I've neen living with mom for 3 years now. She a recoving addict. She drug abuse but does'nt do anymore for about 7 months now. But it seem like she not being a parents to me, and is giving me the silent treatment and with all honestly i can't take her bull s*hit anyymore. Am 15. i need someone who is goignt o supplies my needs materialisty and emotionally. I need some one who is goignt o finsh rasing me and am no getting that from her. I know that if i wanted to leave, i would go to foster care, but i dont want ot drag my other silbings into this, I was wondering if i could go to restrocare. Because i dont have any family who cares...
Theis is affecting me my life. From school, to my mental health, and recenlty physically. In school, am constantly sad, people make fun of me, and i get all step on, and at home, i have an older sister who only care about her own skin, and a younger brother and sister who does'nt know any better.
2007-12-17 10:49:05 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Time to become an adult and realize the only person you can depend on in this world is YOU!
Focus on school and graduation. That's all that matters right now - your grades. Stay out of trouble, get through high school and when you turn 18 you're free to move out and do what you want.
Stop worrying about your mother - she isn't going to change anytime soon. Keep your head clear and focus on doing what is right for YOU.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. You are learning some valuable life lessons right now. When everyone is against you it will only make you stronger - don't let anyone control you and your life.
Stop worrying about everyone else - put all your energy into getting yourself together. Exercise, read good books, focus on school (spend time in libraries or book stores reading).
When you try to save drowning people you get pulled under with them. Swim off in the other direction and save yourself.
2007-12-17 10:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is neglecting you and your siblings maybe you should go with foster care even though there is always a chance you could and up somewhere worse. You are 15 you have so much to live for in life and right now you are still in a state where you need some one who is there for you. Also if it is effecting you mentally that could effect your learning and than your future career also if you are always sad than you could develop clinical depression.
I really hope things turn around for you.
Sry I dont know what restrocare is so i can't answer yoru part about that.
2007-12-17 19:06:04 · answer #2 · answered by Lyle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry that you have to go through this pain. Have you tried talking to a counselor at school, or even a favorite teacher. If not, have you ever been to church? I know that when I was younger and needed someone to talk to and know one seemed to be around, I would pray and find comfort in that. I'm not holy, but I know that there is someone out there listening. Stay strong ok. The sun always comes after the rain.
2007-12-17 18:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling,
You need to do something that will be difficult for you, but it will make you a stronger person for your future self. Take charge and accept the inevitable responsibilities you will have when you no longer live at home.
Become the mother and mentor for your younger siblings.
Talk to your mother whether she wants to talk to you or not and your older sister as well. Don't let your older sister or mother intimidate you. Don't be their boss, but instead have them account to you for their shortcomings. Let them know you love them, but that you will not be around for them all the time.
Take charge of your own life by going to church regularly and educate yourself on the Bible so that you will be a responsible, respected, and acitve person in your family and socially. Find a boyfriend you believes in the same religious morals and values that you posess.
You will need to grow up quickly, but don't forget how to have fun as well.
2007-12-17 18:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by Harold Sink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry to hear that. if u have probs w/ ur mom, you should try to talk to her. she has to listen. and ur 15, you can get counceling if u want. it will prob help. if no one u know is willing to help, always remember that u have urself. the most u have to look forward to is gettn the *** outta there. just hang in there and keep goin, and eventually it'll get better. it cant much worse, right? jus try t look on the bright side. find a friend or at least a hobby. write or draw or take walks. watev it takes to get ur mind off things. but i would seriously suggest counceling.
if u wanna e-mail back for anymore support, you can, or call this number (360) 397-CHAT
its the # for teentalk, a peer to peer non judgmental suppert line, NOT a hot line. its people like you and me, our age, with real good advice.
2007-12-17 18:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should get some help. This can uin yr life. Do u have any other family members that could take care of u? try going 2 a school consler and see what they have 2 offer. Always remeber that there r a lot of plz out there that can help u.
Jenn
2007-12-17 18:54:50 · answer #6 · answered by Blahhhhhh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry to hear that you life is so hard, it seems that it may be that you are one of the unfortunate children who must become an adult before their time. i think that even though you may not want to it may be best to contact a social service worker you may get lucky and find a home willing to keep you and your siblings together.if you are dead set in staying at home and not seeking outside help you will need to get groceries from the food bank, salvation army and catholic charities, the last 2 will supply clothes. but i really dont reccomend you try to manage this situation yourself ,like you said your slipping and if your siblings arn't affected they soon will be. perhaps you have aunts, uncles, or grandparents who will step in to offer you and your siblings a stable home. mostly you need to stay strong, do what you can to eat healthy and sleep at night, this will help you to do better in school. good luck stay strong.
2007-12-17 18:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like seeing people sad during the holidays. Cheer up. Think about what you're thankful for. At least you have a roof above your head, a computer with Internet, food on the table, and parents who worked hard to raise you. If you really don't like it, think about it. Some orphans are dieing to meet their real family, while you're complaining about your family. No offense. Anyways, have a great holiday season!
2007-12-17 18:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through the same thing you did. BUt i was in foster care for 5 years and im 15 now. But my mom staightened out and got me and my little sisiter back.She has done really goood she has only sliped up once and i have forgaven her for it. And she likes to drink a little so when she gets drunk i gat really mad at her. And the next day i set down with her and tell her how i feel.I think you should set down with your mom and talk with her about the way you feel and the way she feel. And maybe you should talk to somebody the way you feel because you sad you feel sad
So talk with eachother and if that doesnt help reach out to some one like a counsler and talk to them about it
2007-12-17 18:57:59 · answer #9 · answered by n.killebrew 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u need 2 seek out other options if u have no other family.have u tryed speaking 2 the school phycologist about the issue so u can get things off ur chest.they mayb able 2 help u seek out other living arangments if ur in a situation that is causeing problems
2007-12-17 18:56:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋