How can i be more confident???????

Question

I know i can do things....if only i cud be more confident.if only i can get that doubt out of ma mind..it just wont go.What do i do?
Can someone please help me?????

I'm a 16 yr old suffering from all the regular 'teenager problems'..but my biggest problem is lack of confidence. i can't get that doubt out of ma mind.i feel so stupid when i'm in front of talented people..i'm always afraid i'll make a fool out of myself.
Can someone please help me?????

i really do need some help..

Answer 1

Hi,

I suffer from the same thing, I can understand how you feel.

1)To be more confident you must not be afraid to make a fool out of yourself.
2) You shouldn't care what other people think about you.
3) Other people suffer from the same problem, but just hide it by acting confident.
4) Do things that you are afraid of doing, it builds confidence.
5) Be optimistic. Hope for the best and prepare for the worst.
6) Be yourself, don't be embarassed about who you are, be proud of who you are, no one else can be you, you are unique. God created you as a unique human being, you have everything you need inside you, you have all the confidence you need, just believe in yourself.

Remember, no one is perfect, everybody has good points and bad points.

Focus on your good points, and focus on other peoples bad points, it may also help.

Have fun.

Suky.

Answer 2

Every one has talents,every one is unique,nobody is here to become like somebody out there,that would be wasting our time and creating problem for everybody!

Know thyself is the first layer of the foundation to build confidence, the uniqueness of yours which nobody else in this world has it and to know,develop and be practising it alone we have come here as it is needed for this world(otherwise we would not have born at all, God is not a fool to send people for nothing!!) Find out what is that special in you,calmly and within yourself by going through all the experiences of your life so far without putting any value judgement to leave out any and see in which of them you felt elated,relaxed,feeling good with everything at that moment, a top of the world feeling; that is you.

After knowing what is your niche, the second layer in the foundation of confidence is developing that plus point of yours including taking courses on it (real education is that only: to develop what you truly are!),get the support/carry your people to that.

Third, be that, start practising that,make that your job and what is even more better is to put that uniqueness of yours to the good of others without bothering about the good of you with it and then see the miracle happening:you will be taken care well too!

To be what you truly are is the best way of gaining confidence and only that can give you easy expression.

Answer 3

Surround yourself with people that make you feel good and are encouraging and don't be afraid to try new things. Start with baby steps. If you think you can run a marathon, start buy walking a few miles. If you think you can run a restaurant, have a few dinner parties for friends to get the hang of things. Finally, accept that you might think you can be good at certain things but maybe you aren't and that doesn't make you a failure, just means it isn't your niche....

Hope this helps!

Answer 4

Confident is something that no 1 in this entire world can help u with this kind of problem see i no that i am bad in english but still i am writing coz i have to give a answer to u coz i like to give suggetions or in other words i love to make concepts..i was also like u feeling shy among girls even today i can nt go infort of girl and say to even she look at me or smile i no it that she is approcing me but due to lack of this confidence i missed so many angels ha ha ha....but now i am full of confidence that's why i am replying u ..i was nt able to frame out a single sentence in english but today i am working with bpo i did't done any english cource i have'nt read any magzine or any newspaper but i no i need clases to polish my english ..........and suggestion for u is start loving urself talk to urself infront of mirror...feel that u r the only beautifull among ur friends or ur surroundings the cloths u r wearing r the best cloths....try to wear branded ha ha...see that will work or find a patner for urself..the best thing that can build up a confidence STRT TALKING TO URSELF.....how u find my suggestion plz let me no or u can call me on 09873035608.bunty bajaj

Answer 5

Confidence is a big problem that affects lots of people.

A really close friend of mine has confidence problems, what i usually suggest to them is positive thinking.

Get used to looking at yourself in the mirror, every night every morning, look at yourself, get to know all of your features, how you look when you do certain things.

Talk to yourself in the mirror, out loud say, come on you know you can do it (what ever it is you want to do)
And say it three times, every evening and every morning, keep doing it.

Do it until it feels really silly.

Do it until you start laughing at yourself, when you realise, what am i doing looking in the mirror and talking to myself like this for. Using that attitude, you can then find your confidence.

It is at least a practical thing that you can do, before having to spend lots of money on a shrink, who will really just tell you what you know in your heart already.

Deep down you will know why you lack confidence, you just need to tell someone about it, and who better to start with than yourself!!

Good luck with it!

Answer 6

Want to be confident? Then all you have to do is face your fear(God is with you) and believe in yourself. Thinking negative will get you nowhere. If you are positive then you are a very confident person. Think' YES I CAN DO IT AND I WILL DO IT!' and believe that God will definitely be there with you so be sure that you will not make a fool of yourself.

Answer 7

Your problem comes under social phobea, either you go to a psychiatrist, have some meds and become alright or you again and again go to the idiots [talented in your word], who do not stand before your highly charged talented personality with the determination-"i will do it" and you WILL DO IT.

Answer 8

lack of confidence comes from fear, sweetie. i had similar problems and my lack of confidence really caused bad things to happen for me in my life (including being abused by my spouse). i went to a psychologist (thank God my job's health insurance covered my visits for free-you should look into that if you can). this psychologist coached me and made me realize the root cause of my fears, which caused me to lack confidence. the good news is you can get help. you are not abnormal. there is nothing to fear, you can do ANYTHING! i know you can!!!!

Answer 9

You always think that you are not less than anybody, you can face any problem successfully, you are very confident, be always positve thinker, be optimistic in your life, with this you will gain your confidence.

Answer 10

u already have confidence that u can do things , the thing u want to know is that (u must believe on ur self more) and then u can be most confidence enough & all the best .........