I was with my first love for three years. We have been broken up for about two years, a year with absolutely no contact. He and I have both moved on and I do not want him back in any way but I can't help but think about him and wonder if he ever thinks about me.
I am currently in a relationship and happily in love so I don't understand why I can't stop thinking about my ex. Do you ever get over your first love or will he continue to haunt my memories?
2007-12-17 10:38:23 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not that you can't get over him, it's just he was a part of your life for so long and you cared so much about him that your always going to wonder if he's ok. And because us girls can never stop wondering if we're good enough we'll always question whether or not they think of us.
2007-12-17 10:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by Lil Bit 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, you never get over over your first love. They are just there and have a special place in your heart even though you may not have feelings for them anymore. It's not necessarily haunting your memories either they are more like times that were fun then but you would rather not remember so much now. If you have both moved on and found love in someone else then be happy for one another and don't worry about the past. You need to focus on the future with your new guy and jsut be happy that you soent those times with your ex because in reality you will always have those memories and he will always have a place in your heart.
2007-12-17 10:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already got over him. You have moved on, and so has he. It's almost impossible to erase someone completely from your memory. Even going to places where you and you first love used to go to can bring back those memories. It's very common, and there's nothing wrong with it. As long as you are sure that you no longer have feelings for him, and it's not affecting your relationship with you current love, you have nothing to worry about. Those memories will slowly be replaced by new memories of you and your new love. Until then, just remeber that there's a reason you're not together, something didn't work out. Concentrate on the relationship you are in now, and move forward.
2007-12-17 10:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by HawaiiGurly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I first wet kissed, I wanted to marry the girl right away.
I'm in a relationship for 7 years and am very happy.
But there are some former girl friends that I still dream about sometimes.... especially sweet Elvira with her great personality and smile and body... oh my god. And Marianne - crazy sex addict.
I guess that... it's hard to find everything in one person. I love my current girl friend, I really think she's the coolest person I know... but we are really best friends. Sometimes I don't have sex with her for a month and actually I don't care much either.... We have a great son and we've arranged out lives so that we both can develop ourselves and have maximum freedom. I think she's so cool.
But that doesn't mean that there are those memories of long ago.
There are lots of different types of love and one is no better than the other. I think our culture heavily overestimates "passionate love", i.e. being sexually attracted to another. Sex has little to do with love. Sex is just nice. I'm now a father and I my son so much - I didn't know I was capable of that. Love of father to son is much stronger than the "love" I had for my former girl friends. Doesn't mean that I don't long for them. But it's in a whole different league than e.g. my son.
2007-12-17 12:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by Arjen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was your first love the memories will always be there, you will always have a place in your heart for him but that dose not mean you can not love someone else more then you love him, but it is like your first childhood friend. You may not be friends with them anymore but you will always remember them even if they were not a good friend. I hope this makes sense!!
2007-12-17 10:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by sarahgirl33 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You never get over your first real loves. Believe me I know. I have several that always come back to my thoughts. Not to haunt, but just to remember how it was.
2007-12-17 10:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by *kwah* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear ur already get over as u dont want him back in ur life, but u or anyone can't forget first love throughout ur life bcz thats first impressions on u it doesnot matter whether he loved u truely or not but u loved him truely thats u will nvr forget him.
soln- wen u got memories of him just think only of good times u spend together . u will be happy & i wish too.
2007-12-17 19:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by Lonely heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny you shold bring that up...I had a dream about my first love, and I haven't seen him since 1990. Although I still care for him very much, I would never entertain the idea of living my life with him in it.
2007-12-17 10:42:00 · answer #8 · answered by T Leeves 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person and the relationship history. I got over my first love.
2007-12-17 10:41:19 · answer #9 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that they necessarily should haunt your memories, but you have a shared past, three years of your life was spent with that person, and you will always carry a piece of him with you, and you with him. Your pasts are intertwined and therefore you will always be connected.
2007-12-17 10:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by Ren 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋