that people make mistakes (and yes, some are unforgivable) but (if you can) try to put that one event aside.... just for a moment... and think. I'm sure you miss your family because you love them (which is why the betrayal hurts so badly). Maybe if your mother takes a turn for the worse (Heaven forbid), maybe you should go and make a five minute visit but tell them that you will NOT bring your son into this... or even around them for that matter. I'm sorry that you've found yourself in this situation and I will pray for your family. God Bless.
2007-12-17 11:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that they did something really bad to you but it would be better if you gave us a little more info on that and don't forget that no matter what they did to you,she will never stop being your mom... I cannot say that i understand how you feel but what you may feel against your family is like you say betrayal and very disappointed that they turned their back on you...u never know what may happen to ur mom and u will probably not have a chance to forgive her...just think about it...u may regret it in time...good luck!!
2007-12-17 11:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by Dailyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I can understand how you hurt because of something they did to you. However, maybe the Lord is using your mother's illness to bring you all back together. A brain aneurysm is very bad, often fatal. She may not live long enough for you to tell her goodby. Do you really think you can live with that for the rest of your life? Believe me, I understand all about problems between family members, having been raised in a dysfunctional family myself. Both of my parents are now with the Lord. With the Lord's help, my mother and I reconciled our differences before she died. My father only accepted the Lord and asked for forgiveness for what he had done to me just weeks before he died, and I never got the chance to tell him goodby and that I forgave him too. Please pray and ask the Lord to give you the strength to go see her. I will be praying for you, your mother and the entire family, that the Lord will heal the hurt that's been done. God bless you!
Lovingly,
Virginia
2007-12-17 12:04:09 · answer #4 · answered by Virginia B (John 16:33) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people will tell you, something like "no matter what, this is your mother, I say, it didn't seem to matter, to her then, why are 'you expected to be so forgiving???
Because You are a better person, in spite of what she has done. Go to the hospital, and tell her, In spite of everything you have done to us, I forgive you. You don't ever have to speak to or see anyone that has hurt you that much, if you don't want to. Forgiving doesn't mean associating with them, it means getting that hurt out of your system and life. You see if you ever want/need forgiveness, you must first be able to forgive.
2007-12-17 13:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by angels_angelsarehere 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my baby was newborn he spent his first 6 weeks of life in hospital. We were given a notebook to write in and had visitors write in it about what was happening to him, how much we loved him and photos etc to give to him when he was older. Even the nurses wrote in it. Like a journal I guess. You could start one of those for the baby if he is going to be in hospital for a while. All the best for the baby, I will be thinking of him.
2016-05-24 10:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, however this may be UR last chance & you may never get the chance again. Even if you do not forgive her, she may still love you & desire you to @ least be there for her. That doesn't say that she wasn't wrong, however none of us are perfect.
I do not know what she did wrong, & it must of been pretty bad for you to feel this way about UR family, but I do not want you to later reqret that you didn't at least be there for her.
How long was she there for you, raising you? She was there for you for a long time, I'm sure. I'm sure you were no perfect angel, either. So, please do not expect perfection out of her.
No, one is perfect, no not one.
Except Jesus, who died for UR sin's that you may ask him into UR heart & be saved & on UR way to heaven, where there is no more pain & everything godly to gain.
2007-12-17 11:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by blessed2beealive 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what was done, but if your mother passes. . . you might regret your decision not to go see her because of your pride, but it'll be too late. You should put all anger aside and go see your mother. Hopefully she'll pull through and you and your family can work things out. Sometimes people get angry over misunderstandings. Good Luck!
2007-12-17 11:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by peaches6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How you handle your life is your business and you don't have to justify it to anyone, including family.
But you are right, what goes around comes around. Karma applies to you as well.
I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-12-17 11:43:51 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stay away, then do so. No one has the right to judge you until they've walked in your shoes. Sometimes a family member will do you dirty before a friend will.
2007-12-17 11:32:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋