About 2 years ago I slept with this boy, i really liked him after this happened but nothing ever came about it... He said he liked me to but he was to shy to do anything!
We stayed good friends and then I found out that he started to fancy my best friend. although she has a boyfriend!
On Saturday we hooked up again and all my feelings have come back, do men just think with there penis or does he like me to?
Were meeting up again on Wednesday and I think it might be just to have sex?
should i tell him i like him? but I don't wanna scared him off!
Im crazy about him and if he just wants sex should I just give it him or does he like me?
2007-12-17 08:26:08 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i didnt just jump in to bed with him, we have been mates for years. hes one of m best friends and things got weird after the first time we slep together.
Also since we did the first time he hasnt slept with anyone else and i was his first time. i no this for a fact...
2007-12-17 08:34:55 · update #1
Before anything happens, just ask him what he thought about life in general, and if he enjoys being single, or if he ever felt the need at times he wishes he was taken... See if he asks the same question back... that will give you a hint that he wants to know if you think the same as him... if he does return the question... you may know that he doesn't care what you want out of it... but make sure you listen more than talk... You will learn alot about him by the words he uses and chooses.
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2007-12-17 08:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by BerlinBrot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off... to be brutally honest... you should never start off a relationship with sex. If you are just having sex with this boy he could be just using you.
You need to set boundaries for yourself always. You say that he is "shy" but he isn't shy enough to have sex with you. When you have sex with a boy early on in a relationship... you're telling him that you have nothing to offer other than that.
Girls should always set boundaries especially with intimacy any where from months to a year (or even wait until marriage). That's how you gauge if a guy is just trying to use you or not. If a guy really likes you... he'll respect your boundaries and be with you for who you are.
I'm not saying don't have any contact... but you can move in steps. If you're dating someone just start with a hug. Later on (in a month or two or whatever you feel comfortable with) you can move to kissing and keep it at that for a while. Intimacy (aka sex) always complicates things especially when you're young and should be something you move to when you feel very comfortable with someone.
You should have more respect for yourself and so should he (this boy that likes you). Boys should never have to pressure you into having sex or being physical in any way. If he truly does like you... then he will like you for you (not just for sex).
To find out you'll have to tell him that you like him but that it was a mistake for you to have sex with him so early on. If he respects that and (truly) likes you he will understand. From that point on he shouldn't pressure you or get too touchy feely... otherwise he has other motives.
I really hope you take this as a learning experience for future relationships... Good luck...
2007-12-17 16:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by Carpe DM™ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Girl, quit giving it up! He has no respect for you and is using you for sex because he knows he can. If he likes someone else, then why are you even thinking about disrespecting yourself like that? Quit having sex with this guy. Tell him you like him, more than just friends, but you don't want to be in a purely sexual relationship.
2007-12-17 16:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by Scooter_The_Squirrels_Wifey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes....men think with their penis. He is probably using you to get to your friend or until your friend gets rid of her boyfriend. If a boy can get sex easily, that is what they will do. Tell him how you are feeling before you get more attached, so you will at least know which direction the relationship is going---if it is going at all.
2007-12-17 16:31:46 · answer #4 · answered by jjmoose2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously using you as a tool. I suggest you stop and ask yourself : ''Do I want to be a sex robot''? Sorry for being so radical, but this case is pretty obvious. If you like having sex with him you don't have to say anything, and you can still do it every other day, but if you don't want to be a sex robot, then you should just blow him off
2007-12-17 16:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by Aca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't want to scare him off by telling him you like him? Hun, he just wants sex. you need some serious self confidence if you are scared to tell a guy your sleeping with that you like him. i was raised in a world that you love someone before you give it up. (guess I'm old fashioned).
i really hope you decide you deserve someone better that likes you for you not what you can give him.
2007-12-17 16:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by starsdelite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He dont seem worth it to me! If every time you meet you have sex or watever and you do not talk about your feelings to him and you do not get together then your making it so much harder for yourself. I would talk to him about it first and if he shrugs or doesnt give you a proper reason or makes you feel hurt in someway then he is not worth it and just dont have sex with him. He should want to be with you!
2007-12-17 16:32:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. Tell him you like him and if he runs away then you have the answer to your question and you can then move on to someone else. Unless you like to be used, then in that case, just sleep with him without ever knowing for sure.
2007-12-17 16:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by Dude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you having sex with this kid BEFORE you have feelings for each other?! You've got this all backwards!!!
And yes, he wants to see you Wed for more cheap, meaningless sex! He's going to bang you and wish he was with your friend.
Don't give a guy what he wants until you get what you want! What him to like you? Then be sweet, funny, charming and HARD to CATCH!
Jeesh! Girls these days
2007-12-17 16:30:29 · answer #9 · answered by Itsa Secret 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
KK, can i ask you how old you are? anyway i think that u shuld tell him!! hello it sounds like ur just a persom that he gets ALL of his feelings out with!! i mean he is practically USING you!! Plus i think thta u shouldn't have sex until ur married. i ain't judging u but seriously i think u should tell him! and i fu don't wanna tell him... then stop having sex, please even though i don't know you u seem like a really nice person and shouldn't waste yourself on him. whatever you do just stop having SEX!!!!
2007-12-17 16:32:43 · answer #10 · answered by hope n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋