Do you look down on women who are over 40 and still single?

Question

This may seem like a strange question to post, but there's a reason why I'm posting it. I'm 33 now, and although I have several years to go before I hit the Big Four-O, I somehow doubt that I will ever marry. I lived with a guy for 3 1/2 years, but we broke up 2 years ago, because I wasn't happy in the relationship. I'm a very choosy person, and although some people may suggest that I should change my expectations, I refuse to do so, and it is for this reason that I expect to remain single my entire life. I want your personal opinion, though. Do you personally tend to look down on women who are over 40 and still single?

Answer 1

It's your life, live it how you chose without trying to live up to the standards of society. Some things in life come to people later than others, and that person shouldn't be looked down upon. Don't lower your standards for anyone (unless they are impossible to live by, like he has to be 6'3 or he has to be from a certain background, you might miss an oppurtunity for love just because that person doesn't fit your standards), I never did and would have stayed a single virgin until my 40s until I found a person who deserved and satisfied me. Fortunately I found a person who exceeded my standards, a person who was my best friend for about a year...everyone's time will come, just live life and let things come to you, but don't be afraid to be in the right place (like nice social events where you can meet people with like interests; charitys, church, cooking classes) to meet that person.

Answer 2

I didn't get married until I was 38.

I don't look down on women who are over 40 and single. Men probably prefer such women over the divorced women with kids who make up the majority of the dating population over your age. No baggage- no ex. No kids. No complications.

Anyway, it doesn't really matter what the rest of the world thinks. It matters what you think about yourself. You are probably just smarter than many other people who rush into bad marriages when young and then end up divorced.

Every relationship has problems. It's how you deal with the problems that counts. No relationship is going to be perfect. Mine certainly isn't.

Relax. Lots of women aren't married at 33 and later find someone to be happy with. You might have better luck now that you will be dating older men who are more mature and more experienced than younger guys.

Best wishes.

Answer 3

I don't think this is a strange question to post at all. Because I often wonder how I would feel 10 years down the line after having relationships come and go from my life.

I had a very interesting conversation with an older lady - about in her fifties; I asked her if she would ever get married again after being married for 22 years. She explained to me that she was very happy and is enjoying her life with peace of mind, stability she has provided for herself, and the great relationships she has with her children.

I think there isn't anybody in this whole world that can give you all the happiness and love that you deserve but yourself. It isn't worth sacrificing YOUR life to have a so called "status". On the journey you can learn so much about yourself and others.
I will tell you - Its a shame to see a forty year old at night clubs with worn down F-Me pumps and small dress on the prowl! I look forward to the day that I am confident in myself and will let a man go if he isn't everything that I deserve.

Enjoy yourself, life and all of its offerings.

cheers to girl power!

Answer 4

No you at the instant are not bizarre.That first answer you gained isn't actual.At that age a woman is often searching for a severe relationship.one that incorporates being along with her and easily her.possibly a relatives.in case you're advantageous being unmarried,stay that way until you're arranged to make that variety of dedication.Now in case you're conversing approximately young women human beings,this is a distinctive tale.they might want a magnificent time vs settling down.Or a sugar daddy,or possibly somebody they might have intercourse with specially situations.this is purely my opinion.you have been unmarried this long,while the splendid female comes alongside you would be attentive to it.

Answer 5

No. Why would I? I'm nearly 40 and divorced. It's better to be single than in a relationship that doesn't make you happy. Society puts far too much import on the "perfect relationship," especially if you're a woman, and not enough on self-actualization.

If you're happy being single, why do you care if anyone else looks down on you. Ten to one, those who would are miserable with their choices and envy you.

Answer 6

No, I think people shouldn't define themselves by being married and having children, that's not the only thing that makes you a whole person.

I'm 33 also and I'm married and have a young daughter and I have friends my age who are still single and aren't even remotely interested in being married.

Live your life the way you want and enjoy it.

Answer 7

Only if theyre the unhappy ones that run around complaining about being single and desperately trying to get anyone to take them out for a night.

Ive known many that were great. Its likely people just dont realize their single unless they know them socially rather than just professionally.

Answer 8

Yes, I tend to think something is wrong with them. Like one of my teachers was 40, still single, and was a complete psycho... but of course, since that scared me, so I'm probably biased.

Answer 9

not really. I think that women like that just have different priorities. Not everyone settles down and has a family.

Answer 10

Its not look down..Its more "feel bad" that they are without someone to love and be loved.