We are getting married in May 2008
2007-12-17 11:17:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
As long as you two connect on other levels, age is just a number. Make sure you both enjoy each other. Make sure you have somewhat of the same interests, beliefs,etc. My mother in law and father in law are 14 years apart and get along GREAT. I'd talk to him about it or seek pre-marital counseling which usually they'll require before marriage anyway.
2007-12-17 11:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that age should not be a factor since you are both grown adults. Maybe there is a deeper issue with him being close to 60 and he is thinking of the future. Maybe he thinks (sorry if I get too personal here) he might not be able to perform in the bedroom, or he is thinking about health issues. With the wedding being only a little over 5 months away, you need to get to the root of the problem. It seems that he didn't worry about this before and especially when he asked you to marry him. It might just be "cold feet", but communication is key, especially now! Good Luck!!
2007-12-17 23:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by nytengayle13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Aunt and Uncle have been married over 20 years and he is 20 yrs or so older than she is. If you love each other then age doesn't matter. There are lots of couples out there with big age differences that last. The only thing you can do is reassure him that he is the one you want, and be patient and kind.. he'll come around!
Good luck!
2007-12-17 21:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's just getting "cold feet" - and if it wasn't the age difference, he'd find something else to worry about. Just be open to discussing some of these things - perhaps over and over again. He might just be stressed out by the upcoming change, as well as by the holidays. Stay calm the best you can. Congrats.
2007-12-17 19:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's good of him to be concerned. It's a huge difference. Usually eight years different would be max - you have to realize here that he could be your dad! You are just getting into your prime in your 40s, and sorry, but he's on the fast decline. Love doesn't always conquer all.
2007-12-18 06:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say if he really loves you he will accept it but you should think about he is almost 20 years older than you but your a grown women you should make the decision.
2007-12-17 19:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by Bret Stogie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's he worried about? it would be a problem if you were 10 and he were 29 but at these ages, you'll be fine.
2007-12-17 19:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋