2007-12-17 10:22:28 · 13 answers · asked by Bitsy 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i have a tuff time forgiving the older i get ~~~seems when we r younger it alot easiers too~~now that i have more wisom i dont let many walk on me no more hold your grounds ~~~if u dont nobody else will
2007-12-17 11:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by ladysosureone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is more for myself than for the other person. It really depends on what the transgression is and how it was done. If it was done out of lack of knowledge and there was a sincere apology, along with a direct ACKNOWLEDGEMENT of what was done, then I can forgive immediately and resume the friendship. However, if the person REPEATS the transgression endlessly (taking advantage of my forgiveness), especially in relationship infidelity, or major betrayal in friendships, then I will still forgive and move on----by myself----but the relationship/friendship will never be the same again. And I do end all contact with the person. In that kind of situations, it's not healthy for me to keep getting hurt repeatedly, even after directly addressing the issue with the transgressor, and it's not a healthy relationship/friendship to be in, because the other person hasn't grown to change any behavior, the friendship isn't going anywhere, and the trust is broken forever. Then I will just move on with my life and pray for that person to grow in the future.
2007-12-17 23:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by N.C. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be.
Sometimes people will apologize to me for things I don't see as slights even, and so naturally it is very easy for me to forgive.
But other people have asked for forgiveness, and while it is a choice to forgive someone, and I say, "I forgive you," or even to myself, "I choose to forgive so-and-so," sometimes I find that I have not. I know I haven't because I still dwell on what happened.
If you are close to the person asking for your forgiveness, choose to forgive them, and try your best to expunge what happened from your vocabulary. It's plenty okay to talk to them and tell them why you are hurt and why it's hard for you, but once you have made the decision to forgive, do your best to live up to it.
2007-12-17 18:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by Illiterati 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have a hard time forgiving
until I needed forgiveness
and now, I do NOT have a hard time forgiving at all.
2007-12-21 18:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by NC_Pianist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its hard for me to forgive people. But if they have sought forgiveness then I try to forgive them. After all, no ones perfect. I'm sure at some stage everybody does something they ask to be forgiven for.
2007-12-17 18:31:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what they did and if they really seemed sincere when they asked for forgiveness. If someone did something that really hurt me, I would want to forgive, even if just to get the hurt off of me, but you can't always just do it, it's a process.
2007-12-17 18:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is real hard to make me angry and I cool off real quick. It is easy for me to forgive in most cases.The ones I have trouble forgiving really have done something that they don't deserve forgiveness (in my mind)but God forgives and I know I am no better then he. I do forgive(finally).
2007-12-17 18:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by Ava 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to forgive some people - others not hard
2007-12-17 18:33:35 · answer #8 · answered by catsangel777 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It totally depends on what they've done. If someone desperate stole from my purse I'd probably forgive. If someone murdered one of my children, I certainly wouldn't.
What does forgiveness really mean? It's easy enough to say but feeling it one's heart is something else again.
2007-12-17 18:29:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I think I am too easy to forgive.
2007-12-17 18:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by margarita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋