hi all. okay so ive been on dates b4 w this guy, and sometimes he pays and sometimes i pay for myself, but its always awkward. so how do i make this un awkward?? lol
2007-12-17 08:39:31 · 11 answers · asked by Stephanie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's OK to feel awkward in some cases, but to eliminate -- or at least to reduce -- the chances of it happening again, be sure to communicate ahead of time who will pay for what.
Communication is the key ingredient here, as in all relationships. Somone said previously, whomever asks the other out should "typically" pay these days, which is a good rule of thumb. This is not the 1950s where the guy pays for everything trying to impress the girl & when it rolls around to tax time they reason, "I better marry her quick so I can get the deduction -- otherwise I'll be broke by the time I'm retirement age!" ;-)
Someone else suggested to split it -- as in dutch treat, or have one pay for the tix & the other the snax (tix & snax, I like that -- it could be a new breakfast cereal, or a new username).
So talk to him, get to find out more about each other and what makes each other tick. Maybe he's absent minded, or he just has a lot on his mind, he could be overburdened at work & carrying the stress home with him. Help him relax & maybe get more organized -- one simple way is to try to settle the easy decisions ahead of time, so U can both go out and enjoy the movie together. Best of luck to you both!!!
2007-12-17 14:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by Andy K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this new age when the dynamics of man- woman relationship has changed ,the type of situation you describe is becoming more common. In your specific case, since I am not sure what the actual nature of your relationship is, it is best if you both paid your own way.With future instances, you guys can decide who pays at the time the date is made. this will eliminate the awkwardness later.As an aside, today, a gal can ask a guy out and pay the bill( unless the guy elects to pay). The rule of thumb is that who ever asks the other for the date pays regardless of the gender. Go out and have a good time.
2007-12-17 16:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to pay then pay. If you dont I suggest you don't bring a purse and sustain your mannerisms to where It doesn't look like you are going pay. For example, while you guys are in line for a ticket don't reach into your pocket...maybe hold on to his arm the whole time.
2007-12-17 16:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by sss_1990 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he asked you out on a "date" he should pay. If it is something you casually decided, you can pay. Good rule of thumb, always be prepared to pay in case he was not planning on it.
2007-12-17 16:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by Kris S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
who asked who out? Good rule of thumb until you guys get less "awkward" is whoever asks for the date is the one to pay for both parties. So if he asked you-he pays. If you asked him, you pay.
2007-12-17 16:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jackie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You know what girl? Make him pay but bring like 20 dollars just in case.
2007-12-17 17:07:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say split it like say idk:
"okay you pay for tickets and i'll pay for popcorn and soda"
That way you are both paying a little for each other.
2007-12-17 16:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by chrissy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just pay for it..it's only like $6.
2007-12-17 16:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by Kandiii♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should pay... it aint the 1800's anymore. Yo gots a job, then pay for it.
2007-12-17 16:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Phil Asks me for advice 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't pay for me I would call a cab. It is called etiquette. Girl make him respect you! Don't be so submissive!
2007-12-17 16:42:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋