Why do women find it funny when a man is abused by a woman?

Question

I was in a relationship many years ago where this girl I dated was always angry. Although it never really hurt that bad to get me upset she would hit me a lot. It really wasn't the physical stuff that got to me so much of the mental things she did. She stole my drivers license and got a cop friend of hers to put a bunch of speeding tickets on. I was arrested for driving under a suspended license 3 years ago and still to this day haven't gotten it fixed. She would tell me all the time that no other girl would have me and that I was a 2 out of 10. What sucks is she was right. I never found anyone after her. I never told anyone but one close friend of mine. She not thinking I haven't told anyone else told her friend and now all the girls I know make fun of me. I don't really find it that funny. I feel sorry for my ex more than anyone. I did some research and found out that half of spousal murders are committed by wives? How can girls find this funny?

Answer 1

I'm sorry, I don't find that funny. However, you need to find some self-confidence. Odds are, girls are not laughing at you behind your back. You just think they are, because your ex convinced you that you were worth abusing. You started to believe that you were only a 2 out of 10 (if you were, why the heck was she with you?) and now you need to start believing that there are honest women out there and that you deserve one.

Good luck.

Answer 2

As a reserve sheriff officer I have a difficult time with one element of your story. You said she stole your driver's license and got her cop friend to issue you a bunch of speeding tickets? What third world country do you live in? Won't happen in the US or Canada at least. For one all US police departments have been using video cameras for many many years. So if a cop were to forge a ticket where is the video evidence of the event. Third ticket and the cop is going to face a review board and questioned about having a vendetta.

For the abuse where she abused you verbally and by hitting you like you describe. No sympathy from me. Were that to happen to me I would be wanting to put her out of my car immediately and let her walk home. But being the person I am I would return her home and to her door and tell her never to contact me again. I might have put up something once, maybe twice. But if I stuck around for more after that, I must like the abuse (Yes! that does happen. I see it all the time) And abuse, whether received or given is usually a result of having grown up in it or a series of relationships in it. People will return to abuse because they think they can change the outcome of events and person next time. They can't! They need to learn from the past not to repeat associating with abusive types.

On spousal murders. Men usually shoot their wives. Women prefer to poison their husbands though shooting is picking up in popularity. As to other means of murder, like stabbing, beating, the classical axe or hammer etc. And you aren't going to have an excuse or alabi. It takes a particularily sick mind for that. On the gun murders, it's usually claimed an accident and they were sure the gun was unloaded etc. With the poison, women are pretty cleaver. Poison them at work from the water cooler or use a very hard to detect poison. They have known to get away with one husband murder only to be caught after it repeats a second or third time. Haven't heard of poisoning by botulism recently. That would be easy and natural. And the excuse, "I guess that makes me a bad cook"

Answer 3

Not all girls would, and I certainly don't. You were abused, both physically and mentally, and still bear the scars today. That is no laughing matter.
But you do have a choice. You can say that she was right, that you are worthless, and go on living your life alone, always being her victim. Or you can stand up and say "You are wrong, I am a worthwhile human being, worthy of love, compassion and friendship and I am taking back the power I gave to you from today. You will no longer rule MY LIFE". You may need help to get past this, so go out there and find it.
Take care, you are worth it.

***Abbycoolit says it all.

Answer 4

You have just touched on a subject that society has a problem dealing with because of the mistaken notion that women are not violent and are all demure.In addition is the belief and feeling that men are physically stronger than women ;hence women can not abuse men.The fallacy of such thinking is that it assumes that abuse means that you have to lose the conflict. But as you have found out , women can be just as physically, emotionally, mentally, and vocally abusive as men. When there is a confrontation between a man and a woman, the first thing people do is look at their size differences and conclude ,wrongly, that she was abused. A lot of women take advantage of this size difference to attack men, get injured naturally ( nobody thinks that guys have to defend themselves), then claim abuse. The climate we live in now fosters this attitude. Until we acknowledge that a slap is a slap and hurts regardless if it is directed by a man at a woman or a woman at a man, the issue will not die the death it deserves.While society is always ready to comfort a victim of male abuse, it is not so ready to comfort a victim of woman abuse.Words like "you're a man, you can take it, or how can she abuse you when she is smaller" must leave our collective consciousness.Abuse in whatever form, perpetuated by whomever is wrong and needs to stop.After I posted this, it occurred to me that some people --both male and female --will rationalize your abuse by claiming that you remained in the relationship.This guy and his story was not about a psychiatric evaluation but rather about the issue of woman on man abuse and why women find it funny.The argument about leaving your abuser is one that has been made against women; wouldn't it be ironic if it is used to justify abuse by women.The point is that men feel pain just like women,they hurt and bleed like women, and have feelings and emotions just like women.Women don't have the right to abuse men no more than men have the right to abuse women----PERIOD.

Answer 5

It doesn't matter if people laugh at you or not. You are the only one who can give them the power to to lower your own self image. This girl hated herself so much that she run you down to make herself feel better and you gave her that power to do that because you believed it. If you don't believe that you are more than a 2 than that is all you will ever be. You never met anyone else, you never moved on because your still letting her control you and she will as long as you continue to believe everything she said.

It sounds like you need to grow up a little and realize that this world is rarely a nice place and in your life your going to take your hits. What matters in the end is how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.

Answer 6

Um, most girls wouldn't find that funny.
I don't know why you would get that idea?

PS: If half of spousal murders are committed by wives, that means half have to be committed by husbands, too.

Answer 7

girls dont find this funny, only the immature, heartless women. I have abused my boyfriend, but i felt bad about it, and i have changed. some abusers just dont care, she liked abusing you and that is sick, i had to change because i knew it was wrong. she is a witch, and you know it. i will never be like that ever again.

Answer 8

It's not funny beaning abused coming from a man are a woman, pray for this girl, because she's sick, their are someone for everyone, you just have to wait it out, God will send you the woman that's right for you....

Answer 9

i dont find it funny this is a serious problem , but men make it funny bc they r to scared to admit it. some ppl may find it funny bc they are not sure wat to say i mean a man is biggr then a woman cna hold them off. and as to wat ur ex did was wrong and she should get introuble for it and get sum help

Answer 10

because usually guys are the ones abusing people. guys are tougher than most girls