My husband and I just got pregnant with our second child. It's a girl!! But our daughter Morgan who is 5 years old does not want a little sister. I know that wether she wants one or not she's coming but what can we do to make her feel more comfortable about the baby coming?
2007-12-17 08:15:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
A lot of hospitals offer "Older Sibling" classes which are really great for little kids. The kids get to practice putting on diapers and feeding baby dolls. They talk about how they feel about getting a new sibling and they're given a little diploma at the end of it. Most of the times it's free or costs like $15. I'd call and check into one of those. It might help her to meet other kids who are expecting younger siblings and it may help her feel important.
Be sure to give her plenty of attention and tell her how important she will be in the babies life. Get her to help you with decorating the nursery, picking out baby clothes etc. Tell her that she was such a wonderful baby and you and daddy had so much fun with her that you want to do it again! And that it will be even better because now you have her to help.
She'll come around. Just make sure she knows it won't change how you feel about her and get her involved and before you know it she'll be excited.
2007-12-17 12:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk with her and find out why. Especially at that age she probably has friends who has a little sister or brother who is telling her horror stories of how miserable the baby makes life. LOL lord knows baby's scream and puke and make life even worse when they start crawling! She probably has no idea about all the fun and exciting things that come with a baby.
Involve her in whats going on. Let her help decide on outfits, bedding etc. Have her come with you to ultrasound(if you get another one) and when the little imp is kicking ask her if she wants to feel the baby kick.
She'll come around as long as you help her see how this will benefit her. Unfortunately children are very self orientated and just don't get how great siblings can be.
2007-12-17 08:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by starfire978 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't calm her fears until you know what she's afraid of. Talk to her, find out what she is afraid of. Or, she might just be a normal kid who will change her mind 30 times between now and when the new baby is born. She will get over it.
During your pregnancy, try to focus on the fact that she will be a big sister, which is an important job, and that she's going to have a lot of fun playing with the new baby. Stress the fact that you have enough love in your heart for her and her new sister, and that a bigger family means more love for her, so that she feels secure.
Good luck.
2007-12-17 08:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing when I was pregnant with my second. My daughter was 3 years old when she found out the mommy was having a boy baby instead of the girl baby that she wanted oh so badly. At the ultra sound she came with us and was so mad when they said it was a boy she was crying and screaming she had to be taken out of the room because she was so mad. She didn't want anything to do with my belly or the baby for about 6 weeks after that. She said that she wanted to give him back and get a girl instead. She eventually warmed up to the fact that she was going to have a brother and now she loves him more then anything and is always wanting to play with him and be around him and was a HUGE help (and still is) when he was born.
All I did was talk to her about it constantly, telling her that having a brother would be ok he would play with her the same as a sister and that he will be a lot of fun to be with. I also let her help me get his room and clothes together. We went shopping and she got to pick out a special outfit and toy for brother and then she was ok with it. Just give it time and do a lot of comforting talk and get her involved.
Good luck to you and your family and I wish you the best!!!
2007-12-17 08:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by PG with #3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her involved in this pregnancy as much as you can without having to tell her things you feel she's too young to understand. When you go to the doc next time, take her along, especially if they are gonna do another ultrasound. Let her feel your tummy when the baby is moving, anything that will make her feel included. Get to the root of her fears. One of her friend's moms could have had some major problems with childbirth. Most of the time the fear and/or resentment one child feels toward another is cause they are scared of losing some of their parents attention and love. Including her as much as possible now will let her understand that it won't change once the baby is born. When it is, continue to include her, even if it doesn't have anything to do with the baby. Just asking her opinion on what to have for dinner will help her to feel important to you. Congrats on the new baby and good luck!
2007-12-17 08:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by luvingnanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a great number of books you can buy that strategically introduce the concept of two children. They teach how it's okay, even better, to have a sibling, and how mommy and daddy will love them both the same. If you can't get any books or anything.. Try just talking to her. Hugging her and letting her know that you'll love her the same, and let her know of all the fun things she can do with a little sister!
Cheers
2007-12-17 08:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah P 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why not tell her she will be mommy's little helper. Go out and by her a baby doll set and teach her how to care for her own baby. They know have everything for the dolls, crib stroller, carrier. Have fun with it. good luck!
2007-12-17 08:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by Andrea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you don't fixate on just the baby's needs. Give her plenty of time with just you and her too
2007-12-17 08:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will be fine
2007-12-17 08:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by reds_424 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋