ahhh!!! ok so there is this guy, and he is a total sweety, and he likes me a lot, but i dont like him as much as he likes me, and then there is this other guy who isnt alway very nice to me, but i like him a lot, but the sweet guy doesnt know everything that has been going on and he is going to call me tonight he says we really need to talk, and i know that he knows! but what do i say, it will hurt him sooo bad, please i am so screwed, its not like were together, but oh man its complicated, i need help how do i tell him softly that everything he heard is true!?! i mean i dont want to hurt him! but i have been with the other guy... and he doesnt know the whole thing... well he probably does now... what do i say to him!?! please help me
2007-12-17 09:01:53 · 27 answers · asked by charlie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to pick one or the other...
2007-12-17 09:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by My Sharona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
charlie - JUST TELL HIM THE TRUTH! It doesn't matter what you say or how you say it, it's still going to hurt the sweet guy. That's life. Sometimes the truth hurts.
Sadly, if you had been more honest with the sweet guy up front you would not be in this situation now. You are not so worried about hurting his feelings as hurting his opinion of you. He likes you and thinks you are something special and when he finds out you've been seeing another guy he may not think you are so great anymore. You are feeling guilty and you don't want to feel more guilty.
Stop trying to be so nice and just tell him the truth.
2007-12-17 09:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by dragonsong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you're young simply from your story. For some messed up reason women like bad boys who screw them over at the end. It's strange, but I swear it's true. But you know what....? Eventually most women learn from getting hurt by these bad boys and settle down with the nice guy who is really nice and (in most women's mind) boring. My advice to you would be to go with the guy who likes you b/c the other guy is only going to hurt you and drive you crazy. You will definitely going to get hurt if you go with the guy who treats you bad. If I could go back into time I would choose the guy who respected me and made me feel good about myself opposed to the jerk. I understand the bad boy is exciting and unexpected, but it won't last...it never does. Those guys want to play the field for as long as they can and never want to be stuck with one girl. If you don't like the nice guy, you don't have to be with either one. Be smart and make the right decision.
2007-12-17 09:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by Good Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well be as polite as possible because some guys really do take things the wrong way. just say somethig like " your a wonderful guy but ur just not the guy for me and hopefully u dont take this the wrong way and you'll find someone for u someday. and sorry i didnt tell u sooner but i didnt kno how to tell u. " lol thats the best i can do, good luck and hopefully he doesnt get too crush =)
2007-12-17 09:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by ♥K2 bby K2♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, try asking this, do you like the guy that likes you? I mean more than a friend? If you like this guy that isn't nice to you then why bother with him? Even if you do like him but he doesn't like you then why waste time going after someone that dosen't like you? But if you tell the guy that does like you that you don't like him back, then you might lose him so if you all the sudden realize that you do like the guy that likes you he won't like you anymore then you'll have two guys that you like that doesn't like you.
Sorry if I confused you! :)
and one more thing.... that Bobby B guy needs to get a life! If he's just going to make fun of people like that then he can go screw himself for all I care! GO **** YOURSELF BOBBY!!!!!
2007-12-17 09:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's okay! i have the same problem! Just give the one guy a chance, you never know that you really may like him inside. And you never know. The guy you really really like may like you too and is just playing some kind of joke so his friends don't know he liked you. That happeneds all the time to the kids in my school. good luck with your situation and who ever you end up with will peobably be great!
2007-12-17 09:08:39 · answer #6 · answered by Haley T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That Bobby B person is an asshole! Let's shoot of his penis and make him eat it! Anywho...I agree with what the others are saying--go with the sweeter guy because if you go for jerks, you'll end up getting f***ed over in the end.
2007-12-17 09:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you just need to tell him straight. He needs to let go of the thoughts he has about you and him. This is a good opportunity for you to let him to move on, trust me!
2007-12-17 09:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by lucy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok in case you do in contrast to him you positioned the rule very stable in simple terms buddies the uncomfortable section will bypass when you carry out 2 to 3 cases, he will in all probability be waiting so you might love him at some point, and have faith me you purely could,I even have been the two the pal and the admirer
2016-10-11 11:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don't need to be with either one. You don't need to be with someone that you don't like or is mean to you, because in the end your the only one that is unhappy. And if your not dating him then there is no need to explain yourself.
2007-12-17 09:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by Whitney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you dont feel the same way about him and tell him taht he is really sweet and a really great guy but im really not feeling you.. Im feeling this other guy .. he should get the idea
2007-12-17 09:07:14 · answer #11 · answered by Mallory Hazel Carter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋