I'm seeing a guy whose been hurt by all of his ex girlfriends before. I did something on the weekend that really hurt him and he doesn't want to see me anymore. I'd had a bit too much to drink and was on medication that you weren't supposed to drink with. Now that i've sobered up I totally realized that what I did was way uncool. But i'd never wanna hurt him. How do I get him to forgive me and understand that i'm not like the other girls...
2007-12-17 10:45:59 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He saw an ex who he's totally over, she went in for a peck and he let her.
So later I kissed his friend...peck also
2007-12-17 11:59:34 · update #1
Wow. Lay off the drugs and alcohol if you don't know your limits!
2007-12-17 10:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
But see... you WERE just like the other girls, reinforcing his suspicion of what he had already feared about you. You've already demonstrated that you can hurt him, and this is these are the same conditions that cause some girls to say "All guys suck and will hurt you!"
It's an uphill battle for his already fragile ego. Don't be surprised if he can't forgive you and doesn't want to give you another chance. I can GUARANTEE that almost anything you try to do or say to prove to him that you're not going to hurt him, most of his ex girlfriends already tried the same, and look what happened with them. He has no reason to expect different results from you, but it's your only shot.
2007-12-17 10:50:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to fully
convince him that you've changed.
Show him that you have put that
weekend behind you and are
willing to start over again and
ask him if he is too.
Promise him (very sincerely)
that you're completely and utterly
sober and cannot believe you did such a thing.
Tell him how much you want to be with him
and that you've changed because of how
strongly you feel for him.
Make sure you keep eye contact while
saying this and lightly touch his arm.
Reassure him you're not like other girls,
you're different.
2007-12-17 10:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to prove you're trustworthy is to never do anything that would make him think otherwise...Reassure him that you're nothing like the girls in his past. You're a fresh start, and if he can't have you without constantly comparing you to the failed loves in his life then it's his loss. There's no such thing as a solid relationship based on holding on to past mistakes, so in the interest of a better future, ask him to forgive and forget. : )
2007-12-17 10:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you didnt want to hurt him your could have controled yourself. Not trying to judge you but it sounds like you are like the "other girls". If you really want to prove to him that you changed stop drinking and doing anythign else thats bad. Maybe he will see you being sober and a "good girl" and maybe he'll forgive you but all it really takes is time.
2007-12-17 10:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by ME! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I t may not be possible. But you must not justify your actions by making up excuses for your actions, but by totally admitting that you were wrong and it would never happen again. But if he has a hurtful past its going to take a lot of convincing from you.
2007-12-17 11:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by beatyful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't! The only thing you can do is show him that you are there for him emotionally without becoming a shoulder to cry on! You do not want that status with this "baby-boy"! Then he will call you every time some chick hurt his poor little feelings!
2007-12-17 10:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by AJ R 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take responsibility for your actions. Nobody forced you to drink, and that's no excuse. YOu made choices, so own up to them. respect his wishes. It;s his choice if he wants to forgive you or not. You can't make him have trust for yu, especially if you betrayed that trust. Trust is earned and it sounds like you gave him reason to doubt. Sucks for you, but you made choices. He has a right to gaurd his heart, even if not hurt in his past. Clearly you hurt him in the present.
2007-12-17 10:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If a guy is really hurt by a previous relashionship it takes them a while to get over it and then if they go get themselves into another relashionship thats the same way they loose hopw and are difficult to gain their trust back. Be honest with the guy and let him know how sorry you are, don;t push things with him and accept his decision
2007-12-17 10:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You prove to him you're not going to hurt him by not hurting him. Everyone makes mistakes and people end up getting hurt inadvertently; that's life and you're as powerless as anyone else to stop that type of thing. The type of "hurting him" that IS within your control is anything that involves careless disregard for his feelings. He'll trust you more in time as he sees it's possible to do so. Good luck.
2007-12-17 10:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
write him a letter and leave it in a place you know he will find it. Tell him how sorry you are, and how much hurting him hurt you. Be there for him, but respect the fact that he is hurting and dont overwhelm him saying you will never hurt him again, because im sure all his ex's said that as well.
2007-12-17 10:52:14 · answer #11 · answered by ArtistZ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋