I think im in love......but i dont know. It depends on what love is. There is this boy who i really want to be with and not for one minute can I keep him off my mind. We always talk on the phone and flirt like crazy. But the thing is, I asked myself if he was not the cutest boy ever and looked like crap would I still like him. The answer was no. But, this boy is one of the sweetest most soft boys I have ever met. He has both looks and personality.....but I wonder......Do I love him?
2007-12-17 08:08:28 · 60 answers · asked by hotmama928 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe you do and maybe you don't.
If a truck ran him over and crippled him for life, would you still want to be with him? How about if his face was permanently disfigured?
If you can't answer yes then it's probably not love.
2007-12-17 08:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by D J 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Lust, Love then Loyality
Thats the fact of the matter.
Its a total chemical thing, it doesn't have to make sense.
I have always held to the reality, I would never "date it" unless I would "mate it". So that make the "dating pool" a little smaller in my world. I always KNEW "who" I wanted to marry. "what kind of man" So I didn't waste my time with losers, posers and if my little "gut" feeling said "NO" then I went the other way. The "dream man" at age 13 became my reality in my 30's and a lot of frogs were kissed along the way. So be honest with yourself first and everything else will be a life lesson or mistake that will make you a better person.
Worked well for me. Married 10 years, have a 3 yearold son, I don't just consider a man a "date" I look at what we both bring to the table and if we will be a "power couple" and have strength enough to stand alone if something should happen to the other one. We are a "union" and are devoted to one another. It takes hard work and worth every moment of the investment.
Here is some relief!
In Junior High and High School your hormones are just "FREAKED OUT" so you find yourself attrached to different people for different reasons. Not logical. Its again a chemical thing. Unless you can logically make sense of your actions then, don't waste your time. Seriously, I know it sounds mean and harsh.
Yet your young and boys want in your pants. That's it. Tell me it ain't true? So until you know how to deal with your own emotions, keep those legs closed and your mind on college. Boys will eventually turn into men and that will be worth your time. Until such time. Keep your up with your studies. enjoy your innocent life ( when its gone, that's forever) and make friends, hobbies and be happy. Again. Sorry, kinda direct, YET again.... Tell me it isn't sound advise?
Best wishes.
I hope that helps. Love is not a "defined" item. YOU must decide exactly what each type of "love" means to you. If you are old enough to ask about it, you can define it for your age right now. Good luck!
2007-12-17 08:15:53 · answer #2 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like it. Love to people is a very tricky thing, what it does to us mentally. I was taught that love is never ending and that "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."
I look at love like this, You love your family right and you know what it feels like and understand what it is like to worry about someone and to care about them. Well take out the whole Sexuality part and attraction do you still feel like the foundation of what you have for this person would be the same with like your family member or some one very close?
2007-12-17 08:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same question before I got married, what is love? It took me a couple of weeks of serious thinking and of different scenarious ie; love of friends, family, neighbors, girl friends. Love is deep and complex, but it all came down to this, I am in Love regardless of the situation when I feel at home with that person, totally safe, secure, and unconditionally loved. Looks may get our attention, personality may keep us going, but love is so much more. It's deep but so easy too.
2007-12-17 08:34:09 · answer #4 · answered by fcb_writer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're in love. You'd just know it when it happens. I think you just like him/are attracted to him/have a crush. The butterflies in the stomach feeling is what everyone feels when they're crushing on somebody. And flirting doesn't equal love. So I'd say you two definitely like each other.
As for a definition on love, here's a great quote.
“Love is the visible proof of all men and women’s deep, overwhelming need for total acceptance by at least one other person besides their makers –” –Linda Goodman
2007-12-17 08:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by sonrisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. You are infatuated, it may develop into love eventually. It's okay to feel the way you do, and there will no doubt be other guys you feel much the same about before you find the one you fall in love with. Experiencing different kinds of feelings with different people will help you find out what real love is, so that you know it when you find it.
2007-12-17 08:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just know when you love someone, however, a lot of people confuse lust with love, and infatuation. When you first start dating a person and you are still in the honeymoon phase of the relationship you may feel like you are in love. It may be that you are REALLY liking this person or it could be that you ARE falling in love. Wait for the honeymoon phase to be over, if you feel the same way then you will know!!
Good luck!!!!!!
2007-12-17 08:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
love / verb, loved, lov·ing.
–noun 1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person
the question is. would you die for him?
could you not talk to him for a week with out wanting to kill yourself? how far would you go for him? what would you give up to be with him?
write down a least 10 things that you LOVE about him. if you cant think of 10. its not love. if you can think of 400 things, then maybe.
DONT RUSH.
if its love its love.
2007-12-17 08:15:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie of course you have to like his looks. Nobody ever comes up to you and says "hey I've noticed you have a great personality"
Looks is what attracts you at first, eventually you'll either fall in love with him as a person or you won't.
My husband is smoking hot and I probably would have never talked to him if he wasn't! Guys don't try to pick you up because they think you're nice!
So stop over analyzing things and enjoy your relationship! ~V.
2007-12-17 08:13:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think love is when you are most happy around someone to the point where you could just start hugging people because an inner peace collides with happiness from outside yourself.
Anyways, you will know if you love him if you are happy around him a lot and have many similiarities.(Also if you start dreaming about you two living together or something then that also hints love)
2007-12-17 08:14:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Right now it sounds like a crush. If you still feel this way in 3 months then I would call it love. Enjoy it while it lasts!
2007-12-17 08:12:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋