opening here heart to anyone. Her and I seem to get along great, spending allot of time talking on the phone(soemtimes 4-5 hours) and have been on a few dates, which were probably the best dates I have been on in a long time,but my question is how do I stop the push and pull game with her, one minuite she is pulling me in by doing little things to let me know she is thinking about me and the next minute she pushing me away and making me feel like crap. I guess I wouldn't mind that so much since I understand she might not be ready to ready for a comittment, but I keep telling her baby steps let's take it really slow,and here is my real problem she contiues to date other people good (stuff because like I said I understand where she is at with committment) But they seem to hurt her making her play the push and pull game with me more.
2007-12-17 09:14:08 · 1 answers · asked by jesctdrum 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what can you do? you have to decide if your willing to give her the time she needs. it may take her YEARS before she is ready to commit to a relationship. the simple truth is she needs help recovering and you may not be the one who can help her.
your best bet is to stop trying to pursue a relationship with her. let her get her issues together and then she will be able to be in a commitment. I know that's not what you want to hear but if she starts dating before she is truly ready, she will only grow to resent you and take her problems out on you and not even Job, could have handled that.
2007-12-20 02:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. 210 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋