Yesterday, I ran into an old friend who recently turned 40 and he had a 23-year-old girlfriend with him. Of course, this sounds like a classic case of "midlife crisis", but I've seen plenty of guys like him. I've seen some men in their 40s cheat on very attractive wives with less attractive girls who are young enough to be their daughters. What could these girls possibly have to offer these men besides sex and an ego boost?
2007-12-17 08:19:05 · 28 answers · asked by tangerine 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on the relationship. I know someone who is about 21 and with someone about 48. His daughter is OLDER then her. He looks very young though! She thought he was near her age when she met him. She is very beautiful. Like she is a model and stripper and fitness instructor. The guy she is with isn't even rich. They are just in love. She just had a kid with him. Thats just a little look from the other side of the spectrum. Age is only a number. The way I look at it, as long as the people in it are over 18 it is their choice.
2007-12-17 08:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by In hiding 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Gosh, I'm surprised that people are so judgemental of age. Haven't we grown out of this? Remember when you were in middle school and you thought that if you were an 8th grade girl that if you dated a 6th grade boy you were weird? Remember when you were in High School and you thought that someone who was 18 was freakish if they were dating a 15 year old? Well, age isn't all that is important in a relationship. If you are going to call the guy that you ran into a "friend", shouldn't you trust that he has enough judgement to be in a relationship that's actually based on some substance? A 23 year old girl can offer optimism, a different point of view, and yes, a hot body. Perhaps she is educated, classy, fun, less bitter and less judgemental than his 40-something female friends. To categorize "all guys" who do something for very different reasons than each other is basically giving other people the right to make false assumptions about the ill-intentions of your own actions. To open your mind and ponder, "hmmm, they are both humans and isn't it nice that they enjoy each other" is to be happy for them instead of being grossed out by the affection that perhaps you're pissed off that you can't experience anymore. Really, we all want to be with someone who is attractive to us. Is it fair for you to assume he's just seeking easy tail just because the lady he is with is attractive and young? Did you have anything at all to offer anyone when you were 23 or was your head just a bag of air then? Hope this helps.
2007-12-17 09:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by baklavakay 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I have yet to come across a woman in her early 20's as mature and cultivated. I'm not saying it isn't possible, just highly unlikely. I view them as fun to look at, maybe enjoyable in my bed over the weekend, but not something I would want long term. A woman in her early 20's really still hasn't been "out in the world" much. College is quite a huge shelter from the reality of life. It wasn't until I was working a few years when I suddenly asked myself...Really?...the answered, yes...Really!
2016-04-10 04:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its all about sex and ego boost. Some genuinely do love their partner. It depends on if he had a motive when he meets these younger women or if it just happened. Myself wouldn't want someone that young but there are plenty of older women getting in on the act, maybe these wives should too!
2007-12-18 07:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by MaryBlue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ego boost is a big part of it.
The same reason previously fat guys find the skinniest girl they can, even if she's dirty.
The 20 yr old also offers a less used body which 'pushes back' a bit more.
She's also not aware that the guy has been using the same moves in bed for 25 yrs. To her its new, and thus further ego boost! His wife is probably bored out of her mind anyway--with any luck he'll learn something to try out at home.
2007-12-17 08:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by Showtunes 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sex and an ego boost are pretty popular reasons for a lot of guys. These guys might feel more appreciated by a younger woman instead of their wife who just complains and nags all the time. And they might be trying to recapture their youth- mid-life crisis, as you said.
Younger women are often less jaded, have more energy, more enthusiasm, etc. They haven't been hardened by the world so much.
They are like the women that the guys married before they changed. They are fun and happy and not so negative and critical. They have a zest for life that many middle-aged women used to have but now lack.
You asked, so that's what I think.
Best wishes.
2007-12-17 08:28:22 · answer #6 · answered by Ron L 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
simplicity of life. I hate to say it as I am 32 and just broke up with my 19 year old girlfriend but I like a simple relationship and that was what she offered. Now do not let that fool you dating someone tha young is hard as they are in a different world than we are but overall I know as long as I sexually keep her happy and make her smile my life is simple. I am not concerned with a clock ticking or a previous divorce or 9 kids running around. Tell me in a straight face you are less complicated now than when you were 20? That is your answer......
2007-12-17 08:30:20 · answer #7 · answered by belbiv1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
EGO BOOST ONLY and some lucky man gets his sexxy wife .
No offense to all the young woman on here but i think ladies in there 40's-50's are the best.
i am 52
2007-12-17 08:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by teeman824 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Those two things. But when I turn 40 and find a 20 year old interested in me....I'll be there in a heart beat, with my Viagra.
2007-12-17 08:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
They just miss being young that's all. Plus the sex is good with younger girls but there's not much to talk about.
2007-12-17 08:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋